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Posted: 7 years ago
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Till now I had never disliked Zoya but after realising d truth , that Yash was cheating her , I hope Zoya don't go in self blaming mode coz it's plain stupidity & regressive thinking, what will diff b/ w Madhu & Zoya then . Madhu want 2 whitewash Yash that's why she blame Zoya 4 betrayal , if Zoya also self blame herself 4 betrayal of Yash then I will develop a deep hate 4 this character.
I hope cvs don't show Zoya in self blaming mode

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Posted: 7 years ago
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I think we can expect tht Zoya will go into self blaming mood for the time being and tht is not strange either. There is no need to hate her for tht. Besides right from the start Aditya has also been rubbing tht into her face all the time, remember ??
Wht did Aditya say to her ??? Maybe u were not hot enough tht is why ur husband went to another woman, oh you cannot even cook and he might be hungry tht is why he went to another woman , why did ur husband cheat??? Becoz u were irritating him, being a nagging wife etc etc...what did her MIL say to her ??? Maybe u were the reason why my son went astray
Seeing how vulnerable Zoya is ...it is expected tht for the time being she will start believing all this crap and go into self blaming mood UNTIL she starts realizing tht is not true. Only then will she emerge from this
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Posted: 7 years ago
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I really hope so... Why should a person blame himself/herself for someone else's wrong deeds
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Posted: 7 years ago
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adi use to provoke her , it never literally blamed her , he did ask her to have self respect

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Posted: 7 years ago
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I wouldn't be surprised if Zoya does go into a self blame mode if Madhu enforces it on her but I have an inkling Adi will help her to become a stronger person. But am glad she is out of her fairy tale world. Not saying Yash cheated on her for sure coz that's still hazy for now. But Zoya should realise that its not all black n white and she shd learn to shield herself from people like Mahi 😵 I will never be able to hate Zoya but I am hell annoyed with her.
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Posted: 7 years ago
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It would not be surprising if she did blame herself. When your partner cheats on you it is only natural to feel insecure about your looks, your personality and your self worth.
This is why cheating is a horrible betrayal. Because apart from breaking someone's trust one also causes the person to have self doubt and question their own worth. Which is cruel and disgusting. It's easy to say be strong and she should be once she has had time to process and heal but in the immediate it would be unnatural for her to not experience low self-esteem and self blame.
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Posted: 7 years ago
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if u see adi never blamed himself but ya he questioned what is in yash which i lack
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Posted: 7 years ago
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Originally posted by: deepikagupta9

if u see adi never blamed himself but ya he questioned what is in yash which i lack


He didn't blame himself but he clearly is grappling with insecurity and is sensitive to any implication that he was not a good husband. It is something that bothers him subconsciously.

Also, men and women reaction to cheating is very different. Society, unfortunately, for years has grilled it into women's heads that if they are less than perfect in some way the husband will be unhappy and shall stray. Almost like its expected and accepted. Women are told to stay within such marriages if it's not abusive because "think of the children" or "you are comfortable because he earns well" etc. However, if a woman cheated no such conditions would be laid on the man. And as much as the world has moved to forward such norms do still exist.
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Posted: 7 years ago
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Originally posted by: deepikagupta9

adi use to provoke her , it never literally blamed her , he did ask her to have self respect


It came across as blame , not as provoking
Aditya became violent when Zoya only said : Kaun bana chahegi aap ki biwi and he started manhandling her spewing the same crap in her face
And Aditya did not tell her once , but a few times...

True that Aditya asked her to respect herself, but its not Aditya's call to make. It has always been up to Zoya only whether she wanted to respect herself or not , whether she wanted to take crap from her in-laws or not
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Posted: 7 years ago
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Originally posted by: delena90


He didn't blame himself but he clearly is grappling with insecurity and is sensitive to any implication that he was not a good husband. It is something that bothers him subconsciously.

Also, men and women reaction to cheating is very different. Society, unfortunately, for years has grilled it into women's heads that if they are less than perfect in some way the husband will be unhappy and shall stray. Almost like its expected and accepted. Women are told to stay within such marriages if it's not abusive because "think of the children" or "you are comfortable because he earns well" etc. However, if a woman cheated no such conditions would be laid on the man. And as much as the world has moved to forward such norms do still exist.


Yep. If the man strays, the woman must've been inadequate. If the woman strays, she's immoral and a b*tch. Can't win either ways.

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