Foster vs Biological parents

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_Angie_

@_Angie_

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Posted: 16 years ago

We often read about adopted children trying to trace their biological parents. Does it mean that foster parents can never replace biologicals even if they have brought up a child who was perhaps abandoned ?

Edited by angie.4u - 16 years ago

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Sujal_Fan_No1

@Sujal_Fan_No1

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Posted: 16 years ago

I think that some do accept there foster parents as there parents, but one does need to find out, who they are. and need answers as too y they wer given into care and y there birth parents abbandoned them in the first place

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Janaki

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Posted: 16 years ago

If foster parents brought up a child lovingly and without any discrimination, I do think the child will see only them as his/her parents, because it is the love and care parents give their child that is important, not whether they're blood related or not. However, it is natural to wonder how/why/when one's biological parents gave them up for adoption. Many people do not feel at peace until they know, but it is not to insult their foster parents, but only to quench their curiosity and to know the truth once and for all.

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nuomi.riceball

@nuomi.riceball

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Posted: 16 years ago

i think it depends on the child itself. most the reason why a child is trying to trace their biological parents is because they want to find out the reason why their biological parents gave them up in the first place. however, according to my personal point of view i believe that the one who raised us up and love us and provide us with everything are the true parents regardless of biological connection or not.

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_Angie_

@_Angie_

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Posted: 16 years ago

Thanx for sharing ur views. I can understand the curiosity angle but wouldnt finding ones biological parents give rise to complications?

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nuomi.riceball

@nuomi.riceball

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Posted: 16 years ago

Originally posted by: angie.4u
Thanx for sharing ur views. I can understand the curiosity angle but wouldnt finding ones biological parents give rise to complications?

well yeah i agree with you finding one's biological parents will lead to complications such as the child will be stuck in between the biological parents and the foster parents and everything else, but sometimes it just passes my comprehension why the child cannot just let go of it and still try to search for their biological parents in spite of being abandoned by their biological parents at the first place. i personally think they should give their foster parents who raise them more importance and higher regards than the biological parents in this case.

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NaughtySon

@NaughtySon

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Posted: 16 years ago

Most children that set out to trace their biological parents do so out of curiosity and not because they hate their foster parents. The children do have the right to know who they were born to. So, I find that perfectly alright.

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_Angie_

@_Angie_

Rocker

Posted: 16 years ago

@ naughty son-

Agreed but what happens after they succeed in locating their biological parents. Wud he B able to just ignore them now ?

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nuomi.riceball

@nuomi.riceball

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Posted: 16 years ago

Originally posted by: jimchu65
I think one should really learn to accept his/her foster parents. (Unless they treated him/her badly) Just think of their effort of really taking good care of you!

i agree with you but sometimes children who were adopted just cannot accept their foster parents as their parents even though their foster parents have treated them really well with all the love and care.