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Originally posted by: bollyqueen0

TM's original post? It was rated R. Mai bata nahi sakti 😒

Acha

Mai late ho gaya

Originally posted by: HearMeRoar

I have a question. Will it still be ok if a groom asked the bride if she is a virgin on their wedding night?

The bride is legally the wife now. She's in a conservative society, with presumably conservative family (arranged marriage and all). Bride's not a virgin. She has no clue how this new guy is going to react. She lies.

Then, would it be ok for the groom to be upset he wasn't her first?

Most people on this thread supporting the OP would be up in arms about what a knuckle-dragging Neanderthal hubby was, and they'd be right.

Sorry, adults getting married should expect the other person to have had a life and made choices before. What's important is what comes after.

If virginity was so darned important, the question should've been asked before she said yes.

ETA. I believe the OP is either a tv-show writer doing market research or simply making this up for entertainment. Too 80s Bollywood to be real.

@bold

If I'm not wrong she asked about it few weeks before the marriage, but he denied it right? That's why she was also hurt about him lying?

Diwali ke chakkar mein mei story bhool gayi but as far as remember she said yes for marriage after asking that question I think.

Anyway I'm not trying to take the sides but this part in bold caught my attention isiliye I wanted to confirm.. lol😆

OP, do what you think the best for your state of mind. Its your life. Outsiders will say a lot of things. Some will makes sense, some won't but no one knows your life, your situation, you ; more than yourself.

I completely can understand what is hurting you. But past is something we can't change, no matter how much right or wrong it seems. What matters is present.

You can very well ask him why did he lie when you asked him. However, don't stress that point. Because, it was in his past & you were not there then. What you should focus on are the present issues. (I know it's easier to say & if it was you in his place, he'd not probably even think about giving you a chance - the world is a mess like that but anyway)

- What is it that made you feel unwanted, unloved.

- You heared him taking his ex's name in his sleep. Ask him if he still loves her.

- Are they still in touch.

- If so, why did he marry you. Why didn't he say that he still has feelings for his ex, when you had asked him before marriage.

Last of all, even if you felt unloved, there are also many other aspects in a relationship :

- Does he respect you? Treated you well all this while.

- His nature, behaviour in general towards you & your family.

- Did he ever lie to you apart from the one about his ex?

Consider all these points & do what's best for you. Life is unpredictable, girl! I hope instead of giving too much important to who loves you & who doesn't, you love yourself & you are financially secure. You have a baby to care for as well.

Don't take stress SIT down with yourself 1st. Think everything through. Then, Ask him, get your answers. Start a fresh. Prioritise yourself.

Originally posted by: HearMeRoar

I have a question. Will it still be ok if a groom asked the bride if she is a virgin on their wedding night?

The bride is legally the wife now. She's in a conservative society, with presumably conservative family (arranged marriage and all). Bride's not a virgin. She has no clue how this new guy is going to react. She lies.

Then, would it be ok for the groom to be upset he wasn't her first?

Most people on this thread supporting the OP would be up in arms about what a knuckle-dragging Neanderthal hubby was, and they'd be right.

Sorry, adults getting married should expect the other person to have had a life and made choices before. What's important is what comes after.

If virginity was so darned important, the question should've been asked before she said yes.

ETA. I believe the OP is either a tv-show writer doing market research or simply making this up for entertainment. Too 80s Bollywood to be real.

Moral of the story: keep count of the bitches you banged.