I allowed someone to have sex with me at the age of 9: Kalki K - Page 5

Originally posted by: AllBlacks1

The question is... if she had "sex" with a 10 years boy? Thats not a rape.

Originally posted by: Enycedoll

if she's traumatized, i doubt its because it was with a 10 year old. Can 10 year olds even get erections to penetrate?

Originally posted by: AllBlacks1

And 9 years get penetrated by an adult male.. she wud be in somuch pain bleeding endlessly.. she can never hide it from family or in school.

I dont doubt her... but her statement is so casual. Its a serious issue and as adult now, she shud know it better.

Just coz other celebs mouthing my choice, cleavage and depressions.. dosnt mean every1 follow the path.

Child sexual abuse is very very serious offence,

Originally posted by: ibelieveinpink

Cuz she was 9, naive and probs no clue what sex is. We don't know about the pertrubator, but in most cases it's someone she probably knew and easy access, like a relative or baby-sitter sort type persona. It is if that person is an adult. I don't think parents have the sex talk with children that young so I wouldn't blame the school system or parents.

I understand that this is why I blamed her parents and guardians.

Even if you don't tell about sex you have to tell the child about touch, tell the child not to allow anybody to touch her inappropriately and tell her to share everything with you.

A parent should build trust enough for child to never hide anything from them.

You don't need to have talk about sex. But you can always talk about touch. And you can always be alert, keep an eye on your child and her behaviour. If you notice a change or something awkward then try to know what its cause is. Parenting is not just about providing food, clothing and schooling to kids! It's much more than that.

No way her parents can be absolved of any blame.

Originally posted by: IAmLuvBolly

I don't agree with her use of the word allowed as I explained above. Again, at 9 years of age a child does not have the intellectual, emotional maturity or legal right to consent or "allow" any type of sexual act to happen. Considering how intelligent she seems otherwise her us of the word allowed leads me to believe that she is still carrying some residual, or maybe not so residual feelings of guilt and self hatred because of this.

I cannot believe that people are actually trying to dispute that she was sexually abused and molested because at age 9 she "allowed" it. This is a very serious and frightening notion here.

Sex is a very taboo subject and parents are not always comfortable discussing it with their children and are not ready to for their questions. This is unfortunately something that transcends all cultures and countries. That's why education is so important. Parents need to get over their discomfort and shyness and teach their kids right and wrong before someone else does it for them. Parents cannot be with their kids 100% of the time. And if you have a friend or a relative you trust then you don't even twice about it. That's why there should be open lines of communication to talk about everything and anything. But when a child is molested it's no ones fault but the molester's. No ones!!!!

Let's set record straight here.

The use of word "allowed" changes everything. It means she was not forced.

Again blame the crap choice of words instead of blaming others.

It is not like no one blamed her molester. But blame is on her parents and guardians for not even teaching her about touch. You may not directly talk about sex but at least teach kids about appropriate and inappropriate touch. Atleast teach them to share everything with you no matter what. Build that level of trust as parents!
It's parents' fault if they taught her nothing, were not even trusted this much that child shared something with them, were neither vigilant nor perceptive. A real parent can sense change in child's behaviour and tries to find out what happened. How can a parent remain this clueless and disconnected?

BTW, we have to examine juvenile related issues. How are they giving consent or indulging in such acts? In many cases the molester himself is a juvenile. How are they getting to know about these things and trying it out and are adults this blind and clueless? It's failure of adults here for not teaching anything and not setting any limits.
In some cases, juveniles refuse to cooperate if there is a police case and keep saying that the one who did it with them is innocent. How can matters be addressed then?
These days even telling them about law is becoming useless. They don't care.
A lot of debate and rethinking has been going on given the behaviour of juveniles.

I think law is too lenient on them. That brutal juvenile in Nirbhaya case also got let off easily. Identity is protected and after some time he will be set free.

It's nice. Don't even discipline them, don't keep an eye on them, don't teach them anything, don't blame or punish either. While they get a free pass no matter what they do and what problems their actions throw up for society.

I dont know what happened when she was 9... but as an adult.. shez still talking like a child.

Originally posted by: Enycedoll

Not true in every case. Pain?, yes.

I think i can relate to what she said, and y she used the term '' allowed ''..

I remember Kalki saying that she ran away from home one day keeping Rs 5 in her lunch box. Roamed around until the evening, got scared and came back expecting her parents to interrogate her. But her mom just slapped her and asked why she was late for dinner. Her parents were hippies and I guess not very responsible.

Originally posted by: Scorpio_Velvet

I remember Kalki saying that she ran away from home one day keeping Rs 5 in her lunch box. Roamed around until the evening, got scared and came back expecting her parents to interrogate her. But her mom just slapped her and asked why she was late for dinner. Her parents were hippies and I guess not very responsible.

Her parents are a joke.

Absolutely insensitive, disconnected and irresponsible if these stories are anything to go by.

Guess having a kid was their choice. But connecting with her and taking care of her was not their choice. Disgusting parents for any kid to have.