why can't Men do Household Chores like Us??: Vidya Balan - Page 2

Originally posted by: bips

That's amazing that in your family it works this way

.. But it is assuredly not a norm in a majority of households

Btw, chef is a job... A paying profession... And doing housework is completely different...

Also notice how you say that your brother "helps" your bhabhi... Implying its her duty to do housework whereas he lends her a helping hand... I help my friend do her homework but essentially it's her responsibility...

Ps: May be you didn't mean it that way but thats the general attitude I'm talking about - that men 'help'.. Its not really their job

what u point out is technically correct..
help word in this context does mean that women are supposed to do
it n when men does it turns into help..
bt then what should be the correct phrase ?
that my bro does the laundry ?
when a man n a woman marries they both take oath to help each other
to run the family smoothly..so in that context the word responsibility is nt used
bt help is used..taking responsibility means that there will be no alternate to the
specific duty..like if a man n woman is married they will not go around with other man
n woman now that is responsibility that comes with marriage..
whereas today wife fell sick so husband does the dinner is really a makeshift
arrangement..nt that every man will say honey i make breakfast lunch dinner
also earn
all u do is just come get married to me n give me ur womb to get us our children..
is it nt?
everything has a feasibility..
no use talking hypothetically n idealism ..
lets be practical..
a wife needs security protection n cooperation from husband..
a husband needs love care attention n both needs a functional
family with kids n all n proper management to run day to day chores..
as long as boh helps each other it will nt be a dysfunctional family ..
simply put i meant this by the term help..
no one actually duty bound..neither my mom is duty bound to cook
nor my dad duty bound to go fetch vegs..bt together they do their part
as life is nothing bt cooperating with each other n helping each other
with better management of time n available resources..

as for the chef ..u are right again..that household work n being chef is different..
bt i replied in context that who says men are nt good at doing the jobs that
women can do?they are evn better at it..
from tailoring to cooking men are as much efficient as women..
only thing is that some men does say i am the man so why should i do
house work..
again ur right my family is better in this matter..here we neither compete nor
grumble ..rather we adjust n cooperate to the best of our limited ability to end
the day smoothly n on a happy note...

I am.not exaggerating when i say my dad taught me how to cook, how to sweep and how to do.a lot od household chores when i was 14, when my mom was busy studying for her mphil exams.

Originally posted by: anu023

I am.not exaggerating when i say my dad taught me how to cook, how to sweep and how to do.a lot od household chores when i was 14, when my mom was busy studying for her mphil exams.

In contrast to usual moms teaching kids , it was my dad who taught me a lot of.stuff.since i am.Mostly away from.home and my sister is in a very busy curriculum, my dad and.mom.do.all.the household work before and after coming back from.their respective workplaces. Mom does all the cooking and dad all the cleaning.same is the case in almost all my relatives houses where both man and wife work. Post 1990s things have changed alot actually. Feminists will never understand that anyway.

i really do not understand such feminism where actually the woman is calculating all day
what did i get out of this marriage..why should i do house chores why my husband wont
do..marriage is not comparing ur contribution with ur husband or other family members..
the minute it is reduced to being weighed like oh what did i achieve what did i gain
that very minute the marriage is reduced to an unhappy marriage..
i do not support such unhappy marriages in the name of feminist rights..

I had read somewhere before. Vidya had mentioned, she does not know how to cook and she does not cook (post marriage interviews).

Originally posted by: 2RsFan

Cos the society is patriarchal

Originally posted by: Parvati..

I wouldn't want to see my dad do household chores.EVER. No girl with a little respect for her dad would like to see their dad with broom or rag in his hand cleaning house. It's disgusting to make him do all that. Feminists are pathetic humans anyway. Sane people should avoid listening their crap.

But if you feel happy seeing your dad in that condition good for you. I am happy with my family set up. To each their own.

It's a mindset. A patriarchal mentality that NEEDS TO CHANGE. HIGH-TIME!!!

Originally posted by: Parvati..

I wouldn't want to see my dad do household chores.EVER. No girl with a little respect for her dad would like to see their dad with broom or rag in his hand cleaning house. It's disgusting to make him do all that. Feminists are pathetic humans anyway. Sane people should avoid listening their crap.

But if you feel happy seeing your dad in that condition good for you. I am happy with my family set up. To each their own.

Originally posted by: -MOTHER-

Are you serious? Would you like to see your mom clean the house?