'I spoke out of turn.' - Tanisha - Page 13

Originally posted by: tajbutt

Is it possible that she started out with all the right arguments and now feels it is too late to make the change, maybeis afraid of the consequenceshence goes along pretending all is well??

Ofcourse its possible. A different take than what we have been discussing but it is highly possible that now she doesn't want to take a stand that would be explosive for her cuz Armaan is volatile and she has to to live under the same roof with him. Maybe she feels what is the use of doing so when others wouldn't take long to alienate her and she would become the target in nominations? Hmm, nice thought 😃

In the beginning Tanisha impressed me with her mature thinking...but the moment she became close to Arman her image took a major setback..

Originally posted by: yellowflower

Ok let me start from the start.

At the beginning Tanisha and Arman were not very close to each other infact Arman sort of disliked the fact the Tanisha became captain twice and he didnt become captain.

Every one was trying to be in the good books of Tanisha and Shilpa and Tanisha were almost instantly best friends on the heaven side.

Next Arman started wooing Tanisha with cheesy line likes subah subah aapka chehra dekhne ki aadat ho gayee hai , ghar jaake baht miss karunga.

Tanisha fell for Arman and she was heard saying I am very loyal "I am loyal to fault" .

She starts lusting Arman. I am not saying lusting is bad. I am saying it in a positive way.

Next some keeda starts dancing in her mind and all her rational thinking flew out of the window.

She started behaving partial and asked everyone to wish for Arman ji to transfer to heaven side in wishing wall and sends Andy to hell side inspite of Andy being the best performer in task.

Then the famous Arman ji ka Anda episode happened when Arman was locked in a cage for 9-12hours and he couldn't eat breakfast on time. After he is unlocked Shilpa serves his breakfast without eggs because already the money minting task started and hell side was supposed to buy food from heaven side.

Tanisha got furious about Arman's breakfast and started being all vindictive with everyone and alienates herself from others.

Rest is all history.

What I think is Arman do not love Tanisha. He is started using her to be in the game as majority contestants wanted to be in Tanisha's good book. On the other hand Tanisha somehow fell for him and lost all rational thinking. She likes to be dominated in relationship and Arman does that to her.

Or both Tanisha and Arman decided to play this game for footage.

But I think first option is more realistic as I don't think Tanisha is so low that she will stoop like this for footage.

Wow, very nice post 👏 You have given the perfect summary of Tanisha's behaviour from the beginning and the fateful connection that she made with Armaan that have fueled this discussion.

Going by what you have highlighted, Armaan started wooing Tanisha for the show and she fell for him hard cuz many people have agreed here that Armaan can be charming or a master manipulator. She found Armaan strong enough to be with her and protect her and went against the rest to make her regard for him obvious. This alienated her from the rest and this feeling has happened somewhere.

Your points say

- fear of isolation
- infatuation with Armaan
- mutual agreement to play the game together
- attraction towards dominating males

Read this, people, for the sequence of events and changing nature of Tanisha in the show

Originally posted by: bm2005

I think she is looking at armaan for a long term thing, cuz he is loaded (we have heard him boasting) and she 36.

So, you are saying he matches her stature, right? Also you feel the age is making her accept things she normally won't accept.

Originally posted by: poorvab

yes many times ive felt she's tooo clever to be used by someone like this but she's losin her self respect to such an extent that i find it difficult to accept a woman can do that😲

I guess I can safely conclude that you are in for the "obsessed in love" spin on Tanisha's behaviour. Going by the examples given by you, it is a high possibility of such a thing happening.

However, I also feel there are underlying causes to such an obsession. In my case, I had Daddy issues. My family is not very demonstrative in their love and I took rubbish because I didn't want to lose someone who brought that side of me out that had lain buried. So, I feel there might some incident making Tanisha that way if the theory that its a psychological cause is right.

Originally posted by: Vsoujanya

IDK but I feel like Tanisha thinks that he is her only support altogether, because everyone has some or another problem with her. Their families come from the same place, like when Arman said your family won't come to see you and mine won't like there is some connection there. i really don't know, but he was the one who started this whole thing. Im also guessing they both know each other from before the show prolly. But yea basically I think she believes that he will be the only "constant" supporter to her no matter what happens in the show.

Niiiccee. So your points are

- constant supporter in the House
- connection due to certain reasons common to both Armaan and Tanisha

Very plausible 😃

Originally posted by: atkt

Excellent , thought provoking thread gurl-enchantedji on the topic. You have managed it very well keeping everyone focussed on the issue at hand. Else it would have turned into nasty fan war in no time.

Being Abbas mustan fan, i thought this strange, unnatural love story in its final reel will reveal some twists with great comeback from rebellious Tani when she pays Armaan handful in his currency. I already ordered a carton load of popcorns, but alas looks like they will be wasted on cheesy romance of gaushala. I think i gave tani more credit than due.

I find tani a reserved lady , a muggle blood always in shadows of her sister which harmed her self-esteem irreparably. She had easy life, all decisions taken for her and looked after. Her being proud to be loyal to the fault is just her excuse to cover up her poor "independent" decisions in life.

Coming to BB, she enjoyed lot of support in first few weeks mainly due to her big family halo, but as this is a game, cracks are bound to form. IShe was unable to adjust to change of weather when things started going against her and her bruised muggle ego took a shelter in only other royal, abusive armaan. It feels classier to be insulted by srk than chunky by some warped thinking. Funnily, her own stand for armaan was the main reason for inclemental weather to begin with. But it could have been any other excuse in a game of one-upmanship.

The lady was unable to cope up with resistance and sided more and more with foul mouthed armaan who was content to play a lone game. But then it was his way or high way. She clung to him, content in morsel of affection. She learnt ways to pacify him, to make his majesty laugh and she took pride in this "achievement". Armaan, a frustrated bitter man, had ready justifications for all failures in his life which he cordially extended to her for her own use and now she found a new friend,ego healer.

Its always easy to look down upon someone than to make some one look upto you. She has now lost all her sensibilities to Armaan as he provides comforting answers for her shortcomings. This will continue till the end and once out, the family will take another decision for her and Armaan will be forgotten forever.

I may be completely wrong. I cant bear to watch the way she has projected herself on this show. Hope she gets well soon.

Thank you ji 😳

You never know. Your Abbas Mustan spin on Tanisha might come true. I would be so happy if that happens!
You're saying Tanisha's self esteem is in question being under the shadow of her sister's fame and success. Also, that she is using the loyalty card to cover up her poor judgements. Fair enough.

You also say that things started going bad for her and she took refuge in Armaan's company. Here, I would like to say that things were going well for Tanisha before the whole egg incident happened where she picked fights for Armaan with people for not giving him an egg. Reference to yellowflower's thread giving a summary on this. I think its either on the same page as this reply or a page back.

You also say Armaan is her ego healer. But isn't he the one bruising it the most? Won't it be better to stick to the other HMs who will never treat her that way even if they don't massage her ego?

it is bloody gaming now in bb which has made her do n behave like this n i hate her for all such 👎🏼

Originally posted by: divinity11

In the beginning Tanisha impressed me with her mature thinking...but the moment she became close to Arman her image took a major setback..

This is one aspect I don't like about her.

If she comes out of this blind love mode..she will again attain her positive self...but I doubt it is possible.

But then its her choice and she is an adult and knows fully well the pros and cons of this so called relationship.

Right. So you're going for the "blind love" angle. Fair enough. But my question is that aren't there layers underneath this obsession of a person towards another? A reason for this dependence? A need that has remained unfulfilled and is not seeking any means to be fulfilled?

I feel that people with normalcy in their surroundings do not go for a relationship that hits their self esteem. They know that is unhealthy and they are comforted by their belief in their self. Its people who have some underlying need that has remained unfulfilled and is seeking fruition, maybe some incidence or a trauma or social conditioning or immediate environment, that makes them acquiesce to these relationships.

Would you agree on this?