How big of a deal is Virginity to you - Page 6

Originally posted by: epiphany.

Hypocritical, yes, more than you'll ever understand. But you're in luck. A lot of my kind are idiotic. 🤪

Originally posted by: BirdieNumNum

lol you'd wish. They are being practical, not idiotic. Think about it- what kind of guy cant or wont get a lay these days?😆 If you like those types, go for it😆

Originally posted by: epiphany.

You do realize a part of me is frustrated because of you, don't you? 🐷 It's not important how many of the guys are getting laid, it's about how many of them dun have the same hypocritical arse you so proudly own.

Period

Originally posted by: Naach_Basanti

interesting topic. Virginity is subjective, some think its a big deal something akin to purity, some associate it with religious connotations and there are people like me who think its purely a physical thing, pesky issue I'd say. Virginity is as big a deal as we make it out to be. I respect various view points with regards to virginity but hypocrisy and placing people who are virgins on a pedestal pisses me off.

The importance given to virgin blood and the way it is glamorised in certain cultures, movies and even in some FFs I have read in IF makes me sick. If you have read the Memoirs of a Geisha you'd know what i mean.

I also detest the view point which gives the man an inflated sense of self importance and makes him feel powerful by taking away someone's virginity.

Y'know, there are some who does it all except penetration and then claim themselves to be all virginal flowers. You either have or you haven't. Just be honest and faithful and respectful. There are other things beside virginity that constitutes good or bad sex and relationship.

It's a huge deal if it's about me. If it's about someone else, then I could care less about who they've slept with, what they've done with them, and so on. If someone else wants to go ahead and do it, they can feel free to. I won't start lecturing them unless this person was a very close friend of mine and they were doing it for the wrong reasons (perhaps to get over someone or something).

I'm not planning to lose my virginity until marriage. In my books, flirting, kissing, and all that stuff is fine (whether you're in a relationship or not) until you venture towards second base. But once you get under the clothes, you're giving away your body to someone who might not be the one deserving of it. Even if I fall in love and I'm a hundred percent confident that he loves me too, it's against my own morals (not for any traditional/religious reason) to move past second base.

If my partner isn't a virgin, then I won't mind. I mean, if I have strong feelings for him and I know he feels strongly about me too, why should it matter? As long as he's faithful to me and doesn't go around screwing other girls while we're together. Of course, that being said, I'd prefer them to be a virgin, but I'll have no control over that. I can only control what I do with my body.

Being faithful and respectful to whoever you end up with is more important than whatever is in your past. Ultimately that is what matters in life. Some of us grew up in pretty old fashioned families where it was a big deal to be with a guy before marriage. I had some guy friends and classmates before marriage and even that was constantly under question by my relatives at times if they would come to my house or call, so you can forget about dating or sex.

My husband is a pretty open minded guy and he frankly told me before we got married that he was not a virgin but also that it would not bother him if I was also not a virgin. I am glad we started off in that way because if he expected me to be a virgin even though he was not, I wouldn't have married him. At that time I felt under pressure to get married and it helped me adjust to marriage to see that he treated me like a true equal and didn't have antiquated views about his wife being "pure" or being his property.

in my culture it not about the virgentity it about modesty. a window or divorced is as much respected as a virgin girl, but a girl who has slept with many or one is not as respected because she lost her modesty, which she can never gain back.

IMO it's not an issue unless you or your partner is a s**tty ho-bag that's harbouring every STD under the sun.

For me its a very very very big deal!!!!
But yeahh...loose only if ur married or in a true,serious,confident relationship otherwise dont!!!
I dont understand why people dont considr it a big thing...its not a thing too fool around!!
Grow up people!!!