Pathetic Portrayal of Dev - Page 5

Originally posted by: -JC-

I think you are being unfair to Dev in expecting him to take decision the level of Shashtriji. Radhika may take firm decisions but she too can be swayed under circumstances like Shashtriji committing suicide. Dev can also take firm decisions, like deciding to go to America and not changing his mind even after knowing what his family expected of him or even after being announced the Raj Purohit. If his father's death had not shaken him that much he would have stuck by that decision and left. So he is not incapable of making firm decisions but he doesn't force his decisions where Radhika is concerned and that I believe is his respect and love for Radhika...comes from being submissive in that relationship. I find that a very attractive quality in my man. So i don't consider Dev to be any less of a man.. so far. It is to be seen how he will behave in the future after knowing that Rads is his real wife and she hid that fact from him all this time while lecturing to him. That will be the real test of his character, whether he is as strong as i believe he is or he will succumb to the fact that his heart is weak after Radhika.

Why unfair ?😊 Shastriji is a man too , right ? The only diffrence being that he is an aged man . So do u mean to say that this kind of decision making ability comes only with age and experience ? Then how come youthful Radhika............a representative of youth , manages to take firm decisions ? Currently I dislike her character but I admire her for her firmness in taking decisions and not changing them . See how she joined her hands , looked down demurely and said softly .........My decision won't change . When Dev thought he cud manipulate her into leaving the ashram by bringing Shastriji there . The so called ' innocent ' girl understood that unsaid manipulation and stood firm on her decision ! Her extreme youth or inexperience were not hindrances in her decision making ability ! Shastriji is such a good man , who hasnt hurt a fly in his life uptodate , but when he takes serious decisions , he stands by them . Why , he even refused Dadi when she told him to change his mind . The ' less of a man ' thing is not coz he succumbs to what Radhika says . It is not coz Radhika is a woman and he listens to his ladylove , a woman ............it is not for this that I am criticizing him . I criticize him coz he listens to the WRONG THINGS that Radhika tells him . Like Go back and make ur marraige work even when Vishakha is clearly having nefarious shady deals with strange men at odd hours . That those men clearly visit sleazy bars at night and wont hesitate to rape or take out po*n films . At such points , love or no love , Dev has to put his foot down and do the right thing . She may be ur sister , but she has no scruples and this may endanger my whole family one day .........coz the men r reaching the inside of our sacred home , He must say to Radhika . I have no problems listening to a woman , I definetely have problems listening to any emotional rubbish the woman keeps dictating . A submissive man who listens and gives a girl such a spe cial place in his life that he listens to any thing she says is an attractive quality , u say , right ? I have two problems with this definition of love ...........1] It is very convenient for women ...........coz if the same thing is expected from a submisive woman , feminists take offense immediately ....2] if the girl takes wrong decisions that wreak havoc , there r gonna be serious problems . Lets leave all this aside and just look at the emotional aspect of it . Listening submissively is an attractive quality in men ............why can't being capable of deep love but having his own rational mind be an attractive quality in a man ? Who says Dev has to stop loving Radhika simply coz he refused to go to Vishakha yet one more time ? Or who says he must stop loving her if he refuses to listen to her in the accept Vishakha although she is meeting strange men case ?

I agree with u in one thing though............I too am waiting to see what he will do when the truth comes out that he took the marraige vows not with Vishakha but Radhika , and that Radhika kept the truth from him . I pity Devki , for Shastriji will give her her due , but if Radhika still goes scot free , Dev will have no persona left .

completely agree... I have been bashing Radhika's character... but you are so right.... both Dev and Radhika's characters are seen sooooooooooo much away from reality ... wonder if you have such people in real... what would happen to them??

Originally posted by: rainabow

<br><br>This is the most fundamental question that I don't think any of us has the answer too. Radhika can't decide whether Dev is her husband or Vishaka's. This is why she comes off as being such a phony "devotee" of Kanha. There can only be two options:<br><br>-As an ardent devotee of Kanha, she believes the marriage rituals and vows she took with Dev are sacred and bind them together as husband and wife. She will fulfill all her duties as wife and CB. <br><br>-She was just a placeholder (a stone, as Amma said) for Vishaka. Vishaka is Dev's wife and Radhika has no rights over him. She will not perform any vrats or poojas for his sake. She will not refer to him as her pati. She will simply move on in life, and this includes getting remarried.<br><br>Right now she is trying to do both at once, which makes no sense. On one hand she performs all these vrats and poojas, wears sindoor, and refuses to remarry. On the other hand, she argues with Kanha himself that he is "wrong" and Dev and Vishaka belong together. She is so stubborn that she simply cannot accept that her contradictory actions are not sustainable. Eventually she will have to come to a decision: Is she or is she not Dev's wife? It seems she will finally come to that decision in a matter of days.<br>

I can't understand Radhika's immortal, selfless love for Vishakha ! After knowing her so well, after Vish running away from her marriage, running away from Rajpurohityan pooja, doing the music video, running away to Mumbai, she expects that Vishakha will change someday and accept Dev as her husband and live happily as CB of Purohits ! 🤣 I can understand Amma and Devki caring for Vishakha this way but NOT Radhika..even if she was her real sister, tab bhi it doesn't make any sense to support her to this end...

Originally posted by: rainabow

<br><br>It is hard to understand Radhika's thinking because to date, it has not provided the results she seems to expect. She is claiming to do all this for Shastriji and Purohit family, but in reality, have any of her efforts been successful? In fact, the situation has worsened and will continue to worsen. If Radhika truly cares about the reputation of the Purohit family, she wouldn't let Vishaka near them! This is not the first, second, or even THIRD time Vishaka has pulled this kind of behavior. Look at the anguish Vishaka has caused her own father. To a certain extent, Shastriji himself is to blame for this. The idea that marriage will "tame" Vishaka is rubbish. Instead, all he did was dump his responsibilities and problems on the Purohits.<br><br>By now, all of Vrindavan is aware that Vishaka ran away to become an actress. The townspeople are all gossiping about it, and it won't be long before the news reaches Delhi. Whatever 'izzat' the Purohits had is in jeopardy regardless of whether or not Vishaka comes back. <br><br>The reason I do not side with Radhika on anything is because everything she has done to date has not only hurt Dev, but has also hurt everyone else linked to this travesty. When is she going to realize that continuing to lie isn't actually benefiting anyone? My disdain for her character has not always been present. It has escalated as the show progressed. There was a certain point at which she crossed the line, when Dev came to know the truth about Vishaka. Before then you're probably right, Dev was thinking selfishly. He was only thinking about his love for Radhika and not considering his family. At that point, Vishaka was doing her drama of being a good bahu and he didn't realize it was just a drama. He thought she was making a genuine effort. Ultimately, he did listen to Radhika...at least until he realized the truth about Vishaka. After that, it was no longer JUST about how much he loved Radhika. He was as concerned for his family's honor as Radhika, because he knew Vishaka was a constant threat. He also saw how Vishaka treated Radhika by sending her off to that sleazy bar. Even if he wasn't in love with Radhika, what Vishaka did to her sister was despicable and showed her true character. And then, even after all that Rads did, Vishaka threw her under the bus when Purab came to the house. Dev was not only infuriated by the fact that Radhika had to endure all of this, but he also realized that the total lack of scruples is not good for his family.<br><br>By now though, cat is out of the bag. Everyone knows Vishaka was putting on pretenses. Everyone knows what her true desires are. And STILL Radhika would hesitate. How can she say that she is concerned for both families at this point? As far as Shastriji is concerned, Vishaka is dead. For the Purohits, their reputation is down the drain whether or not Vishaka returns.<br><br>Let's not pretend she is so innocent either. As I said, if she truly wanted Dev and Vishaka to come together, she should have remarried, stopped performing all the vrats and poojas, and stayed away so that Dev could move on with his life. She has put him in a very difficult position. Koolsadhu is right, he is being kicked around like a football between both sisters. Radhika is constantly dangling a carrot in front of him by not marrying. If she did this ages ago when her marriage to Keshav was fixed, it would have given him the closure he needed to move on. <br>

i haven't read a better analysis of Radhika's character 👏