Homosexuality. - Page 6

Originally posted by: King-Anu

I would ask him or her to leave and live an independent life with that same-sex person.

The reason is that I do not like such relationships. Some of it is my brought up, some ot if is my culture, some of it is my religious beliefs, family vlaues but most of is the sight/thought of two people of same gender in a relationship. I do not find it appealing. You can lump all that into me being narrow minded. lol.

Lets see how many likes I get this time. lol.

Edit: Before I leave let me clarify that I will support financially and give him or her all the things she deserves in order to be successfull. I will also continue to love him or her. I am not a narrow minded in that regard. However seeing anyone in a same gender relationships, seeing two people of same gender holding hands etc is not what I will be able to see.

I understand that this is confusing as someone can say well you dont love enough to see his or her relatinship. My answer would be I am imperfect in that regard.

Originally posted by: Krani

Here is the thing.

A parent believes in Arranged Marriage, has had an arranged marriage and detests the idea of love marriage.

Their child falls in love with a person they cannot live without.

Should they be forced to give up that love and be with someone else?

Eventually it's the child that has to live with that person for the rest of their life.

Or we have a child whose passion is cooking, but the parents believe business is the only good field. Should the child be forced to give up their dreams and take down a path of business just because his/her parents deem that dream profession to be not worthy?

Or should the child be allowed to live their dream?

Yes, you may hurt your parents, but if I was a parent, I would understand that this is my child's life and they should be allowed to lead it the way they want to.

Originally posted by: -Aarya-

Why is the burden of happiness only on the parent's shoulder? Does the child bears no responsibility towards parents happiness? Why is that we always expect the parent to compromise with their beliefs?

Originally posted by: Krani

Of course, but when it comes to living your life - the first and foremost choice is with the person whose life it is.

If say it's a widowed parent who falls in love a second time and wants to marry that person. Should the child force the parent to live a life of loneliness and misery, or let the parent experience that second chance at love and happiness?

Here if a child condemned and forced their parent to be unhappy - i would look down at the child. If the child accepted what their parent chose for their own life, then what's wrong in that?

The same situation applies here.

If a child is gay, and is happy and in love with someone of the same sex, why should the parent force the child to give up the love because it threatens their beliefs and conservatism? Why should the parent not let the child live a life they want to lead?

Originally posted by: -Aarya-

It again comes down to what's more important to a person: children or beliefs?

And what happens when a child finds out that the parent is homosexual?

Originally posted by: boreddamsel

I think the question comes down to do what do you care more..

Happiness of your child/parent vs what your society thinks about you.

Beliefs are merely practices that you are brought up with, as imposed on you by your society. Principles and morals on the other hand are things you pick up on the way.

So if you care more about your child/parent, then you would not give a damn about what the society might think of you..

But parents who don't support their kids' love marriage or divorce or separation or profession is usually concerned about what society might think about them!

Originally posted by: anaidama

As her mother, I owe her that much.

Originally posted by: Krani

This is actually really true! In India, there is a greater fear of what others think as opposed to the West. In fact in a few psychological studies it has been found that in Asia, there has been a trait in people which is often to live for others...or in other words, I guess be more conscious of other people.

Whereas in the West, it's more about what you think for yourself, etc.

Which is why the question of how parents would react once their child is gay, intrigues me.

~K

Originally posted by: Krani

This is actually really true! In India, there is a greater fear of what others think as opposed to the West. In fact in a few psychological studies it has been found that in Asia, there has been a trait in people which is often to live for others...or in other words, I guess be more conscious of other people.

Whereas in the West, it's more about what you think for yourself, etc.

Which is why the question of how parents would react once their child is gay, intrigues me.

~K