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Originally posted by: Ananya1404

I was a normal middleclass girl. I didn't had any affairs before marriage. I had an arranged marriage 2 years ago. He was the first guy I ever fell in love with. He told me few weeks before marriage that he had in a relationship with his colleague. Due to her family's opposition they didn't marry. They broke up. And now she is married to another guy. I was sad hearing this. Because he was my first love. But I am not his first. Then i asked whether they had any sexual relation. He strongly denied it telling he hadn't done anything. They weren't that close.So I decided to let it go.

After 1.5 year of my marriage when i was 7 months pregnant i get to know from some where that he used to have physical relationship with her. When i asked him with evidence he couldn't deny it. I was heartbroken knowing it. But still I didn't tell this to anyone. I don't know what to do. I can't bear this at all. But I love him so much. Lot more than he do. Now my baby is 2.5 months old. I am still not able to decide what to do. Sometimes I decide to forgive him. But when I think about it, its so heartbreaking. It is getting really difficult. There is no single day in my life where I am not crying thinking about this. I am not able to decide thR Should i forgive him or leave him. I always felt he doesn't love me much. I do feel unwanted in his life often. Earlier i used to ignore all these. Now thinking everything its hurting so badly.

After few months of our marriage during one one night he was calling his ex name in sleep. He was doing things with me calling her name in sleep. I was so shocking for me. Does this means he still loves her and wants her.

@bold

Now you edited and added few more things

Sorry if I come across as sarcastic, How can anyone "do things" in sleep? Is it possible? unless he was dreaming to have s** with his ex.Why did you let him do anything with you when he was chanting his ex name?.. You should have slapped him hard to get him out of his dream

.. I'm sorry I'm not able to take this post seriously for some reason

Ye sab ideas mujhe kyun nahi aaye jab mai thok me mids bana raha tha

Originally posted by: Newbird

@bold

Now you edited and added few more things

Sorry if I come across as sarcastic, How can anyone "do things" in sleep? Is it possible? unless he was dreaming to has s** with his ex.Why did you let him do anything with you when he was chanting his ex name?.. You should have slapped him hard to get him out of his dream

.. I'm sorry I'm not able to take this post seriously for some reason

Yes, I edited. I wasn't sure whether to include it or not. Then i wanted to know others perspective on this.

And you asking about the dream. It was like only for few minutes. He was moaning her name in sleep. I was in a state of shock at that time. It happened last year.

Originally posted by: Ananya1404

Yes, I edited. I wasn't sure whether to include it or not. Then i wanted to know others perspective on this.

And you asking about the dream. It was like only for few minutes. He was moaning her name in sleep. I was in a state of shock at that time. It happened last year.

@bold

I can only laugh at this 🤣

If this is a writer testing out an idea, this is ridiculous. People have lives before they meet their significant others. Unlike what KJo says, you weren't dropped on earth for each other.

I have a question about speaking in dreams, is it that clear that one can make out what the other person is saying in sleep? People around me tell me that I make sounds like someone is choking me, when what I think I was doing was speaking with someone in my dream.

Also, who told you his ex's name? He himself? You should actually be upset with the person who told you about your husband's past. I'm sure their intentions were not right.

Originally posted by: TheMinion

I have a question about speaking in dreams, is it that clear that one can make out what the other person is saying in sleep? People around me tell me that I make sounds like someone is choking me, when what I think I was doing was speaking with someone in my dream.

Also, who told you his ex's name? He himself? You should actually be upset with the person who told you about your husband's past. I'm sure their intentions were not right.

He has a habit of speaking in sleep.

He never told me his ex name. I got to know it from other person.

Originally posted by: Ananya1404

After few months of our marriage during one one night he was calling his ex name in sleep. He was doing things with me calling her name in sleep. I was so shocking for me. Does this means he still loves her and wants her.

Let me move my bang so I can read this again.

He was doing something to you while sleeping and also saying her name?! While asleep?

Hey Ananya why did you remove the main post? 😲

As I started to feeling this post is not serious post.. Let me be honest and tell you what your story reminded me as soon as I read your post for the first time. There is a Tamil movie called "Sillunu oru kadhal"😆

A Couple had arranged marriage against their

will, but they have been happily married since 6 yrs with 5 yrs baby now. One fine day husband went to New York on his work purpose.. His wife while cleaning the house finds a diary and she starts reading diary, then the scene shifts to flashback of Hero's college days.. He was in relationship with a beautiful girl:

https://youtu.be/qS9OmYoX2cQ

Then they elope and do registered marriage but the girl's father who was a influencial politician come with goons to registry office, remove Mangalsutra from his daughter's neck and throw it aside and beat the hero very badly separating the love birds. He send his daughter to US or somewhere.Later Hero was forcefully married to main heroine(his current wife) by his family.

Then Flashback ends, and wife read the last line in the diary "How I wish at least one day I will get to spend a time with you I will live with those memories for a life time" That's what hero wrote about his Ex in the diary after separation with his Ex. His wife cry very badly reading this diary as her heart break into millions of pieces as she has not been aware about his husband already got married once in his college life.😆

Then scene shift to New York where her husband is missing his wife badly and sing this song roaming in the New York streets:

https://youtu.be/uP3Rc4Tw8TE

Husband come back to India after New York trip. He finds his wife's changed behaviour strange..

Then his wife pulls some epic stunt.. If you want to know what is that stunt, what happened next in their marriage you should watch the movie. who knows you get some idea what should you do😉

Your story reminded me of this movie I loved this movie and its climax 😍

Few seem to be projecting about being with sleeping before marriage and don’t like some want to be partner’s first and some just seem rude.

@TM - It’s completely okay if you wanted to be your man’s first. It’s okay to be hurt that he slept with someone else before you. However, he can’t change that now and it is wrong he lied to you about it. Perhaps he didn’t want to hurt you and lied. One can’t know for sure until you communicate to him about it. Please talk to him. As for him uttering his ex name, that’s messed up. I don’t know what to say other than for you to talk to him about this all and see to where to go from then. I wish you the best.