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Originally posted by: Nachiketj

I am a solo Shehnaaz fan. I dont like this toxic SidNaaz relationship. Neither do I like her getting too intimate with Shukla. Infact I don't like Shomance on BB.

I have stopped watching BB13 long back but reading the updates I am aware of teh current status of SidNaaz and Shehnaaz.

But even after all this I still have a soft corner for Shehnaaz. I always believe in looking beyond what is shown to us. The reason for her behavior might be because of lack of parental love in her childhood. As she has always mentioned she stayed with her grandparaents & she didn't receive good treatment there. Such people kind of become rebels. Like what is defined good and decent in society they don't care crossing that line.

So I understand her somewhere though I don't approve her intimacy with Shukla. I will also not approve losing her self respect and gng back to shukla to be a doormat. But if u have got a childhood where ur own relatives have treated u like a mere servant ur self respect is killed. U feel this is the way life is there is nothing called as self respect.

I will never sl*t shame her on any public platform. She is not mean and bad heart at the end of the day that matters.

Above is entirely my opinion.

I agree Sana has many qualities that is what makes her likeable even if cut off this Sidnaaz thing. We all like looking beyond what's shown depending on for whom we hv a soft corner for. I had developed a soft corner for Sana too but her behaviour around Shukla repels me.

What about her grandparents ??? Has see told dis dt her grandparents treated her like a servant ?? I hvnt heard so asking .

Honestly as I said to someone else here.....many many people go through similar stuff in life . Yes they hv low self esteem and hv more tolerance for the shit thrown at dem but you hv to draw a line somewhere. Noone else can do it for you. The day you start accepting such shitty behaviour.......the other person won't be able to treat you dt way..is what I believe. Trust me people hv rose from much worse situations in real life.

Originally posted by: Sabhayata

What I want to understand is that is she like this in real life or is this just for game? If she is like this in real life then I agree with you more than judgement and empathy she needs help , real help. Some one to help her understand that she doesn’t need to take all this shit and crap. But I feel she isn’t like this in real life. In real life she would have kicked Shukla out long time ago. This is just because of game and stupid Sidnaaz angle promotion.

Suyaash Rai Kishwer's husband who knows her since they both come from Punjabi singing fraternity says she is like that only. She isn't fake. She had shared with him that she was scared of Himanshi controversy cropping up when she goes in BB.

Originally posted by: dahibhalle

I used to think like you and then my thinking changed- it's like you know people who are in physically abusive relationships and you see them staying on in those relationships even when they know it's dangerous to be in those relationships and it gets frustrating but you have to realise not everyone's made the same way and these people just need to know that there is support for them regardless.

I get your point. I do really. But all I am saying is those people hv to draw the line somewhere. No one else will or can do it for dem. They hv to decide where it stops .

Originally posted by: DaffodilsNew

I agree Sana has many qualities that is what makes her likeable even if cut off this Sidnaaz thing. We all like looking beyond what's shown depending on for whom we hv a soft corner for. I had developed a soft corner for Sana too but her behaviour around Shukla repels me.

What about her grandparents ??? Has see told dis dt her grandparents treated her like a servant ?? I hvnt heard so asking .

Honestly as I said to someone else here.....many many people go through similar stuff in life . Yes they hv low self esteem and hv more tolerance for the shit thrown at dem but you hv to draw a line somewhere. Noone else can do it for you. The day you start accepting such shitty behaviour.......the other person won't be able to treat you dt way..is what I believe. Trust me people hv rose from much worse situations in real life.

I have seen lot of USUD. She says "Naan" Ke ghar rehte the. I don't know what is Naan. I assumed grandparents. I maybe wrong. It seemed to be a joint family. She and Vishal were sharing their childhood experiences where both were treated as servants by their relatives.

In one USUD she shared how when her dad came in BB during family week was talking to her paal pos ke bada kiya hai tujhe. She was mocking that statement later. Kaha mere baapu ne mujhe paala aur posa hai mein toh naan ke ghar rahi hoon. She was laughing when She was saying but from inside she was hurt while saying this. This says a lot about her childhood.

Originally posted by: Nachiketj

I have seen lot of USUD. She says "Naan" Ke ghar rehte the. I don't know what is Naan. I assumed grandparents. I maybe wrong. It seemed to be a joint family. She and Vishal were sharing their childhood experiences where both were treated as servants by their relatives.

In one USUD she shared how when her dad came in BB during family week was talking to her paal pos ke bada kiya hai tujhe. She was mocking that statement later. Kaha mere baapu ne mujhe paala aur posa hai mein toh naan ke ghar rahi hoon. She was laughing when She was saying but from inside she was hurt while saying this. This says a lot about her childhood.

Nanke is maternal grandparents who lived in Beas where she was sent to study while her paternal grandparents and the rest of her family lived in a village.

Originally posted by: DaffodilsNew

I get your point. I do really. But all I am saying is those people hv to draw the line somewhere. No one else will or can do it for dem. They hv to decide where it stops .

Totally agree with this and I am one of those who would not tolerate this behaviour so I have had to learn to be emphatic to those who would.

Originally posted by: Nachiketj

I have seen lot of USUD. She says "Naan" Ke ghar rehte the. I don't know what is Naan. I assumed grandparents. I maybe wrong. It seemed to be a joint family. She and Vishal were sharing their childhood experiences where both were treated as servants by their relatives.

In one USUD she shared how when her dad came in BB during family week was talking to her paal pos ke bada kiya hai tujhe. She was mocking that statement later. Kaha mere baapu ne mujhe paala aur posa hai mein toh naan ke ghar rahi hoon. She was laughing when She was saying but from inside she was hurt while saying this. This says a lot about her childhood.

Okkk.

I won't say her grandparents were monsters coz I don't know dt much about dem. May be they weren't as gud as one expects them to be.

Saying from my personal experiences I know people who hv been in such situations or worse. But I they took it in a way that need to get themselves in such a position that they won't need to bow before people anymore and command respect.

I guess it's how one takes the experience and what one makes of it. Some take it in der stride , some get suppressed. Sometimes I do understand from where Sana comes from.....what makes her so vulnerable ......but then at other tyms I just can't take it how she lets one person walk all over her.

I like Sana, but don’t support her bond with Shukla. She has no self respect when in this relationship and she still runs behind him. Would have loved her if she was a strong independent women.

I’m not a San fan - there’s plenty about her I dislike. But I also find some about her that’s likable. Her behaviour with Shukla - her entire equation with him - is not likable in the least. And even if she were entirely unlikable, I’d still feel awful at how she allows herself to be treated.

I can empathize with the fact that she may have had a difficult childhood that’s conditioned her somewhat, that BB and it’s entire universe have made her game entirely about Shukla. But this is to an extent. There is always the element of choice - particularly when Sana often comes across as rather urbane and quite the rebel. I don’t believe she absolutely cannot make the choice to not tolerate such behavioir towards her. But she chooses to crawl back to that man time and again regardless. Given this, and my own mindset and view, a lack of self-respect of this magnitude - is almost impossible for me to empathize with.

Yesterday was the worst - I stopped watching the show ages ago, but I watched this bit yesterday, because it would be unfair to opine blindly - and what I saw revolted me. He treated her worse than he ever has on this show - said the most vile trash to her - and she nonetheless crawled back to him and pampered him.

Having seen that - I hope, truly hope that she is a complete fake - that this is entirely for the game - and that she’d never ever tolerate even 1% of this outside this house. For her sake - I truly hope that.

I have mixed views on this subject.

I know that sidnaaz is toxic, more for Shehnaaz than Shukla. The power dynamics are severely skewed and anybody with a tiny bit of critical thinking can see that she is being used, abused and discarded as per convenience.

But there are so many others who like watching the same and boast about the chemistry between the two. Not just fans but also celebrities who have entered the show, or tweeted about it.

Then for a girl, who has had a conservative upbringing in a remote village with limited access to modern ideologies, it would not seem abnormal. You need better role models or examples to discern what is right and what is beyond wrong. The way she talks about her mother, and ofcourse the stud father, I don't think she has had the same.

My point is, that if people cannot tell the difference while watching a 1 hour snippet, of what a good relationship looks like, then how do we expect the same from sana who is in fact living that life?

As for self respect-it is developed. And it works differently in different scenarios. I might take offense if someone who is supposed to be my partner calls me things, and not when an outsider does. Or it might be the opposite. Maybe I dont like listening to a friend insulting my intelligence, but tolerate it when a close relation does.

Asking Sana to behave in a certain manner would be akin to imposing our expectations on her.

I am not really a fan, but I've started sympathising with her recently. Sidnaaz is not her fault, it's the channel's. Her fault is that she is playing into their wily little schemes of creating a romance angle when it's anything but that!