Saanjh has done nothing wrong - Page 4

Originally posted by: _Darling_

I didn't get Saanjh's logic about calling Arjun alone saying he doesn't listen to his wife? Like what was that? It didn't make sense, and why text Arjun like that? Any wife will be suspicious seeing such text about meeting again and how wife wouldn't find out. But then Saanjh didn't mean bad, so I will just let it pass.

I found Arjun to be the most at fault. I have never seen such selfish character in the show. Him and Vandana I have found to be the most selfish along with Ashwin. Arjun is fine as long as the other person is fine with him. If they get angry or anything, he gets a huge ego and doesn't care a bit to talk to them or anything.. When he thought Maya had sent those gifts to buy him before marriage, he went to talk to her. The talking was fine, but instead he was moving her chair making her go round which was so disrespectful. But then I thought she was his boss and he's stupid to not have any manners. But then he went and have misbehaved countless times with Saanjh and not caring a bit. What kind of friend is he? He's so selfish that he wanted her to stay caring only about his own happiness. He didn't even know she used to cry nights and be sad. Then he holded Vandana when he was talking to her about Maya. Basically he treats everyone bad and everyone is fighting over him is ridiculous. Tomorrow if ArYa has fight, hes gonna do the same with Maya.

Originally posted by: Intuitive

Good post. And I believe this is not some 17th century where a friend cannot pacify her friend. What was so horrible about that hug?

Saanjh is nowhere at fault in the hug scenario. I understand from where Maya's fears stem from, her father and Shipra. But, Arjun, being the husband must understand this and needs to maintain distance from Saanjh. He needs to understand Maya. Husband and wife's relationship is not just about romance, it needs understanding each other's emotional needs and emotional openness. And wasn't it Maya who stopped Saanjh when she was resigning?

Although I felt today she shouldn't have called Arjun to come to meet her,(she didn't know about Maya and Arjun's party though) and I felt Arjun had to have the minimum sense to not go when his wife wanted to celebrate with him. God, this guy is going to suffer a lot.

Originally posted by: kavsy

@bold: The question is not about pacifying a friend. Saanjh had loved Arjun and Maya had been finding a competitor in her. Though she and Saanjh have become friends, it remains somewhere in the sub-consciousness that she did try to separate Arjun from her. If Saanjh had not loved Arjun, then I don't think Maya would have minded it. First of all, it is necessary to touch the person while pacifying him/her?

If Arjun sees Maya's best male friend hugging her, how would he take it? I know that it is out of topic or may be an assumption but to get an answer, sometimes one has to think out of the box.

Originally posted by: kavsy

@bold: The question is not about pacifying a friend. Saanjh had loved Arjun and Maya had been finding a competitor in her. Though she and Saanjh have become friends, it remains somewhere in the sub-consciousness that she did try to separate Arjun from her. If Saanjh had not loved Arjun, then I don't think Maya would have minded it. First of all, it is necessary to touch the person while pacifying him/her?

If Arjun sees Maya's best male friend hugging her, how would he take it? I know that it is out of topic or may be an assumption but to get an answer, sometimes one has to think out of the box.

Originally posted by: Intuitive

I'm not saying Maya feeling so is not justified. Her way of dealing with it is wrong. But that's a topic for another day. Before a lover, Saanjh has been Dusky, Arjun's friend. What is wrong in a friendly touch? Is it necessary to even think about touching and not touching...It is not love where those awkward feelings regarding touch come up. Yes, Saanjh loves him. But what they have are usually friendly hugs..not romantic.

Regarding Saanjh understanding Maya's insecurity, didn't Maya stop Saanjh from going. What must Saanjh understand from it? Didn't she mean Arjun needs her as a friend?

I don't know how Arjun will react. Above I already said Mayas feeling is justified, because Saanjh loved him. However if Maya had a childhood friend, male..I don't think Arjun must get angry for Maya hugging her friends. He may or may not, but him feeling angry is not justified.

There is a difference between romantic hugs and friendly hugs. However each to their own.😊

Originally posted by: Intuitive

@Isha

Yup, for Maya it surely will be in the highest degree.😆My point is there is no point in bashing Saanjh here.

Probably yes, they arise, but I feel there should be a certain limit to that jealousy. When there is nothing wrong in a guy hugging his mom, brother, sister, why a friend? Yes, a friend is not family, but that is one of the most beautiful relationships out there.

Okay, I'll stop with my rant now.😆