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Okay, so I know that this topic has probably been discussed alot of times, but I think 'marriage' is a topic that can be looked at from so many angles that it's somehow never enough 😛
Anyway, coming to the topic. I have alot of questions to ask, to people who believe in the institution and to people who don't - Why do you believe in marriage (or why not)? Do you think that given the structure of the Indian society, marriage is more of a compulsion than a choice? Why is it so important to get married and that too at a certain age?
I, personally, do not believe in the institution at all. Perhaps it is because of my personal experiences, but I simply cannot see the solid ground (apparently) upon which this insitution is built. Plus it hasn't retained it's original essence over the years, it has become more of a social deal between two parties, which may or may not include financial aspects. It is like a certificate which makes you socially acceptable (strictly speaking of the Indian society) Ofcourse, people may have different POV's but this was strictly my opinion.
I was also watching this old episode of NDTV's 'We the people' this morning, which had SRK and Karan Johar as two of it's panel members. It was around the time KANK had released, and was about how it invoked an extreme reaction amongst the audience. Here's the link - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pqofEh_B8QI
It had some interesting points. One of the points that I really found interesting was the whole concept of 'Nibhao' - How long can it go on without completely ruining a couple's and/or their children's life? I have to disagree with Shahrukh and agree with Karan here. There is absolutely nothing worse for a small kid than growing up in a home where his/her parents constantly fight and emotionally/mentally/physically abuse each other. Should the exit route be a little more simpler than it is now?
I think I've written enough 😆 I'd really like to read more opinions and different people's take on this. Also, do you think Live-in is perhaps a better option? Why is 'commitment' so closely related to 'marriage'? If two people truly love each other, then they're committed regardless of their marital status. What do you think?
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Posted: 15 years ago
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Marriage is for losers. 😛
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Posted: 15 years ago
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Originally posted by: P1nk

Marriage is for losers. 😛

My nephew says working is also for losers.😆
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Originally posted by: Summer3

My nephew says working is also for losers.😆



so a single, unemployed guy isn't a loser?
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Maariage is a Safe Heaven 😆 Best thing ever happened to a human kind 😉
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Posted: 15 years ago
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Marriage is sophesticated legalised prostitution...and at times, rape
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Marriage is imprisonment and the loss of freedom.
420.😆
It is better to join the army for a few years before getting married.
Needs plenty of discipline especially if you are only a recruit or an army corporal at home.
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Let us analyse what happens in a heart-break situation.
The heart longs for the other person's love and attention and is unable to forget him or her.
Solution: If there is hope of betting back together and is good for both parties, then give her some hope and tell her to be patient.
If no hope of reconcilation: Try to forget the guy and look for a new boyfriend or a new activity or distraction.
Mind is like a tape recorder and keeps playing the same old sad stories and tales. So stick around with friends and family during such time. Pray to God if everything fails.
Remember all is not lost but an experience gain. Women are stronger then they look.
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I think marriage is the opportunity to inherit an additional dysfunctional family, just in case the one you have wasn't enough...While am talking with one of my collegue, I ask about his marriage,he reply .....'marriage? no .. I can't mate in captivity.'..😛Each people have their own view...I dont think its bad institution if there is freedom and love...all afraid of the future...everyone would like to have some security and everybody like to have their own properties... to control n rule, we make rules to control each properties.... we all believe more in insurance companies than in life. That's why created institute of marriage...and we believe marriage is more permanent than love..I think if there is no love and freedom...then marriage will be a formality, a legal bondage...but what to do...we all do whatsoever the society wants to be done...😃

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Originally posted by: Believe

I think marriage is the opportunity to inherit an additional dysfunctional family, just in case the one you have wasn't enough...While am talking with one of my collegue, I ask about his marriage,he reply .....'marriage? no .. I can't mate in captivity.'..😛Each people have their own view...I dont think its bad institution if there is freedom and love...all afraid of the future...everyone would like to have some security and everybody like to have their own properties... to control n rule, we make rules to control each properties.... we all believe more in insurance companies than in life. That's why created institute of marriage...and we believe marriage is more permanent than love..I think if there is no love and freedom...then marriage will be a formality, a legal bondage...but what to do...we all do whatsoever the society wants to be done...😃

Thursday, April 8, 2010

Shoaib Malik Settles Divorce With Ayesha at an Amount of Rs.15 Crores!

Shoaib to Pay Ayesha 15 Crores as part of Divorce Deal.

They say it ain't over until the fat lady sings. On Wednesday, Ayesha Siddiqui, former Pakistani cricket captain Shoaib Malik's mystery wife, must have been singing rather happily, closeted behind the high gates of her Banjara Hills bungalow.

WHAT IS AMOUNT OF MONEY SHAOIB HAS AGREED TO PAY TO SETTLE THE DIVORCE/TALAQ WITH AYESHA SIDDIQUI
Ayesha, 29, who has chosen to remain out of sight through this controversy, citing obesity as an inhibiting factor, will get a formal divorce and Rs 15 crore from her 'husband', bringing to an end the weeklong soap opera that had gripped the Indian sub-continent.

Like that extra laddoo after a plentiful feast, the Shoaib-Sania's April 15 wedding now has the air of needless indulgence. The nation has already had its fill.

Following late night negotiations spearheaded by several Muslim leaders from the Congress, including cricketer-cum-Member of Parliament Mohammad Azharuddin, Andhra Pradesh Minorities Welfare Minister Mohammed Ahmadullah, and Pradesh Congress Committee general secretary Abid Rasool Khan, the matter was resolved and Ayesha's family will withdraw all cases against Shoaib lodged with Hyderabad police.

Officially, Ayesha will get Rs 5,000 as mehr for three months during the Iddat period as her alimony according to the Shariat law. The Siddiqui family emphatically denies any additional money changing hands but sources close to the family have told some newspapers that Shoaib has agreed to pay Rs 12 crore directly to Ayesha and her family and another Rs 3 crore towards sundry 'costs.' A group of five community elders have taken the responsibility of coordinating the management, it is believed. Ayesha has to reciprocate by withdrawing the police case against Malik.

He has been booked under sections 498A (harassment), 420 (cheating) and 506 (criminal intimidation).

One of those involved in the exercise told Mumbai Mirror, "Shoaib was reluctant to sign the papers. But we all convinced him that as per the nikaahnama, he had married a girl, and he should divorce her keeping this in mind." Malik took the risk only after consulting Sania and her father Imran Mirza.

Community leader Major Qadri, who announced the 'amicable and respectful settlement' between Malik and Ayesha to the media, said, "To be on the safe side, we mentioned her name on divorce papers as 'Ayesha alias Maha Siddiqui'."

Ayesha's mother Farisa Siddiqui, who represented the family at the media announcement at Khan's Banjara Hills residence, said, "Justice has been done. We are happy now. Ayesha is relieved and happy. I have no comments to make on Shoaib's claims all these days."

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