I would like to say first, Rashi, that this DOTW concept is really interesting and thanks a lot for the wonderful questions!
1.) Whats your definition of marriage
***Well, according to me, Marriage is a gift from above! Only you can decide how to treat that gift***
Marriage is a journey filled with moments, Full of sweetness, love, joy and peace;. A journey of two people, fully committed to each other, through different shades of life. While the years fly by, time strengthens this great bond with love, complete dedication, understanding and above all, commitment of faith and loyalty, through good and bad times, in sickness and in health!!
2.) You want love marriage or arrange marriage...if ur already married then did u have an arrange marriage or love marriage
Since childhood, I have been dreaming of my own Raajkumar (Prince Charming), who will step into my life and fill it with friendship, love, happiness and above all understanding! We'll fall in love, get married, and make our own world. So obviously, I do prefer Love marriage.
It's not that I'm against arrange marriage, but if an arrange marriage is supposed to be fixed like this: "This the is guy you have to marry and after marriage love will happen actually…!" I would not want that.
But yes, if it could be an "arranged cum love marriage", where u get to know each other very well before getting married- by getting engaged at first - ( like in the movie Vivaah as described in the preview) then I have no objection at all!
3.) Desribe ur ideal dream man or dream women
My ideal dream man is a tall, attractive, good-looking and intelligent person, with a manly voice and a great physique (in short someone like Hrithik Roshan). However, that is only what u see from outside nah! He must have a good-kind-hearted nature too, and the ability to understand and respect my family, values, feelings, my needs and Accept me the way I am and above all, he should love me and be faithful to me!!
Most important for me is that every time I'll see him My dil goes: " Yes, He is The one I laugh with, Dream with, Live for and Love.
4.) Lots of the members here live outside of India...and since i also like outside of India...my parents are always saying that it would be better for me to marry a guy from India rather than some1 from USA...do u guys feel the same pressure and whatz ur view on this
Well, I live in Suriname and the way parents, living outside India with their kids always keep saying that it would be better for their kids to marry a person from India rather than some1 from the place they live, most (Hindustani)parents in Suriname think their daughters would be better off married in Holland.
That is the way it is here (only in some families ok, don't get me wrong). Well not that there is a pressure, they are just Thinking that their daughters could get a better future in Holland.
My mom sometimes thinks this too, but she has never pressurized us( my sisters and me) in life, so whether we want to marry someone of Suriname or a foreigner, she wouldn't mind it, as long as we would live happily married after all!
5.) Parents always say that arrange marriage is the perfect marriage and only parents should have the right to pick ur groom or bride...what do you say and is arrange marriage longer lasting than love marriage
Well, my parents have always said that we are free to choose our jeevan saathi, because their marriage was a love marriage! And everytime I looked at them I said to myself, this is what I want too, the trust, the love, the understanding, you know!
I feel that Parents do have the right to pick ur groom, why not? They are after all your parents and they always do what they think is best for you nah? Nevertheless, they should also give you the chance to discover if the chosen person is perfect for you. After all, you are the one who has to live a whole life with that person nah?
I don't think an arrange marriage is always longer lasting than love marriage!! Both arrange and love marriage can be long lasting. In some cases arrange marriages are longer lasting than love marriages and in other cases love marriages are longer lasting than arrange ones.
I believe that whether it's arrange or love marriage, a marriage can only be long lasting when there is love, complete trust, understanding and respect for each other!!!
6.) Any extra things you want to add about marriage or anything related to that topic
I think that after marriage your real journey begins. Getting married is your choice and easy, but to make that marriage successful is your destination and the real art. Moreover, I think one has to understand that a marriage has not to be treated as a toy, which you enjoy playing with for some time and when fed up, you just leave/ break it or buy another one. (Better said in Hindi: Shaadi koi khel nahin jisse jab chahe apna liye aur jab chahe chodd diya!)
Marriage is a mutual commitment of love, understanding and trust, for your whole life, where both partners have to learn what their strengths and weaknesses are and how to improve them to make a success out of their marriage.
Most important is that you marry a person, whom you can laugh with, Dream with, Live for and Love. And hopefully your partner feels the same too!
7.) Finally any last comments on the movie itself and star cast
Well, obviously I've been waiting to see this Movie! The promo's are very sweet & cute and I love the songs, esp. "Do anjaane ajnabee"! I've always loved Sooraj barjatya's movies, esp. Maine Pyaar Kiya and Hum aapke hai kaun, and after reading the preview my expectations are very high and I think every single girl(boy) will definitely learn something out of it about arrange marriages and the beautiful phase from engagement to the actual marriage itself.
About the starcast, I think Amreeta & Shahid make a wonderful couple and it'll be good to se them together again!
I hope the movie does very well!!
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