What's your take on men crying. Getting too soft? - Page 5

Originally posted by: Midnight_Shade

Well, that might be one of the million ways of looking at human traits.....the bible says something else though.....it says that Adam ( a man) was created by God as his look alike...and then he later created Eve from one of Adam's ribs....they say that Eve ( a woman) was responsible for making Adam eat the apple and upset God...so, basically, they blame women for the bad things happening in the world....same goes to Pandora's box.....Pandora made the other dude (can't remember his name) open that box full of negativites...jealousy, envy, etc ...thus, making Pandora (a girl) responsible for the bad things happening today....Basically, we can't rely on a single source to define human characteristics.
.......but seriously, I wasn't aware that qualities like empathy, truthfulness, deception, arrogance, etc could ever be put down as "male" and "female" qualities. I thought those qualities depended on how people conduct themselves and how they were brought up. Too bad there are also gender biases in human conscience and morality, though it doesn't make any sense to me whatsoever.

Originally posted by: Midnight_Shade

Well, that might be one of the million ways of looking at human traits.....the bible says something else though.....it says that Adam ( a man) was created by God as his look alike...and then he later created Eve from one of Adam's ribs....they say that Eve ( a woman) was responsible for making Adam eat the apple and upset God...so, basically, they blame women for the bad things happening in the world....same goes to Pandora's box.....Pandora made the other dude (can't remember his name) open that box full of negativites...jealousy, envy, etc ...thus, making Pandora (a girl) responsible for the bad things happening today....Basically, we can't rely on a single source to define human characteristics.
.......but seriously, I wasn't aware that qualities like empathy, truthfulness, deception, arrogance, etc could ever be put down as "male" and "female" qualities. I thought those qualities depended on how people conduct themselves and how they were brought up. Too bad there are also gender biases in human conscience and morality, though it doesn't make any sense to me whatsoever.

Originally posted by: Summer3

Emotions rather than being labelled male and female should be termed "positive" and "negative" emotions. So both male and female can have a share of either of these.

Physically women are normally weaker but emotionally both can be equally strong and women have been know to bea able to bear great stress and have a higher threshold of pain too. I think most men would rather not have kids then go through the trouble and suffering of a child birth.

But I think that without a woman most men would be incomplete.

Originally posted by: Midnight_Shade

Yeah, i've already read it. Thanks for quoting it again. You're STILL saying that crying is only a feminine quality whatsoever. Okay, agreed that you have that kind of mindset and perhaps you live among distraught ladies who keep bothering you with their weepy drama.......soo much that now you think that crying is only a female quality.

But dude, are you kiddin me? You really think you can go around telling people that crying is only a girl's job without getting called a psyche? Why are you dragging all the women of the world to the particular weepy group of women you've been living with all this time?
Men cry too, not coz women rubbed off on them but coz they are gifted with the tear ducts too. Or is it like when women cry, it's crying but when men cry, it's only ventilating their eyes?😛

I really have no idea what weakness or strength you're talking about. You took my post in a wrong way. I never said that crying is a weakness, so your explanation on that was not needed at all. Nevertheless, thank you.
Both men and women have things to learn from each other. Why are you saying that only women know how to love, be authentic and truthful? Have you had some horrible experiences with men in the past or what? On what basis are you categorizing these abstract and ethical qualities into two genders? I'm really curious.

Originally posted by: Believe

I didnt say men not cry.....I said its a part of feminine quality....Basicly men has one quality and that is of the warrior/aggrasive type. Once he gets a challenge, then he can grow any kind of qualities. Even the feminine qualities, he can grow better than any woman can. His fighting spirit balances things. Women have qualities inborn. Man needs only to be provoked, given a challenge...these qualities have not been given to you -- you have to earn them. And if men and women both can live these qualities, the day is not far away when we can transform this world into a paradise. I am for the qualities of women.😊

Back to the same point again. 🥱

Most of the man nt cries and lets his sadness or his joy flow through the tears becos he has been told since he was a child that tears are for women, it is girlish.😊 Men never cry and weep...man's eyes would have been made in a different way, they would not have tear glands. They have tear glands just as women have. What is the purpose of those tears? They are needed..... they are a tremendously significant language. There are moments when you cannot say, but your tears can show. You may be so full of joy, and tears come to your eyes.....

Tears are always the symbol of overflowing experience. You may be so sad that words cannot contain it....😃tears help you. It is one of the reasons why women go less mad than men, becos they are ready to weep and cry and throw things any moment... temporarily thy can go mad every day. Man goes on accumulating, and then one day he explodes -- wholesale.😕 Women go mad retail, and that is a wiser way, to be finished every day. Why collect? Men commit suicide more than women. This is very strange...😊Women talk of committing suicide more than men, but they never commit it. Men never talk about committing suicide but commit more suicide...the quantity is double..Man goes on and on repressing, goes on and on ...so better let them cry...and reduce their emo n feelings.😃

Originally posted by: Midnight_Shade

Women go less mad than men because they cry more and women are always ready to throw things at any moment? :O What a fascinating theory u've got!---I think u dont get my point...As for expressing your fury, sadness, etc, it depends on how much of an introvert or an extrovert you are and how much you like to share stuffs with people. Some are quiet and keep their opinions and emotions supressed whereas some don't like to keep anything in their guts and pour out everything. There's no scientific or social theory YET to prove that women belong to the extroverts and men belong to the introverts. Spare those abstract and neutral qualities. Don't put them down as "male" or "female" qualities.--Modern research has come to a very significant fact, one of the most significant achieved in this century,n that is that u don't have one mind, you have two minds. hope u know that...ur brain is divided into two hemispheres...the right hemisphere and the left hemisphere. The right hemisphere is joined with the left hand, and the left hemisphere is joined with the right hand -- crosswise😊 Right hemisphere is intuitive, illogical, irrational, poetic, platonic, imaginative, romantic, mythical, religious...😊n the left hemisphere is logical, rational, mathematical, Aristotelian, scientific, calculative. These two hemispheres are constantly in conflict .....😊

Women are right-hemisphere people, men are left hemisphered. Men have ruled women for centuries.Still rulling hope u dont need any evidence for that...😊 Now a few women are revolting but the amazing thing is that these are the same type of women. In fact they are just like men -- rational, argumentative, Aristotelian.😊 It is possible that one day, just as the communist revolution has succeeded in Russia and China, somewhere, maybe in America, women can succeed and overthrow men. 😉

Anyways, I don't I'd be able to get my point across to you......You go around tellin people that crying is only a girl's job in real world, yeah that thing with bright light....and lemme know if you don't get ridiculed coz what you've been sayin all along lacks a good backup.--Actuly am talking about inner...not simply crying matters...I just wanna say man's inferiority works different ways.....that inferiority has played a great role in the domination of women by men. The inferiority complex works in this way.... it pretends to be superior --to deceive oneself and to deceive the whole world. So man down the ages has been destroying the woman's genius, talents, capacities, so that he can prove himself superior --to himself and to the world. Because the woman gives birth, she remains for nine months or more absolutely vulnerable, dependent on a man.

Men have exploited this in a very ugly way. And that is a physiological difference.... it makes no difference at all. The psychology of the woman is corrupted by the man telling her things which are not true, making her a slave to man, reducing her to a secondary citizen of the world. And the reason for that was that he is muscularly more powerful..😊with these muscular mentality how most of men cry😃

Nothing wrong with anyone crying as long as the tears you shed are not crocodile tears !😆

Anyways, tears do have a value- make sure that that value is never undermined. :)