Harman talks about PC, Shahid...Cont discussion

Originally posted by: laly

On his birthday today, Harman Baweja talks about his past, present and future

If you'd asked me about Harman Baweja (Yes, it is no longer Hurman) a few months ago, I would've told you he is a sweet chap, who is immature, has a God complex and he feels persecuted. But that's changed now. I still think he is alright but he has now matured, shed his insecurities and is at ease with who he is. What else has changed? He is no longer with his girlfriend of five years, Priyanka Chopra.

Has be changed because of the split or in spite of it, isn't important. What matters, is that he isn't looking back. Today on his 29th birthday (he doesn't look it though), for the first time, he talks about his life, his work, his (now ex) girlfriend and bonding with Shahid (now PC's ex). It's hard to keep track of all that's changing. So without any further delay, read on to discover the new and improved Harman Baweja

Today is your first 'single' birthday in five years, how do you plan to celebrate it?
I have no plans. But let me tell you that I haven't had a birthday party since I was 18. Every year, my sister or my friends throw a party for me. And I am hoping this year too, it will be the same.

You are turning 29 and you were in a serious relationship for five years... so am I right in guessing you are going to stay far, far away from a serious relationship now?
Yes, no more serious relationships for me. And when I do get married it will be to a nice Punjabi girl from Chandigarh that my mother selects for me.

Very filmi.
Maybe. But that's what I believe right now. Have even told mom about it.

Your mom and also your sister were rather close to Priyanka. Did their equation with her change?
No, they are friends and still talk. And my family is not like that. If they accept someone, then it is for life. And I am not the sort of person to tell them not to be friends or close to anyone just because I am not. Also, Priyanka is a lovely girl. We may not be close anymore but nothing changes that.

Did you go through the whole getting over a serious relationship by having meaningless trysts with whosoever was available?
(Laughs) You know how it is, when you are feeling down, your buddies take it upon themselves to pull you out of that hole you've crawled into. My friends too did that. They would drag me out and they'd ask a lot of girls out too. And we'd party all night. I don't like to drink too much, when I do, I love shots and once you've downed a few, you and are willing to try anything.

Do you blame Priyanka for you both drifting apart?
No. I blame myself. She kept asking me to give her time but I didn't. I couldn't. After two flops, I felt a lot of pressure to do well in my third film. I got too engrossed in it. I got too close to the project. Too involved. In fact, Ashu Sir (Ashutosh Gowariker) used to tell me, 'we are not used to people getting into our space. We don't let any actor do that.' But I crossed all boundaries. I was involved at every stage, every level. What's Your Raashee was very important to me.

Are you happy with the way WYR shaped out?
Yes, I am happy that Ashu Sir was not disappointed after signing me, the critics gave me appreciation too. I wish the film had been successful as well. Right now I would take a hit over anything else, even praise.

So ultimately your relationship got sacrificed at the altar of success. A lot of people felt that Priyanka broke it off after Victory bombed. Have you ever believed that?
No. I have never believed that. And only two people know what went wrong between them. And I don't think success of failure changes anything friendship of relationship.

It is generally believed that in your head you are a superstar. Has that changed?
(Laughs out loud) I would have to be put in an asylum if I still believed that after three releases. But yes, I know people believed that of me.

And with good reason?
Maybe so. Maybe my attitude was wrong. (Thinks) I was new to the industry. I was told to behave in a certain way by people who have been here longer, and that's what I did.

You mean Priyanka?
(Smiles) No. But there are a lot of people who tell you what to say, what to do, how to behave. And because you are new, and you want to make a good impression, you try and be something. After a point, I realised that I just had to be myself, because I was not comfortable being something or someone else. What you see now, is the real me.

You recently went upto Shahid Kapoor and talked to him at a party. That's a sign of maturity. Ho much did that have to do with knowing that he and PC are no longer together.
No. (shifts uncomfortably) I just felt like talking to him. And he was equally warm. I have to say that it was not weird at all because of the way he was when I talked to him. I have known Shahid. When he was with Bebo, we often went on double dates. And he is a really nice guy.

You never watched Kaminey?
I couldn't bring myself to see it.

Because it's on the set of this film that it all started?
Hmm... I just didn't want to see the film. I thought I would be okay, but as the day kept coming nearer, it was all around and therefore, harder to bear. I just booked tickets and left the country. I have three friends from different parts of the world. We all met in Sicily and had a blast. And by the time I came back, I was ready for anything.

Isn't it true that you were at a party and someone played Dhan Te Nan, and your friends rushed over and had the DJ change the song?
(Grins) Yes, my friends did that. It was hard for me to even hear the songs of that film.

So... ready to see it now?
No. I don't think I will ever see it. I still haven't watched Aitraaz.

Must've been difficult to shoot WYR? with Priyanka?
Yes, it was. There was a lot of awkwardness. It was hard to see her talk on the phone and text. I knew what was happening.

One time, you broke down on the set one time, and Sunita (Gowariker) asked you to go home, right?
(Hesitantly) It was right in the beginning. We were all having lunch and she got up and left saying she wanted to rest in the van, and just before she left, I got a message saying that she will now make an excuse and leave. At that moment, it became real for me. Sunita saw how disturbed I was, and she just said: Leave. And I left without saying a word to anyone. I even left my phone sitting there on the table.

How did she break the news to you?
She hasn't told me yet. She doesn't accept it. She will never be able to tell me. Even when she is sixty.

Will it be awkward if you have to work with her again?
No, I don't think so. We are both professional and nothing can come in the way of that.