Arrange Marriages

Ok to begin with i am a 15 yr old teen turning 16 in couple of weeks.....and like many girlz my parents have this habit of alwayz bringing up the topic of marriage, which kind of gets annoying at times....since they got an arrange marriage and my brother got an arrange marriage (who by the way is like 11 yearz older than me) they expect me and my sis to get an arrange marriage also....it kind of bugs me how they pressurize it that it has to be a guy from India and it has to be their choice......i mean i respect their views and their worry buh i dont think that bein born and living in america i would wanna get an arrange marriage....for my parents that was like 28 years ago when they got married....time was different back then....now i cant even imaging getting married to a total stranger adn living with him, sleeping on the same bed as his....even the thought of that gives me the chills...and on top of it all i am not too sure if i'd want a guy from india....i mean itz so different how ppl in america live compared to people living in india..........so debate topic is:
~what is your take on arrange marriages
~do you think that arraneg marriages work out more than love marriages
~would a girl living outside of america wat to marry a guy from india
~should parents force their kidz especially girls in getting an arrange marriage

Do post your thoughts and opinions and i hope i didnt offend any1 by saying anything wrong

~what is your take on arrange marriages
arrange marriages and love marriages both r good but its depend upon only luck mostly ppl thinks that love marriages r not so durable than arrange marriages but its not true nowadays some arrange marriages r also breaking......................our parant always think for us more and more good on the other hand ppl watch out his/her companian according to nature..................arrange and love marriages both r good

~do you think that arraneg marriages work out more than love marriages
im not sure about it that arrange marriages r work out more than love marriages

would a girl living outside of america wat to marry a guy from india
if gal and guy became successful in balancing than its not a big problem (mager balance kam hi hota hai 😆 )

~should parents force their kidz especially girls in getting an arrange marriage

i dont think so

there was a survey done not long ago to see if love or arrange marriges are more successful and the outcome was that arrange marriges are more successful and love marriges are most likely to end up in a divorce i was suprised but i guess when there is a love marrige at first everything is all lovey dovey and when the love fades out then the relationship also finishs where as if you have a arranged marrige then because it was not love that first got you togther you are willing to contribute more with your partner regaurdless of the love story becomming alittle black and white although some arrange marriges might end up same as the love marriges but still atleast the risk is low lol

Originally posted by: Mashal

~should parents force their kidz especially girls in getting an arrange marriage

i dont think so

no parent should force their child to have an arranged marrige because obviousley it's the person getting married that will spend their whole life with the person they marry not the parents but on the other hand mostly parents want to have their children to have an arranged marrige because of the fear of not knowing the other person's family properly that is justified their parents and they are obviousley concerned about their childs future but the issue of the person being from a different caste is tottaly wrong and that is what most parents search for someone who is from the same cast as you personally i think to search caste is a sighn of arrogance why because you do not want the other person to be lower than you which is tottaly wrong just because your caste shows you are a big person don't mean other's from other caste are small people.................

this is an issue that should be addressed to parents but everything else parents might be concerned about i.e. background, knowing the other family properly, etc are ok cause obviousley parents care for their children and want them to have a good marrige future and as you know there is a saying that when you get married you do not justbecome a part of your partner you also become apart of your partner's family. so thats why parents tend to get their child married in family they feel comfortable in......

Originally posted by: baby-*bunny

there was a survey done not long ago to see if love or arrange marriges are more successful and the outcome was that arrange marriges are more successful and love marriges are most likely to end up in a divorce

What sort of a survey? Who did this survey?Where was it published, where was it done? What was the demography? Which year was it done???????????

You know survey's are not just misleading on such subjects but can be done to prove and present facts in a lopsided way so that the writer can confirm his theory??!!??

Hmmmmmmmmmmmmm, I have seen so many "ARRANGED MARRIAGES" hit the rock bottom.. I have witnessed so many "LOVE MARRIAGES" reaching an impasse situation, where divorce is the only visible outcome.

Relationships are arguably the most sensitive, the most unpredictable ones, where NO ONE can for say which way it would go.One is mostly skating on thin ice when it comes to one's belief on the solidity of the relationship !

Marriage is an institution .Respect for the spouse, responsibility, fidelity and love buttress the institution.Once a couple are married, they become a "married couple" and not a "love married" couple or an "aranged married" couple 😆 ...Be it a love marriage or an arranged one, the adjustments and compromises and the mutual understanding a couple harbour make a marriage "WORK"..The couple HAVE to accommodate themselves to their new life

The only handicap in a love marriage is that, if GOD forbid the marriage fails to work out, it would be the girl/boy who would come in for flak and rebuke....