The Actresses Roundtable 2018 - Page 21

Originally posted by: Peanutbolt

@bold how is that a solution ? 😕 so just because someone is harassing me at work, I should shift the job ? Why should I be the one to lose, leave my job and go find somewhere else, just because people doesn't know how to behave ? and there are situations where people cannot afford to lose/shift the job...and even if we do complain and go to concerned authority, the victim has to go through so much shit...

Why is the responsibility on the victim and not on the harasser...? So Film industry is full of shitbags and predators, and aspiring actors who want to "preserve" their self respect should CHOOSE to walk out of their careers and not get abused...but we won't do anything to stop creating the environment in first place..

Originally posted by: TheSupergirl

@Dev, not everyone has the courage to do so ie speak up right there n then. Tanushree did speak about the sexual harrassment then n there when it happened but wasn't heard. Now when she spoke about it, and in the wake of the ongoing movement, she inspired many others to come out with their own story. I cannot believe u choose to question the women on why they kept quiet then? It doesn't make sense at all n its insensitive.

I completely agree that women should be made self sufficient to deal with such situations but until we as a society don't work towards it, nothing will change. Until reforms are actively instituted in various places, how do u expect women to defend themselves..its not about just martial arts, its about entire personality building so that we are not rendered weak, at least in case of the older women who get harrassed at workplace.

Blaming women for not coming out with their story then n there is not right especially because of all the victim shaming that goes on in our society. Tab bola ho ya ab, they need to be heard and those who have committed such crimes need to be punished. There is absolutely no two ways about it.

Rani n u are doing the same thing-blaming the victim and putting responsibility on the victim for the sexual assault. If she cannot defend herself, it doesn't mean she is to be blamed. She should learn to defend herself, for her own safety but if she can't or if she didn't, then we as a society should atleast be a bit sensitive to her story and not brush it as weakness on her part. This is a major part of the problem.

Stop blaming the victim for something that happened to him or her against their will. They did not choose this.

Originally posted by: *Dev.*

Hey,

So what is the solution according to you?

Why can't you shift your job?

Also after complaining, you can expect some action being taken against the harraser. But keeping quiet will NEVER help. This is what I mean.

Yes job is important but is it more important than your self respect????

You decide what you want ...it's your choice. Either speak up or take it. Speaking up is always good...it may Not be solution bit it may save you from further loss or can make others aware. People can come to support you as well that way.

I understand you. For creating safe environment, action and safety measures should be there. It's everyone's responsibkires to create healthy atmosphere work place. 😊

Originally posted by: TheSupergirl

@Dev, not everyone has the courage to do so ie speak up right there n then. Tanushree did speak about the sexual harrassment then n there when it happened but wasn't heard. Now when she spoke about it, and in the wake of the ongoing movement, she inspired many others to come out with their own story. I cannot believe u choose to question the women on why they kept quiet then? It doesn't make sense at all n its insensitive.

I completely agree that women should be made self sufficient to deal with such situations but until we as a society don't work towards it, nothing will change. Until reforms are actively instituted in various places, how do u expect women to defend themselves..its not about just martial arts, its about entire personality building so that we are not rendered weak, at least in case of the older women who get harrassed at workplace.

Blaming women for not coming out with their story then n there is not right especially because of all the victim shaming that goes on in our society. Tab bola ho ya ab, they need to be heard and those who have committed such crimes need to be punished. There is absolutely no two ways about it.

Rani n u are doing the same thing-blaming the victim and putting responsibility on the victim for the sexual assault. If she cannot defend herself, it doesn't mean she is to be blamed. She should learn to defend herself, for her own safety but if she can't or if she didn't, then we as a society should atleast be a bit sensitive to her story and not brush it as weakness on her part. This is a major part of the problem.

Stop blaming the victim for something that happened to him or her against their will. They did not choose this.

Originally posted by: Charaiveti

Oh wow🥱 I wonder how Rani's martial arts eouldvwo worked here. 😡

Originally posted by: Peanutbolt

my point is why should it first come to that place...Like why should I be in a situation where I have to take such a decision...why should I go through the trauma...My solution probably would be is to create a fear in the perpetrator, say like a no tolerance policy, the consequences of an action and the strict implementation...Not many work places have this...and most of the sexual harassment at work is power dynamics...we are so busy asking the victims to be careful but not doing anything to the perpetrator...if we start shifting the responsibility from the victim to the harasser and have strict consequences be it by law/committees/boards...we can have some change...other wise for next 200 years, we will be still blaming the victims for not being too careful/not choosing to stand up for themselves..

Originally posted by: anjs

Exactly... even though the woman was tough enough to complaint to higher authorities, she lost her job... also if a woman is tough and say gives a karate chop to her boss, what is the guarantee that he will learn the lesson and wont approach another weaker looking woman ?

Important thing is that law becomes so strong that the perpetrator fears it and if they know that the society will back the victim and sham them only, then they might have some fear and not approach any women like that...