MT: Lessons learned from past relationships? - Page 2

Originally posted by: vibecheck

of courseeee. we wanna know more😆

I have very limited material to work with here. Now I feel like I should have dated a few weirdos here and there just to have more source material for this post.

Originally posted by: CobraKai1972

I have very limited material to work with here. Now I feel like I should have dated a few weirdos here and there just to have more source material for this post.

it could be a small lesson too, doesn't have to be anything major. you can take time to think about it if nothing is coming to mind right now 😌

Some important lessons that I have learnt over the years :

1. Understand that can people leave. Do not make your partner the only source of your happiness or think your happiness depends on them. They don't deserve the added responsibility and neither should you burden them with that task because if you do, you'd be crushed once they aren't in the picture anymore.

2. Never assume anyone knows what you're thinking. Communication is vital.

3. Trust your gut. If you don't think it's gonna work out, end things. Prolonging the inevitable will only lead to more heartache and pain. Cutting losses and walking away isn't selfish or wrong.

4. If your beliefs don't mesh, it's most likely going to cause issues at some point, unfortunately.

5. It won't somehow magically work out if you love someone hard enough.

I'll do the friendship part later. My brain needs a break from all the thinking 😆

Originally posted by: vibecheck

it could be a small lesson too, doesn't have to be anything major. you can take time to think about it if nothing is coming to mind right now 😌

My mind shuts down over the weekend so putting a pin on this isn't a great idea. I wrote down the lessons I could remember. Baaki if there's anything I missed out on, I'll edit that in later.

Originally posted by: CobraKai1972

Some important lessons that I have learnt over the years :

1. Understand that can people leave. Do not make your partner the only source of your happiness or think your happiness depends on them. They don't deserve the added responsibility and neither should you burden them with that task because if you do, you'd be crushed once they aren't in the picture anymore.

yes! it's important to avoid solely depending on one person for everything, including your happiness. you should be able to function independently. it's also unfair to put that kind of burden on someone else because everyone already has to deal with their own person, they shouldn't have to constantly worry about another being who's entirely dependent on them at all times.

2. Never assume anyone knows what you're thinking. Communication is vital.

i used to have this issue where i'd think that if someone knows me well enough, they should be able to read my mind 😆 i have grown out of it thankfully and now i recognize that it's wrong to have that expectation from someone. sure, someone can know you well enough to know what's bothering you most of the time, but if they can't figure it out, you shouldn't get mad at them for it. no one is a mind-reader. you have to communicate with each other.

3. Trust your gut. If you don't think it's gonna work out, end things. Prolonging the inevitable will only lead to more heartache and pain. Cutting losses and walking away isn't selfish or wrong.

oh gosh, a lot of people need to hear and remember this. lots of people end up staying in relationships despite being unhappy because they are too afraid to let go, especially when they have gotten used to having that person in their lives for a while. the fear of the unknown is understandable but the pain isn't worth it in the end. dragging things out can often just make them ugly.

4. If your beliefs don't mesh, it's most likely going to cause issues at some point, unfortunately.

5. It won't somehow magically work out if you love someone hard enough.

absolutely. love isn't enough to make relationships last. there are other factors to be considered and you can't always love all the problems away.

I'll do the friendship part later. My brain needs a break from all the thinking 😆

i agree with all of these! thank you for sharing 🤗

They can become your friends. But don’t turn your back on them

Originally posted by: wat_up

Reserved will answer the below question soon.

now coming to the main question of the thread - what are some important lessons that you have learned from your past relationships?

romantic:

Casual :

friendships:

these can be romantic relationships, friendships, or relationships that fall in any other category.

sounds good 😌