What is the point of getting married? - Page 4

Originally posted by: return_to_hades

If you don't marry your suitors you will be killed by home-made bomb?

Sarina, we seem to be in agreement about children deserving loving stable environments. IMO a married couple that enjoys social as well as legal acceptance is better equipped and more inclined towards provoding an emotionally and financially stable and secure future for the child. The msg that ideally needs to be passed on to the children is that both love and legal contracts have their utility.

From joint families to nuclear families and now to unstructured families, things appear to be changing with the times. I would say each to his own. Matrimony is not for those who are undecided and unsure about their partners. For those who are and are looking for long term relationship it is still a viable and desirable option unlike what it is being made out to be. Any relationship is ideally based on maturity and mutual respect . If a couple has already decided to be committed and raise kids I dont see why they should have any reason to refrain from getting married! It can only add further to their relationship granting it more stability and assurance with the added perks of acceptance legally and socially which shouldn't be undermined . Traditional marriages and live ins both have their pros and cons and one should carefully weigh their options without getting carried away by the fads. If there are some ills in a time tested system one can work towards reforming those rather than outright rejection of the whole system.

For a person who is ready to invest 100% into a relationship I dont think its wrong to expect some kind of assurance regarding the level of commitment from the other partner. A marriage provides that assurance. As a side note, it also gives a special feeling of euphoria to be accepted wholeheartedly and openly before society by someone you love with vows of " until death do us part ". Ahh nothing beats that ...and one can really relax after that vow ;)) This would be missing in a LIR as would a wedding with all its grandeur and the opportunity to get to know whole extended families, relatives and friends from both sides at one event!

When entered into by two committed individuals with full awareness of what they are getting into, it should work out fine as would any relationship between them. Its just that marriage has more benefits. For any relationship to survive some adjustments have to be made. Duty and rights go hand in hand. Of course it may not work for everyone.

^^ Angie...All that u have said is true because marriage is an overrated /man made institution and it has been drilled in our mind...to give respect and acceptance to a couple who is married and to look down on the one that is not...a committed couple can give the same sense of security, stability and love to a child that a married couple would...if there is no committment..a marriage would not hold the couple together...the important part of being together is committment and not a legal contract like marriage...u can always get out of a contract...pay the penalty and be out...

^^ A live in couple decided to have kids .Did not get married. The couple died in a car crash. what happens to the future of the kid who does not have any legal document to support his claim to inheritance? same stability and security as a kid born of wedlock?

Originally posted by: blue-ice

^^ Angie...All that u have said is true because marriage is an overrated /man made institution and it has been drilled in our mind...to give respect and acceptance to a couple who is married and to look down on the one that is not...a committed couple can give the same sense of security, stability and love to a child that a married couple would...if there is no committment..a marriage would not hold the couple together...the important part of being together is committment and not a legal contract like marriage...u can always get out of a contract...pay the penalty and be out...

Originally posted by: zorrro

^^ A live in couple decided to have kids .Did not get married. The couple died in a car crash. what happens to the future of the kid who does not have any legal document to support his claim to inheritance? same stability and security as a kid born of wedlock?

If there was nothing going in for legal documents or contracts why do you think the LGBTS are fighting for marriage rights?

even in an organisation people want documents or contracts before they proceed in any partnership. When one intends to go into a partnership for life whats wrong in getting a contract?

If one is committed why shun the contract 😕

It all boils down to the fact that we have a glorified image of marriage in our heads...we made it...we made the rules...we have made it a legal contract...

Originally posted by: Prometeus

Man created this instituation cos love is insecure...Marriage is a security...the registry office, the police, the court are behind it..the state, the society, the religion -- they are all behind it...cos people believe marriage is more permanent than love...!😊

Ever heard of something called 'Divorce'??

Originally posted by: goneforever

Marriage obviously bring happiness to some, but not everyone.

Eating Rasagollas brings hppiness to me but not to everyone.

Single people are also happy. What is the point of getting married?

Get married only if you want to and not because you are forced to 😉

Sure, you have a life partner. But, it has to be someone you know really well and are comfortable with.

yes, so whats wrong? so whats wrong with that?

Arranged marriage fails miserably in this day and age. Not all.

Only love marriages are successful, but not always. The divorce rate is so high then it was 10 or 15 years ago.

because people are more aware of their rights and do not want to put up with any nonsense.

those who foresee divorce in future can opt for live in relationships till they find someone who suits their expectations. So a series of trial and error or for the wiser a better analysis of the partner they want.

Please share your thoughts. Is there a point to marriage? 😲

Yes and no. If you are ready to share household chores yes otherwise better try the trial and error methods to save money on divorce proceedings. If you are the types to pitch in and are looking for a single long term relation then yu can go in for marriage. If you dont want to pitch in and neither do you like the idea of multiple partners you are better off as a single person. BTW according to a research married people are said to live longer lives. Makes me wonder why?

Originally posted by: Prometeus

Man created this instituation cos love is insecure...Marriage is a security...the registry office, the police, the court are behind it..the state, the society, the religion -- they are all behind it...cos people believe marriage is more permanent than love...!😊

Agreed . 😊 But here people seem to be against that very idea of security being provided by a marriage . It is perhaps felt that a live in relationship is more convenient as it is easier to get out of it- exactly the reason why it would be more unstable😕

Marriage is basically doing things legally.