Which one would you do?

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Posted: 19 years ago
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Would you have a arranged marriage or a love marriage? I'm wondering because you can't always trust someone if you have a love marriage but you don't get to choose who you want to get marry if you have an arranged marriage.

Well.....in my family, the girl would visit a boy's house, talk to the boy for 30 min. or so, and decide if she wants to marry him or not.

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Nishani thumbnail
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Posted: 19 years ago
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I am all for love marriages.....there is never an assurance that arranged marriages could work too. People change all the time. Any kind of marriage is a risk but it is up to the 2 people involved to make it work as best as they can.

My parents will never have an arranged marriage for me as they say that they trust my judgement that I will choose someone that I am happy with.

But my boyriend, Devin and his family still came over to my house when we decided that we wanted to be together. Things are now official. 😳 So I still have some old-fashioned Indian traits in me, I guess! 😊
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Posted: 19 years ago
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I have had a love marriage . My hubby was my boyfriend was 7 years and now i have been married for almost 7 years .The question of trust is both in love as well arranged marriage . Just because your parent chose him/ her doesnot mean you can trust him . If you have known him before marriage , you can find out whether he / she deserves your trust .
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Posted: 19 years ago
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I would have love. I dont think i could amrry i didnt kmnow very well or atall.
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Posted: 19 years ago
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hmm...
cant say....
i dont have any clear-cut views on this...
well.. Love marriages always have certain advantages... like u knw d person well before u get married 2 him/her.. its ur own choice... n then ur getting married 2 d love of ur life, so obviously theres satisfaction...
But i m nt against arranged marriages as well...
if v talk abt failed marriages... then there have been cases of both arranged n love marriages failin...
when v date a person, v see d best of them.. bt gettin married n livin 2gther.. v see their best n worst.. so its not 100% assured that a love marriage cant' fail...
In arranged marriage, sum ppl say, that expectations before marriage r nt too high n thus ppl make sarcifices easily... whereas in love marriages, expections r quite high from starting.....

so.. 2 me... i guess theres nuthin wrong abt love as well as arranged marriages... If u love sum1 n u think its a right choice, then i guess ur parents shldnt b havin any probs... so it can b a love-cum-arranged marriage like in d case of Nishani....
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Posted: 19 years ago
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I totally agree with Vinay.
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Posted: 19 years ago
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There are sooooooo many misconceptions about arrange marriages and love marriages. But statistics show that the divorce rate in love marriages is higher then that in arrange marriages.

In my opinion, suppose you have a love marriage. You trusted that person, loved that person and cared so much for that person and suppose one day that person emotionally hurts you. By this I mean, he cheat's on you or breaks your trust.....it would break your heart more and hurt more knowing the person you loved and decided to spend the rest of your life with was capable of doing such a thing. But suppose you have an arrange marriage and the guy does something bad, it would hurt me, but not as much cause it would take me time to love that person gradually cause we had an arrange marriage.

But I have nothing against arrange marriage. Just as long and the guy is up to my expectations. I will most likely get arrange marriage, but thoroughly do my research before making a final decision. I totally respect my parents decision and respect our culture and understand why we have arrange marriages, but come'on, after all I was born in Canada. I have canadian mentality in me also. Just the way my parents brought me up, I would never and I repeat never do love marriage.

But again, to each it own. 😳
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Posted: 19 years ago
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Love or Arrange, marriage takes alot out of you, you have to work really hard to make it work. I had a love marriage, I knew him since we were in elementry school and now have been married for almost 4 years and have 2 beautiful kids. Love or arrange you can never know how its going to be until you start living with the person.
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Posted: 19 years ago
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I'd go for love and arrange marriages!!!!!

If love marriage is arranged it means so much more!

But I wouldn't go for love marriage offending my family!
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Posted: 19 years ago
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Well I might choose a love marriage but if I don't get married by the age of 25 then I might have an arranged marriage.

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