Can infidelity ever be acceptable? - Page 7

Originally posted by: BirdieNumNum

sure, nothing bad is acceptable in utopia- not infiidelity, not lying, not stealing, not killing. In fact, these things will never happen in utopia.

for me, the more interesting question is whether it can ever be accepted, tolerated, or overlooked, considering the TOTALITY of a relationship. We can all agree it is unacceptable, but for me the more important question/ debate is what one do about it. In that regard, i feel it is silly to view any behavior in isolation (at least in the real world) or to make any issue a litmus test of a relationship. We'd all flunk one test or the other.

That said, i think people are pretty rational. If most people do not opt out of a relationship where there is infidelity, then perhaps they find some way to "accept" it. It does not have to be because someone is weak. Think of a a one-night half-drunk stand where the relationship is otherwise picture-perfect. Again, it's silly debating things if all we want to do is put a label on anything in isolation. There's no debate there. 😊

Originally posted by: _Angie_

Continuing in a relationship where one partner habitually cheats would certainly be a compromise!

Originally posted by: boreddamsel

I never understood the concept of an open marriage (and even wife swapping, threesomes, foursomes etc). Why stay married if you well aren't happy with that person!

Originally posted by: BirdieNumNum

but that's like asking why Bill Gates wants to make more money. 😆See, some people are never content. Maybe they are happy and are looking to be even happier? Personally i wouldnt know because the kind of bed i have accommodates only 2.😆

Originally posted by: King-Anu

Nope. Not acceptable under any circumstances.

If you are into poly, loly, holy or any other olygamy then feel free to practice it but dont come in a relationship with me. If you have and now you want to engage in these gammies then first leave and then pursue these options.

If there is one thing I hate then its insincerity.

Originally posted by: lonely0planet

i may appear to be stalking you now 😆.. hope you don't mind..

most of the people have same stance as yours.. but human instincts are similar to closest related primates chimps(female chimp have sex with all willing male chimps)..

physical features of humans also reflect multiple partners... if we compare monogamous species their organs are not that prominent.. hence science..

Now with time we have also evolved to be possessive about our belongings.. that's where this hue and cry come from.. cavemen believed in sharing from food to women to babies.. so now jealousy is old name of infidelity in my view...

My view is bold so fine to have disagreements😊

Originally posted by: -Aarya-

How different is infidelity vs open-relationship?

This all comes down to whether one believes that there's one way to define a committed relationship or whether one think it's possible to design their own! And what makes us think that there is only one way to make a commitment to another person? What are the norms, are these the natural or cultural ways of making commitments? Rules define a game but what stops people from creating new games by new rules...

Originally posted by: moomin4455

I don't know...you see even an open relationship has caveats. Two people can have sex with others, but there are normally boundaries, which allow the two to not broach a threshold of sorts.

For example, sex with random people may be considered OK, but not sex more than one time with the same person. Sex with mutual friends may not be acceptable. Sleeping with someone, but not telling your partner about it may be considered being unfaithful.

In an open relationship, one is normally open about the physical aspects, but not about the emotional aspects ie you can go to others for sex but for every other component of a relationship you come to me. If you start to 'feel' something for someone else, you're being unfaithful.

There are still boundaries to be maintained; an open relationship can't be equated to 2 people sharing living space; it's a type of relationship that deserves consideration like all relationships.