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advantage over other married actresses?
First of all, let's keep this a clean discussion. Leave any dissing, aggressive or personal attacks out of the topic please. I'm not claiming to be an expert on the matter, just throwing some ideas out and thinking. Also, my statements are geared as generalized. For the majority. So when I discuss Desi married women, I'm talking the majority, the mango people. The families you may know in your neighborhood, or at work, etc. The ones with the traditional values, etc.
First of all, let's keep this a clean discussion. Leave any dissing, aggressive or personal attacks out of the topic please. I'm not claiming to be an expert on the matter, just throwing some ideas out and thinking. Also, my statements are geared as generalized. For the majority. So when I discuss Desi married women, I'm talking the majority, the mango people. The families you may know in your neighborhood, or at work, etc. The ones with the traditional values, etc.
I was thinking how being married into a film family like the Pataudis might be advantageous for Kareena as an actress.
1) I think one of the biggest change Desi women face after marriage is (usually) they have to alter their behavior now that they're married, due to "izzat" of khandaan, or husband or something or the other. Since a lot of them marry into non-filmy households, I'm guessing the in laws aren't as liberal as their own families about letting them continue their careers they way they did, or perhaps wouldn't like seeing them being intimate with an actor.
Since Saif's mother was a commercial actress who continued to work after marriage, Kareena probably doenst have to deal with the stereotypical sasural that most desi woman deal with.
Not just his mom, but even Saif's sister is an actress. He's been raised in a family of actresses, so having a wife who's also an actress might be easier to adapt. That "no kissing" clause was completely self imposed by her. So when she realized that she's not gonna find a lot of scripts without intimacy, it was also in her control to change her mind.
2) CHILDREN! I think one of the biggest hurdle actresses face post marriage when it comes to career is family planning. When do they have kids? And once they decide to start a family, taking that gap to have children and then giving them the right amount of time, while also taking time to get back in shape does set them back in an Industry that has cut throat competition for actresses, which new faces being churned out every month and our society unfortunately favoring youth. (Which is sad! I think most of our experienced actress in their 30s and 40s are much more stunning and have more charm than the youngsters today). In marriage, these kinda decisions are complicated coz what if the husband wants to start a family? How long can you possibly delay.
Kareena is in a different situation since Saif already has kids, so he's not in a rush to have more. In fact, its also likely he's left the decision to have children on Kareena. Gives her a little bit more flexibility.
What do you think?
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