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shalini1323

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Posted: 12 years ago

Have you guys ever ended a friendship? Why?

Managed to forget "these old friends"?

Was it for the better or do you wish it hadn't ended?

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Posted: 12 years ago

No, fortunately i have been lucky where i have never exactly ended a friendship on a bitter note. There are friends, who have moved out because of one reason or another, and i have nostalgic memories sometimes, however life is all about change isn't it? Talking about life, i haven't been lucky in many things, but one thing life has given me are good friends. I have met some amazingly nice people in my life and when life has been a bitch it is because of those people, i still live.

Sounds, like you have ended a friendship with someone close? Let me just tell you, some people change and if things have ended, it is normally for the best. Friends, you make yourself, and you will make friends in every walk of your life.. If some have left you today, doesn't mean there isn't one that will walk by your side tomorrow. It is better to end friendship with people, who don't value you, love you. Talking about love itself, i have ended relationship with guys in past, and most of them was not because of lack of love, but lack of friendship. You need to connect to someone on emotional level and not just physical.

Anyways, here is my best quote on friendship :).

"Don't walk behind me; I may not lead. Don't walk in front of me; I may not follow. Just walk beside me and be my friend." Albert Camus.

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Kankshita

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Posted: 12 years ago

As a matter of fact, I have had to end friendships through the course of which I realized that one does not have to actually end it. The friendship ends itself eventually with an irregular pace for you. Equations change so it nearly never hurts as much as one would have expected earlier.

I did not manage to forget those old friends but it does not matter much now because the ache lessened and I effectively decided to bury the past in the corner of my memory and move ahead with my present attachments.

Yes, it was very much for the better. I can totally feel how much breaking ties with certain friends was essential for me to have a clear vision, which I believe is all I need to live slightly peacefully.

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668837

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Posted: 12 years ago

I've got an amazing set of buddies right now. Around three years ago, I did out an end to a friendship cuz I didn't seem to have any other option. My friend was going the wrong way. I tried my level best to bring her back on track. I advised her heaps but things just didn't seem to get fine. She wasnt the person whom I had liked, so I put an end to it. And after seeing her today, I don't really regret it either.

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Pruthvi Nath

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Posted: 12 years ago

Well..Twice.. I had to break once and I was broke the other time.. I was able to forget whom i avoided but the one who avoided me..I just cudnt move on.. I stil regret.. Just startin to feel life is rude sometimes.. What make me feel iz my friend listned to someones words rather than trustin me.. Quite annoyin..

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Forever-KA

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Posted: 12 years ago

There are two ways to end friendships.

1- One is to fight/disagree and then end friendship. I have never ended friendship by fighting, abusing, disagreeing, minding issues.

2- Other is to run away from it. Now I have ended many friendships by doing this. lol.

So answer is no and yes. lol

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.Iconoclast.

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Posted: 12 years ago

Yes. When someone's regressive thoughts got me. When I moved on and had nothing in common with someone. When the herd mentality of some suffocated me.

I don't regret it. It's all good.

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shalini1323

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Posted: 12 years ago

Hmm, thanks for the replies, guys !

Well, what do you do when friends just automatically don't keep in touch? Not like you fought or anything but citing reasons like "I've been really busy etc", or "wok has kept me soo busy" .. so much so that people do not make any attempt to keep in touch.. It's always YOU who asks them how they are, what they are up to... ur the one making an effort. Always.

The most logical thing - you look back and think if they are upset with you for some reason about anything, or if they are unhappy with you for some reason.

But if nothing as such has happened, what do you do then? Is it rational to be the only one making an attempt to make time/keep in touch ?Is it fair? Shouldn't friendship be a two-way thing ? Don't you deserve a bit more respect?

I understand everybody needs privacy and their time off but are we so busy in life that we fail to keep in touch with our close ones? And after a while the friendship just falls apart. Without a reason. Then, what?

When many months later you bump into them again, how do you react?

Edited by shalini1323 - 12 years ago

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McNinja

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Posted: 12 years ago

Originally posted by: shalini1323
Hmm, thanks for the replies, guys !

Well, what do you do when friends just automatically don't keep in touch? Not like you fought or anything but citing reasons like "I've been really busy etc", or "wok has kept me soo busy" .. so much so that people do not make any attempt to keep in touch.. It's always YOU who asks them how they are, what they are up to... ur the one making an effort. Always.

The most logical thing - you look back and think if they are upset with you for some reason about anything, or if they are unhappy with you for some reason.

But if nothing as such has happened, what do you do then? Is it rational to be the only one making an attempt to make time/keep in touch ?Is it fair? Shouldn't friendship be a two-way thing ? Don't you deserve a bit more respect?

I understand everybody needs privacy and their time off but are we so busy in life that we fail to keep in touch with our close ones? And after a while the friendship just falls apart. Without a reason. Then, what?

When many months later you bump into them again, how do you react?

The out of touch, MIA friend you described sounds like me...Maya is that you? 😆

From personal experience, I'm inclined to think its all in your head and you may be jumping to the wrong conclusion. You're better off just asking them directly if things really are amiss or not.

I've gone months without talking or seeing some of my closest ones and when we finally do catch up...it's business as usual. There is no sense of awkwardness or bitter feelings of who "tries" more.

It's not about how much you talk to or see each other, it's about knowing that if you call them 3 in the morning, in a panic..they'll answer regardless of how many of their texts your forgot about...Yeah I tend to forget about a lot of texts too 😆 I sound like a bad friend don't it, not the case though. And the ones who understand this are the only ones I worry about.

Here's a song that describes what I mean. take away message-it's not about how many times you see me walk the streets with my friend 😆

[YOUTUBE]http://youtube.com/watch?v=hXSZSAGZIGY[/YOUTUBE]

Edited by McNinja - 12 years ago