don't know if this really is everywhere the same. maybe it is and that is the reason for the huge amount of divorces. but I for sure know about some cultures where this is exactly like you said. At first they bring heaven down to earth for the girls, win their hearts. But after the marriage is done they change completely and act like their wife is nothing better than a housemaid. bah, my mom had a friend at uni who went through exactly this.
but seriously. kids is one of the topics that come very soon in a relationship. never talking about kids at all is not realistic. that's why I hate Owen even more. cuz I'm sure they talked about it. But just like he is still now. he assums it's just a phase. I mean, hello! even in that marriage counsel whatever it was, he said something like: you aborted the first child, but you will have another baby and then you will regret to abort the other one and bla bla bla.
He doesn't listen to her. He doesn't listen at all. Cuz as I said, everything circles around him. Hello. his stupid argument about them being the twisted sisters having to do everything together. He doesn't have the slightes idea of what kind of friendship MerCris char. In fact I believe he has any idea at all what friendship or any relationship means. that it's never just taking but it also is giving. god, grrr grrr grrr