Why do we judge others by their looks/appearance?

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@-Aarya-

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Posted: 12 years ago

#41

Originally posted by: Krani

By judgments do you mean negative ones? I think regardless of what we are taught of as a child, to say that we would never form a negative judgment on someone based upon their looks would be being naive, because that's human nature - to judge others looks..pretty much everything the other person does.

Exactly, you look at the similarities, differences, etc etc and form an opinion on that person.
I am sorry, I am confused, what was the main contention of your argument? Are you saying that it's impossible not to judge someone based on their experience, or saying that it's...?

~K

I don't believe all judgement are negative, and it's impossible not to pass any judgement because it's part our beliefs, part of who we are, as humans :)

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Krani

@Krani

Dazzler

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Posted: 12 years ago

#42

Originally posted by: -Aarya-

I don't believe all judgement are negative, and it's impossible not to pass any judgement because it's part our beliefs, part of who we are, as humans :)

And I believe in the same :)

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Risha

@LivingInPajamas

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Posted: 12 years ago

#43

Honestly, I think that judging someone by looks is somehow ingrained in our mindset. I remember this class discussion we had in an English class where we were supposed to be debating on would we rather be "witty" than "pretty"?

Many of us thought that it was shallow to be judging someone on how they look like. It is our genes that determine the way you look, you cannot change the way your nose is or anything[Unless its plastic surgery 😆]

But if I was to be honest, we all do it. I am sixteen and thus high school is that very place where looks matter ALOT. A hot or cute guy will have so many girls after him, regardless of how he behaves. Similar for a girl. I have heard blatant judgements from people who don't even KNOW the person they are talking about. "God she is so weird. She is so ugly." Is very common. I wouldn't say I personally care about looks very much now but when I was 13, I remember not liking the way I looked. I am blessed[if you can say that] with buck teeth and bushy ,frizzy hair and to top it all the stereotype of being the "nerd". I do have many friends, did have them before but I remember I once felt very bad when a girl indirectly told me that I "looked" like a nerd whereas my best friend[a topper too] didn't. It stayed in my mind and I got irritated because I couldn't have the kind of straight hair the next person did.

Now it seems really silly to me. I have learned to like the way I look[Braces did help though ;)] I am still not the "hot" girl everyone will crush on but I have been told that I have beautiful eyes and nose, so I am perfectly happy with it 😆 Also, I try NOT to judge a person by looks until they look shabby or untidy. Yes, we all will continue to pass judgements on people, but that does not mean that we cannot be beautiful in our very own way. There are a lot of people who like a person for their personality and this is rather kiddish to believe in but I do it all the same -

Quoting Roald Dahl:

Edited by Amethyst. - 12 years ago

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Hibernated

Posted: 12 years ago

#44

Its because the first impression decides a lot about a person. and the first impression cannot be of character, maximum how well the other person talks but even before going to talking level, you first need to see someone.

So our eyes, which see someone /something gives the first judgement. hence looks are given so much importance. I mean why else would you wear a clean, ironed shirt/suit to a job interview instead of your everyday jeans and crumpled T?

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Posted: 12 years ago

#45

Originally posted by: Amethyst.
Quoting Roald Dahl:

I believe in this too. If you are good, if you have good pure thoughts, a good heart, it will come out. It does not mean you will turn into a bombshell or hot guy, but people will know, you will have a pleasant appearance . I don't know how to describe it aura, nature. but its true. I have seen people look different when they are angry, under stress, hating someone and when they are peaceful, contended, having good thoughts.