Saanjh is condemned when she acts insensible, by me and, i can't vouch for all of them but some sensible viewers that i know of. I for one, didn't approve of her going to mauritius or thinking maya has committed a crime by taking antidepressants and not telling Arjun.
As for today's episode, i totally get why Saanjh held his face in her hands. Arjun is her biggest weakness. He has the power to control her every action. After putting up a brave face throughout the wedding and thereafter, she fell weak when Arjun said ILU to her. Her love for Arjun made her weak and reduced her thinking power. I say this, not because I'm blindly supporting Saanjh, but because had this not been the case, she wouldn't hv seen the tattoo and come back to her senses. If she really was a homewrecker, she wouldn't have given a damn about the tattoo and would have gone ahead and kissed him. So a mistake has happened, surely, but it was quickly rectified by Saanjh herself. Now, coming to Arjun, i have said it earlier, he had no business leaving his pregnant wife and going to drink with Saanjh. It was totally wrong on his part. But this mistake, needs to be dealt with in the right way. What maya is doing is not justified, even if Arjun has hurt her because it simply is not the solution. What if tomorrow Arjun does the same thing with another girl? She being Maya will surely eliminate that girl too, and all the other girls/ppl that come in Arjun's life. End result? Arjun's identity will be reduced to Mr. Maya and nothing else. He will hv no friends but maya, no well wishers but maya. And the worst part? He won't even realise what's happening. And I'm sure that nobody deserves such a fate for just being close to their best friend.
About the holi spoiler. I will still not comment because then even if it's not the case, it will look like I'm blindly defending Saanjh, so i will rather wait until the episode airs to clear my doubts before commenting.
Mistakes are accepted when they are genuine and condemnable, it's just that some ArYa fans feel that anyone who speaks against maya is a Saanjh/Arjun/Vandana lover who has some hidden agenda against maya's character.