Why do we judge others by their looks/appearance?

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Believe

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Posted: 12 years ago

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When you judge,ur judgement shows something about you, nothing about the person you have judged...interpretation will be your interpretation...everybody can judge the act but cannot judge the being...its bit long process, it take time...😊

Only God can Judge Me!...and some family, a few friends, the neighbors, definitely a couple co-workers ,IF's strangers And all my Facebook friends...😛😆

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-Aarya-

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Posted: 12 years ago

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And what is the difference between judging someone by their looks vs first impressions?

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-victoRiya-

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Posted: 12 years ago

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Originally posted by: -Aarya-
And what is the difference between judging someone by their looks vs first impressions?

First impression may be caused by looks among other things such as carriage, manners, behaviour etc. Also judging a person based on looks can take place beyond first meeting/impression.

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-Aarya-

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Posted: 12 years ago

#14

Originally posted by: Riyasi

First impression may be caused by looks among other things such as carriage, manners, behaviour etc. Also judging a person based on looks can take place beyond first meeting/impression.

Maybe the TM can clarify further but I believe with the example given

"Why do we assume that someone may be a crminal just because they "look like a criminal"?"

where we are assuming the person is a criminal just by looking at them and so I questioned how different is this from first impression which all drills down to passing judgements. So when a man is looking at a woman or a woman is looking at a man for the first time, what are some of the thoughts going through their head...

Edited by -Aarya- - 12 years ago

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Kankshita

@thegameison

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Posted: 12 years ago

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Originally posted by: Miss Cherie

@bold- True!😆

Forming an opinion of someone's character just based on their looks is so unfair to the person who is being judged. Imagine not saying a word, while a stranger makes an assumption that you're probably a criminal just because you "look like one". Quite unjust.

Why do we always automatically assume that a person is "good" if they are easy on the eyes?

Easy on eyes is a hopeful concept while look like one is a tendency. If you cannot explain it, why do you think I can? The point really is we know the difference, even if theoretically between face and character. The best we can do is, push our luck and befriend the guy who looks like a criminal because he might not be one, after all. If he is, well, we'll make a run for it. 🤓

Edited by epiphany. - 12 years ago

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Krani

@Krani

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Posted: 12 years ago

#16

It's impossible to not form an opinion based on looks. You see a hot person walking down the street, you're gonna check them out.

You see a hot guy approaching you, you will naturally be more flirty (or a hot girl for others)

But I don't think looks should be the only thing you should base your judgement around.

Personality comes into play as well - however you only find out somebody's personality after you get to know them a bit more.

Nobody walks into a room, holding a board saying "I've got a great personality" or "I've got a shit personality"

So the only thing your brain can do when they see a stranger, is judge them based on their appearance, and then judge them on their personality.

For me personality overrides looks :) I've come across guys whom I thought were really hot, but had the worst personality, and that turned me off.

I've also come across guys with good personalities, and that has slowly made me like them :)

PS: Beauty is highly subjective. Speaking from personal experience :) The guys I find good looking, my friend does not find them good-looking at all.

The guys she finds hot, or good-looking, are the guys I won't give a second glance to.

So it's very subjective :)

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836772

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Posted: 12 years ago

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Originally posted by: -Aarya-

Maybe the TM can clarify further but I believe with the example given

"Why do we assume that someone may be a crminal just because they "look like a criminal"?"

where we are assuming the person is a criminal just by looking at them and so I questioned how different is this from first impression which all drills down to passing judgements. So when a man is looking at a woman or a woman is looking at a man for the first time, what are some of the thoughts going through their head...

Well, judging someone based on looks can go beyond the first impression. First impressions may be caused by looks, behaviour, mannerisms, how they interact with others, how amiable they are. If one is making such a strong judgement as the example, then I guess there really is no difference between first impression and judging someone by their appearance. Unless they see that person again, their judgement of that person will remain intact. But if they meet that person again, and interact with him/her then their perception of that person may change.

Usually when a man meets a woman for the first time or vice versa, they are probably judging how good looking the person is. Sad but true.

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boreddamsel

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Posted: 12 years ago

#18

Cherie... love.. 🤗 res..

unres.

Looks aren't important, yes.. but the fact that you might be overweight or dark or short or scrawny or muscular or handsome/gorgeous or fair or tall might actually influence the person's character, in some way. So I think you should take looks into account for sure, especially in case of relationships! Someone could be insecure or conceited about their appearance and that could definitely cause issues in your relationship!

On the other hand, I think you make a decision about someone when you first meet them based on some attribute .. their appearance is what you first see about them, even before you interact with them! But once you interact with them .. you might realize you were wrong or that you were absolutely right about the decision.

I mean isn't it how we make decisions everyday? You make a decision based on what you are given, be it ordering a dress from a catalogue, a dish from the menu card .. all these decisions you make based on what you have, without actually using the item if it makes sense!

So similarly our first impression might be based on appearance.. because that's all we have to judge them.

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Forever-KA

@Forever-KA

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Posted: 12 years ago

#19

Originally posted by: Miss Cherie
I am ok with your response.😊
So I guess you mean that it is normal to like a person because they are good looking and dislike someone because they are not. Isn't this a little shallow?😆 I understand liking someone because they are easy on the eyes. But why dislike someone because they are ugly whic is no fault of theirs?😕 Yes, it is absolutely not OK to tell someone that they are ugly.😆

@bold- Ditto! That is definately not the right thing to do, and it is not fair on the person who is being judged.

good. lol. shallow yes, wrong no. the reason is one cannot force anyone to like or dislike others.

having said that usually likeness is based on many things. lets come up with an equation

Likeness= Looks (squared) + Hot Bod (squared) + Cash in bank + Job + Singing ability + Relationship status + Shaking ability - body weight in pounds

my mind is clear. i dont comment on looks only because i dont like to judge someone on something on which they do not have control of.

btw: are you same miss cherie that was on bigboss forum?

Edited by King-Anu - 12 years ago

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boreddamsel

@boreddamsel

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Posted: 12 years ago

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Originally posted by: -Aarya-
And what is the difference between judging someone by their looks vs first impressions?

Exactly. I don't think there is any difference.

I think the very first impression you have about someone is based on looks, but the moment you start interacting with them, your impression about them might change .. to either good or bad.

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