How big of a deal is Virginity to you

What are your thoughts on Virginity? Do people look down on you because you are a virgin, or do you consider it as a quality? Do you prefer an experienced partner or you are pretty set and value celibate individuals who abstain from any kind of sex?

I am getting mixed messages. You say

IHATEYOU,

Originally posted by: -IHATEYOU-

You slept with million women but you want a wife who is a virgin.
You are such a hypocrite.

Originally posted by: King-Anu

I am getting mixed messages. You say

- you are experienced and "who has been mooh maro all around and ghat ghat ka paani piyon"

then you

- you have "deep rooted values that has been instilled upon me"

- you yourself are experienced

and yet you

- "consider it pretty disrespectful to be with a partner who has been already used."

first, please explain the inconsistency in your topic.

My take is that this issue is a surrogate for a more important point. It is not about used or expiry. Its about the fact that some do not want a partner who has gone through such activities with another person. Even if we put aside the moral values some cannot digest the fact that your future partner was interested in someone at some time point and at that level.

Therefore solution for such a person, who has been involved in such activities, is that he or she should focus on a person with similar past.

Note: I am not talking about cases of widowed, divorced etc.

Originally posted by: TheBoss

Personally I do not mind people who are experienced as they are less of the emotional baggage, but in my culture it is expected that the girl be a virgin. A cousin of mine infact had to literally hang his blood stained bedsheet from the wedding night in the balcony just to show that he has consummated their marriage.

In another situation friend found that his wife was no longer a virgin, despite her protests that she has never been with a guy and it might have been due to physical a ctivity as an avid horse rider, hiker, gymnastics etc.

But my friend bought none of it, he was pretty determined that was absolute baloney, and rightly so I agree.

It's not a deal breaker. In the grander scheme of things, it shouldn't matter. Past is past. Focus on the present and future and respect and monogamy after marriage (if that's your ultimate aim). However, I am not going to act superior by saying it's no big deal, because let's be honest, most of us have been raised in a culture that values virginity etc, so it can seem like a deal even though there is nothing wrong with not being a virgin. But like I said, as long as the person is honest with me, it shouldn't matter. But I'm strictly monogamous, so my other half will have to stay monogamous with me (same for me) or else she is free to break the relationship before moving onto someone else. :)