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Heema22

@Heema22

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Posted: 11 years ago

#61

Originally posted by: AllThingsNice
You can be verbal and abusive because your stress levels are completely different. So, saat khoon maaf 😆
To an extent, management, I think impedes productivity. Causes dispiritedness and motivation issues. A good manager can make a difference, but one good egg can do only so much!

Bottom line is money !!! @ bold start hatching that good egg and you will get more hens ! Perfect I loved it . It's indeed very frustrating. !! I know why we get verbal and you can't do the same as you said its apples and oranges . Our management joins in and gives us more and better vocabulary to use in future. it's a sin!!

Good night !! My mom and her sister were incredible and talented . I wished I had half if their talent .

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Heema22

@Heema22

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Posted: 11 years ago

#62

Kanan I am not sure if you check CC on weekend . I will send you PM, just I case ,you will check your E mail . My brother was in Chennai and my husband just told him to go back to Mumbai . They are forecasting cyclone . This supposed land Saturday afternoon .Hurricane level 5 . Which is very dangerous . I am not sure if you have access to news at your place . When we were talking you didn't mention any thing . I am worried please take care and be safe . Go inland or home 🤗🤗

http://www.usatoday.com/story/weather/2013/10/10/india-cyclone-phailin/2960629/

Take care !!🤗.looks like it's moving towards Orissa but I am sure Tamilnadu will suffer too '

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Saumya

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Posted: 11 years ago

#63

Originally posted by: Heema22
I wrote reply on " Gandhi " it's on 2nd or third page . That subject is fascinating or blood boiling . I am not sure which .

Saumya wanted to write and never did . She asked me question on engagement . I was on my cell. I wrote one and she disappeared .

Her net is acting up too. Hope to see her around . Now free from birthday thread .

Honey! I am really sorry... this internet acted funny all day long and it was saptami so the exchange staff was not available. Its OK now but it behaves like it wants to

I had read the engagement thing yesterday but could not reply because of the net issues...

I loved what you said and I think I understand what you mean. Well, I don't know about romantic but I am sure people grow more comfortable with each other. Well after 4 years of a relationship, I thought that was it... that's how comfortable I can get with anyone but may there is more to explore :P

edit : Like I have already said before, I do not understand the importance of a ring , a shakha pola , a mangalsutra or 7 feras and I don't think its going to change for I really believe that its the matter of how people feel for each other rather than saying the vows aloud. For me , Nothing changes except you can wake up next morning and tell the society that i had sex and you can do nothing about it 😆 but because he does not think the same way about marriage, I should expect a pleasant change on his side. 😛

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Saumya

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Posted: 11 years ago

#64

Originally posted by: Heema22

Mom and anger and daughters are very old equations . It's more common than we think . With that kind of anger she will not be able to channel her energy anywhere else . What she need to find out is root of mom's anger . Many times we are mirror image of our mothers and mothers with low self esteem sees that and start to blame herself for the same problem she sees in her daughter and instead of dealing with it they start to build up anger . Many times that level of frustration are very damaging . Tell your friend to start with small talks . First small casual and later big .,once she verbalized her root problems things will improve . Mother and daughter relation is one big complicated biological relationship.

I completely agree . Its very very common.

I have my share of experience about this and I am not going to include the sad part but how it improved.

Like you guys already know that things were not OK at my place . I tried everything but my mom would not budge. But then something happened and she cooled down. That something is my tiff with bhabhi 🤣 but it really worked. Bhabhi shouted on me for using her mobile charger 🤣 and my mom shot off . This was too much for my mom . A lot of family drama followed . On my boyfriend's insistence I stayed out of it all . Because I was not there, a lot of untrue things were said like I slapped bhabhi in public and what not ( I am cutting short the depressing parts ) . And specially on feeding Amy milk powder forcefully , my mom became very defensive. Everyone knows how much I love Amy. So after my mom turned to my side for this issue , she is not behaving as a "hunterwali " mom anymore 🤣 And even though we are not that ideal mom and daughter duo, this has calmed my nerves a lot otherwise toh I was counting my days in this place.

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Heema22

@Heema22

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Posted: 11 years ago

#65

Saumya . I read what you wrote . I want to reply to both posts . Time is very limited so see you when I have some time .have a great day !!!!

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Heema22

@Heema22

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Posted: 11 years ago

#66

Originally posted by: _saumya_
Honey! I am really sorry... this internet acted funny all day long and it was saptami so the exchange staff was not available. Its OK now but it behaves like it wants to
I had read the engagement thing yesterday but could not reply because of the net issues...

I loved what you said and I think I understand what you mean. Well, I don't know about romantic but I am sure people grow more comfortable with each other. Well after 4 years of a relationship, I thought that was it... that's how comfortable I can get with anyone but may there is more to explore :P

Yes lot more to explore . Just wait .its lots of fun .

edit : Like I have already said before, I do not understand the importance of a ring , a shakha pola , a mangalsutra or 7 feras and I don't think its going to change for I really believe that its the matter of how people feel for each other rather than saying the vows aloud. For me , Nothing changes except you can wake up next morning and tell the society that i had sex and you can do nothing about it 😆 but because he does not think the same way about marriage, I should expect a pleasant change on his side. 😛

Many ways you are right I will write about this when you are ready to get married . Now just enjoy your engagement . I took 7 Pheres and did every thing . How it change my thinking was very fascinating .

Saumya . I am sorry about Saturday. Very crazy day .

. . I am glad you read what I wrote about engagement and romance . I wrote my very own true experienced after my engagement and what happened after that .I do not claim that we have perfect marriage or relationship . We constantly work on it . I find two way communication , trust . Compatibility and low expectation is the key . Expectation is the important thing . Many relationship fail because of this .. A spouse can find that she expected one thing from her marriage and got something different. This includes romantic expectations, expectations about her spouse and expectations about the marriage itself. When these expectations are left unmet, dissatisfaction turns into resentment or extreme disappointment that make compromises in lifestyle unrealistic, resulting in a bad marriage. Many times during our difficult times my husband sends me this link and that has become motto of my life .incredible song !!

http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=beKFjPEU_Fw&desktop_uri=%2Fwatch%3Fv%3DbeKFjPEU_Fw

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Heema22

@Heema22

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Posted: 11 years ago

#67

Hi Dia 🤗

I hope you come around . I am a football widow .

I hope you had good weekend !! Did you go home ?

Ok I will comeback !

OK dear . I need to hit the sack ! Expecting long day tomorrow !

saumya if you show up have a great day !

Goodnight and good day to you both !🤗

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TBDRESS

@TBDRESS

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Posted: 11 years ago

#68

Hey Heema, I hope you're still around...I had a nice and relaxing weekend. How was the wedding?

Football- who's playing? Not that i care!

haha, you're right parents relationship with only child is probably much different...you're the only "chirag" so lots of pressure to meet expectations and sometimes the constant attention can be smothering and you want them to just focus on something else for a while! So being an only child comes with its own set of "problems" 😆

Saumya, I"m sorry to hear about the drama in your house (your bhabhi seems to watch a lot of saas bahu dramas 😆). I can never understand the motivation people have to engage in this kind of mud slinging. Anyway, I hope that this does not compromise your relationship with Amy (Amaira se Amy ho gaya?). You should make sure of that.

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Heema22

@Heema22

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Posted: 11 years ago

#69

Football is my second Sautan . Penny is first .

If cowboys loose . Eagles will be in first place . So my husband and Leena husband rooting for Washington . Me and Leena praying they both lose !!what a drama .when you get married , first make a pack " no football on your time "

Yes dear only child is totally different ! Too much . When I was younger I used to envy only child and used to wish " why wasn't I the only child ? As I grew up I was very happy that I was one of the four .

Parents are totally different with only child .

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TBDRESS

@TBDRESS

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Posted: 11 years ago

#70

I personally hate being an only child- I don't understand what people find appealing in it? Actually, I think as kids, people often wish they were an only child, but I've never heard an adult say the same. Most people appreciate siblings when they are a bit older.

But I always wonder if families would function better and have better relationships if sons/daughters lived separately after marriage and that was the norm. I don't know but I wonder. I toh for sure can't stand living with people (being an only child and all), so I don't know how I would manage if I married into a huge family 😆

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