Do you consider it bitching or concern? - Page 2

Originally posted by: Unfair_Salman

Himanshi conversation with Asim & Vishal. Himanshi says she was genuinely CONCERNED about Rashmi. 😭

What do y'all feel?

Ise kehte hai.. apni ullu seedha Karna..

Arthi ki zubani

I didn’t watch the episode, only read updates but if Rashmi was not in the conversation it was bitching according to me.. cuz Rashmi was inside the house. Whatever Himanshi had to say she could have said to Rashmi directly.... she should not have involved ViSim at all..... especially after BB reiterated that outside news should not be shared inside the house....... and I also read somewhere that Asim too told her not to say it.... so she shouldn’t have

Originally posted by: TrollikaDevi

Hmmm well I agree with the jist of that conversation...regardless of whether Arhaan is a fraud or not. Rashmi let herself down by being too soft to Shukla right after the aisi larki thing which cannot be really forgiven unless theres an apology from him. Rashmis behaviour is strange and unnecessary. It makes her look weak and even silly. If you ended up throwing tea on someone because u were being humiliated and provoked by someone forever...how do you act so mellow with that person out of nowhere?-Asim had asked her this too during the merry go round task.

So one could argue that was concern-the part where Himanshi criticises Rashmi for the above using Arhaan's rona as an excuse. Arhaan does have a point-He got involved in the whole thing FOR Rashmi ...so she s letting him down by acting as if Shukla is just another ( Him being fraud is a different story..From Himanshi's angle he is still Rashmi's lover so..)

Anyway if that was concern it was expressed in the wrong way at the wrong time to the wrong people so as i said already technically its bitching.

Rashmi did let herself down? Himanshi angle?

If himanshi is concerned about rashmi she should talk with her instead she is bitching and trying to prove arhaan as victim and how come concern for rashmi comes here? All 3 vishal, asim, himanshi dont have concern for rashmi....

Technically or logically , if a person talks bad about others in their absence is bitching and that too they are discussing about her personal life 🤷‍♀️

Just like this can be termed bitching so can the conversation between Sana, Arti and Rashmi be termed as bitching.

And Arti clearly said ki haan isko bhadkaana hi samjho.

But the fans of Rashmi are saying it was a genuine concern lol. This genuine concern goes out the door when their master Shukla is involved.

Originally posted by: sahisri

Rashmi did let herself down? Himanshi angle?

If himanshi is concerned about rashmi she should talk with her instead she is bitching and trying to prove arhaan as victim and how come concern for rashmi comes here? All 3 vishal, asim, himanshi dont have concern for rashmi....

Technically or logically , if a person talks bad about others in their absence is bitching and that too they are discussing about her personal life 🤷‍♀️

Its not that black and white. Sometimes its awkward to bring up something with someone especially when their partner or relationship is involved. In this case Rashmi has already been blamed and targeted throughout the show for every little thing she has done or hasnt done. So Himanshi probably felt uncomfortable telling Rashmi about this especially since Arhaan (who was a best-avoided topic) was involved.

This matter is not in the stricly personal zone. It has also been a part of the professional lives of all of them;Arhaan was a co contestant of all three of them on a reality show they were all part of professionally and Rashmi's behaviour in question i.e her new soft take on Shukla has also happened in a professional set up.

Yes Rashmi let herself down. And her friends who stuck up for her. By being unnecessarily friendly to Shukla the man who called her a s l u t among dozens of other horrible things he did to her.Suppose one of the admins of this site calls me a s l ut , controls my behaviour on this forum ,misinterprets my posts tries to ban me for no reason and humiliates me in public,accuses me of causing them illness by making burnt food..and you stand up for me...fight with the admins..and other users..this goes on for weeks and once fine morning if i suddenly start being mellow with this person..arent I letting myself down? Wont you feel let down? Thats what Im talking about.

Originally posted by: TrollikaDevi

Its not that black and white. Sometimes its awkward to bring up something with someone especially when their partner or relationship is involved. In this case Rashmi has already been blamed and targeted throughout the show for every little thing she has done or hasnt done. So Himanshi probably felt uncomfortable telling Rashmi about this especially since Arhaan (who was a best-avoided topic) was involved.

This matter is not in the stricly personal zone. It has also been a part of the professional lives of all of them;Arhaan was a co contestant of all three of them on a reality show they were all part of professionally and Rashmi's behaviour in question i.e her new soft take on Shukla has also happened in a professional set up.

Yes Rashmi let herself down. And her friends who stuck up for her. By being unnecessarily friendly to Shukla the man who called her a s l u t among dozens of other horrible things he did to her.Suppose one of the admins of this site calls me a s l ut , controls my behaviour on this forum ,misinterprets my posts tries to ban me for no reason and humiliates me in public,accuses me of causing them illness by making burnt food..and you stand up for me...fight with the admins..and other users..this goes on for weeks and once fine morning if i suddenly start being mellow with this person..arent I letting myself down? Wont you feel let down? Thats what Im talking about.

If what rashmi did is doen why asim went and told sorry to shukla? Dont point it always rashmi's mistake , shukla was initiating conversation with her and she even tries to avoid it multiple times and in last few days every one talking to each other then how come rashmi alone have to sit and sulk...all expectations only from rashmi 🤷‍♀️

Arhaan and rashmi might be professionally related to them but their past and about their personal life if they ate talking in absence of rashmi is called BITCHING....and they want to take sides and sympathize for fraud about whom they dont even know completely🤷‍♀️

Originally posted by: sahisri

If what rashmi did is doen why asim went and told sorry to shukla? Dont point it always rashmi's mistake , shukla was initiating conversation with her and she even tries to avoid it multiple times and in last few days every one talking to each other then how come rashmi alone have to sit and sulk...all expectations only from rashmi 🤷‍♀️

Arhaan and rashmi might be professionally related to them but their past and about their personal life if they ate talking in absence of rashmi is called BITCHING....and they want to take sides and sympathize for fraud about whom they dont even know completely🤷‍♀️

No all expectations arent from Rashmi. I have criticised Asim many times on this forum for apologising to Shukla. Rashmi does not have to sulk or sit alone if she avoids Shukla. Thats not a valid reason to be unnecessarily soft to him. When you are friendly to someone who degraded you but hasnt apologised you are sort of saying what he did to you isnt really a big deal and there by you are indirectly admitting you had overreacted. So thats a problem. Theres no harm in accepting she is wrong there. It doesnt mean we like her any less :)

Talking behind someones back doesnt necessarily mean bitching. Context has to be considered. Its bitching if u are doing it to slander that person and if u are not ready to discuss the same issue with the person youre talking about. In this case we dont know her intentions fully.

And..Himanshi is allowed to bitch. Everyone does it in that house. There is a whole spectrum of bitching. From convos like this that are inappropriate because its done behind someones back to full on backstabbing Jariwala style. There are degrees. Rashmi has bitched too. As her fans if we are ready to look into the context when she bitches then we should also do it when other contestants are caught bitching .

Originally posted by: TrollikaDevi

No all expectations arent from Rashmi. I have criticised Asim many times on this forum for apologising to Shukla. Rashmi does not have to sulk or sit alone if she avoids Shukla. Thats not a valid reason to be unnecessarily soft to him. When you are friendly to someone who degraded you but hasnt apologised you are sort of saying what he did to you isnt really a big deal and there by you are indirectly admitting you had overreacted. So thats a problem. Theres no harm in accepting she is wrong there. It doesnt mean we like her any less :)

Talking behind someones back doesnt necessarily mean bitching. Context has to be considered. Its bitching if u are doing it to slander that person and if u are not ready to discuss the same issue with the person youre talking about. In this case we dont know her intentions fully.

And..Himanshi is allowed to bitch. Everyone does it in that house. There is a whole spectrum of bitching. From convos like this that are inappropriate because its done behind someones back to full on backstabbing Jariwala style. There are degrees. Rashmi has bitched too. As her fans if we are ready to look into the context when she bitches then we should also do it when other contestants are caught bitching .

Rashmi has bitched sometimes, she herself accepted this but did she commented on any one personal life in their absence

Originally posted by: sahisri

Rashmi has bitched sometimes, she herself accepted this but did she commented on any one personal life in their absence

I repeat. What I was talking about is not a part of her 'personal ' life. Nobody discussed Rashmi's bank balance or sexual preferences or the pet names she has for Arhaan. Her behaviour towards Siddharth Shukla and how Arhaan(also a co contestant) and other housemates perceive it is a part of their professional lives .

Originally posted by: TrollikaDevi

I repeat. What I was talking about is not a part of her 'personal ' life. Nobody discussed Rashmi's bank balance or sexual preferences or the pet names she has for Arhaan. Her behaviour towards Siddharth Shukla and how Arhaan(also a co contestant) and other housemates perceive it is a part of their professional lives .

Rashmi love life is her personal matter and how she is dealing with arhaan is her personal matter and they are judging here rashmi and arhaan personal life