Sushpective Chat Club: Thread #6 - Page 87

Sharing a very well written post I just read

I was deeply saddened on hearing the news of Pratyusha Banerjee's suicide. And I feel compelled to write this, with all due respect to Pratyusha and her loved ones.Very very sorry for your loss. I am unaware of the details of course, but the news suggests relationship problems.

So here is what I want to say to every girl reading this:

You are more than just a relationship. You are strong and beautiful and capable all by yourself. You do not need a man to define you. I don't write this as a boy hating "feminist"( the quotes because that word is very very misunderstood and misused) I love men. I think men are wonderful and a very essential part of our lives. But this society places too much of a premium on women being attached to a man for their identity. At first the father and then the boyfriend or the husband. Please please know that no one, and I mean no one, is more important than you on this planet. And no one will ever be able to make you happy if you are not happy with yourself. It doesn't mean that you have to be alone to prove a point. It means you should understand the difference between wanting someone in your life and needing someone in your life. It is better to be single than to be in an unhealthy relationship. Too many women hang on to abusive partners and unhappy relationships because they are so frightened of being alone. Because society judges single women. They are made to feel inadequate and damaged and like there is something wrong with them. Older men are more desirable than older women. Divorced men are more accepted in society than divorced women. Well we are the change. We are just as much the society as anyone else. And none of this will matter if we start to feel differently. Be the change. Being single is not that big a deal. Know that you are not alone. Everyone is afraid. Everyone is afraid of being alone and yet everyone is alone at the end of the day. Know that a broken heart can be mended in time. But a life once gone can never be replaced. We have one life, and it will come with its shares of ups and downs but we owe it to ourselves to make the most of it. So love yourself ! Surround yourself with people who love you just the same and make you feel special. Because you deserve it. You deserve every bit of love and awesomeness that life has to offer!