Shilpa says 'we were both Brahmins' - Page 7

Originally posted by: silverbug

The thing is it is questionable if she even said anything like that. She just mentioned that her friend thought Apoorva was a good match because they are both from UP and both are brahmins

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And even if she does think that she should only marry into Brahmins, who are we to call her regressive for that ? Plenty of celebrities out there who marry into their own caste, religion, whatever. They hold similar beliefs but don't usually say it out on TV. Shouldn't we hold them all to the same standards then ? I would only call her regressive and a casteist if she speaks in a demeaning manner towards other castes or ethnicities. I live here in United States and even here inter racial dating is still not as common as people think it is. Whites pretty much stick with Whites for the most part, Blacks stick with Blacks even in the most urban areas. Forget about rural America which is even more traditional. It doesn't necessarily have anything to do with racism but just a preference for similar cultural background for compatibility reasons. I have preference for girls of certain ethnicities over others (including my own) but it also means that I have to live with the fact that there are going to be compatability issues.

At the end of the day, every one should do what they deem as best for them and what makes them happy instead of trying to live up to some one else's standards. It's their life.

Originally posted by: -Cruiser-

Oh God!😲

Hope your parents come over their traditional beliefs, come out of the mental shackles and do what is right and that is hug you, your hubby and kids...and bless you all!😊

At times it pains me...its impossible to straight jacket our country and countrymen...Its India-Bharat-Hindustan...all at the same time and the three can have little similarity with each other over so many things!😕

Originally posted by: march2011

whatever..thats her life n decision so...

Originally posted by: dhakkan

White is not a caste but a race, Black too is not a caste, but a race, so u cannot compare a brahim with a white or black, u'll have to compare an indian with a black or white, race with a race and not caste with a race.

Originally posted by: silverbug

Yes, but the context is similar and the analogy still holds.

Besides caste has now transcended itself into tribal identities quite like the ethnicities in a western setting. People identify with it based on birth and lineage basis as opposed to the traditional meaning which was associated with the profession.

Originally posted by: dazzlingflora

agree

Originally posted by: dhakkan

sorry, the analogy doesn't hold in indian context...there are castes and subcastes and then communities...nothing to do with black or white race of US and Europe. Urban and upper middle class india doesn't believe in much of caste, it's only class, social status, education, etc.

Originally posted by: chappal_padegi

you are the perfect example of an indian gawaar remaining gawaar for ever even in america. and why are u telling us about ur sister? no indian must be willing to marry her so she must have married some one from bangladesh or africa or latin america.