should married men be allowed to marry again ?? - Page 13

@angie: In my browser (mozilla firefox) your last post is appearing
in a very narrow column. Do you also see the same or is it just my browser? 😛
Also, my later posts are appearing very wide. It could be my browser.

yes karandel, the posts R appearing too wide ... 🤔

Originally posted by: angie.4u

yes karandel, the posts R appearing too wide ... 🤔

Looks like a glitch. You may try to edit your long post : removing " " in the end or breaking the post into 2 smaller ones etc.

I will check mine to see if I should edit something. In any case, this might be solved when we move to next page.😊

Originally posted by: angie.4u

Moreover , it is found that ppl of other religions get converted to islam for the purpose of being able to keep 2 wives !!!! 😲

As soon as you can prove that the practice of polygamy did not exist prior to the introduction of Islam, you will have a point; until then, your assumption on people converting to Islam just for the sake of marrying multiple wives is just that - it is an assumption.
Statistics may surprise you, but the majority of Muslim men (along with the converted ones) are monogamous, and a large percentage of people from the non-Muslim population gets engaged polygamous/polyandrous relationship, too. Furthermore, if you want to have multiple spouses, then you can go ahead and do it (as long as it is legal in your country; if it isn't, then you cannot get engaged into polygamous relation even if you do convert yourself into one), without being/converting a Muslim. Therefore your assumption on people converting to Islam just for the sake of getting engaged into a polygamous relation is just nonsensical.

One thing that I am not being able to understand is the fact that most people here have a hard time accepting the notion that it is possible for a women to be willingly and consensually permitting her husband on having a second or more wife, and yet (for many) it is possible to imagine that a husband may willingly and consensually permit his wife on having sex with complete strangers, and that too, just for the sake of money (I can quote posts from the thread, where this subject had been brought, if it is required, where many members had admitted that it is indeed possible for a prostitute to have a husband and children, and continue with her work side by side harmoniously). At least in case of polygamy, the wife knows whom her husband is getting married and having sex with, whereas in case of having a prostitute wife, the husband may not even know to whom his wife is having sex with, and it is far more insecure than the former.

If it is impossible for a women to permit her husband on taking another wife of her own free will, it is equally impossible for a man to permit his wife on having sex with complete strangers for the sake of money. And if it is possible, then it should possible for both cases. One cannot be supporting one, and opposing the other.

Originally posted by: PhoeniXof_Hades

One thing that I am not being able to understand is the fact that most people here have a hard time accepting the notion that it is possible for a women to be willingly and consensually permitting her husband on having a second or more wife, and yet (for many) it is possible to imagine that a husband may willingly and consensually permit his wife on having sex with complete strangers, and that too, just for the sake of money (I can quote posts from the thread, where this subject had been brought, if it is required, where many members had admitted that it is indeed possible for a prostitute to have a husband and children, and continue with her work side by side harmoniously). At least in case of polygamy, the wife knows whom her husband is getting married and having sex with, whereas in case of having a prostitute wife, the husband may not even know to whom his wife is having sex with, and it is far more insecure than the former.

If it is impossible for a women to permit her husband on taking another wife of her own free will, it is equally impossible for a man to permit his wife on having sex with complete strangers for the sake of money. And if it is possible, then it should possible for both cases. One cannot be supporting one, and opposing the other.

I think its not only the question of free will or who can afford how many spouses. If one murders or suicides out of free will or just because one can afford it, will it make it right?

Instead, we should look at it in this way if it is right or it is wrong.

My another point apart from previous points is about "gender equality".

Doesnt men marrying multiple women go against the principle of equality? As it seems to mean that 1 man is equal to multiple women.

Whereas men and women are equal as we know.

Originally posted by: PhoeniXof_Hades

One thing that I am not being able to understand is the fact that most people here have a hard time accepting the notion that it is possible for a women to be willingly and consensually permitting her husband on having a second or more wife, and yet (for many) it is possible to imagine that a husband may willingly and consensually permit his wife on having sex with complete strangers, and that too, just for the sake of money (I can quote posts from the thread, where this subject had been brought, if it is required, where many members had admitted that it is indeed possible for a prostitute to have a husband and children, and continue with her work side by side harmoniously). At least in case of polygamy, the wife knows whom her husband is getting married and having sex with, whereas in case of having a prostitute wife, the husband may not even know to whom his wife is having sex with, and it is far more insecure than the former.

If it is impossible for a women to permit her husband on taking another wife of her own free will, it is equally impossible for a man to permit his wife on having sex with complete strangers for the sake of money. And if it is possible, then it should possible for both cases. One cannot be supporting one, and opposing the other.

thats bcoz

1. men are strange.😕
2. may be u dont know under what conditions people live in a developing countries. they are so bad that men sell their wives and children for money so leave alone letting her go ahead with prostitution.
3. here i would like to put forward the points given by RTH in one of the threads that many people prefer their spouse to have sex with someone else rather than be emotionally close. so i think that could explain y people allow their wives to be prostitutes or i would like to use a better word for it sex workers.

while u r marrying another women u r sharing everything with her. ur life, having children, emotions, money house etc. so obviously no women in her right mind without being under any kind of pressure from family or religion will want to share her husband. noway.

Originally posted by: karandel_2008

@angie: In my browser (mozilla firefox) your last post is appearing
in a very narrow column. Do you also see the same or is it just my browser? 😛
Also, my later posts are appearing very wide. It could be my browser.

yes mine too. firefox and appearing the same. first i thought something wrong with my comp.😆

Originally posted by: PhoeniXof_Hades

As soon as you can prove that the practice of polygamy did not exist prior to the introduction of Islam, you will have a point; until then, your assumption on people converting to Islam just for the sake of marrying multiple wives is just that - it is an assumption.
Statistics may surprise you, but the majority of Muslim men (along with the converted ones) are monogamous, and a large percentage of people from the non-Muslim population gets engaged polygamous/polyandrous relationship, too. Furthermore, if you want to have multiple spouses, then you can go ahead and do it (as long as it is legal in your country; if it isn't, then you cannot get engaged into polygamous relation even if you do convert yourself into one), without being/converting a Muslim. Therefore your assumption on people converting to Islam just for the sake of getting engaged into a polygamous relation is just nonsensical.

oh surely it is certainly not non nonsensical. there r many famous examples of the same. many men convert in order to keep two wives legally as in india only muslims r allowed to have more than 1 wife as it is in their religion. not under the hindu marriage Act.

Originally posted by: sandya_rao7

1. men are strange.😕
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ahem ...😛