Agree with you dear...as a Muslim we are always scared to question certain rules and regulations but if we don't question how will we learn.
But the sad thing is that the proper procedure of talakh is not practiced which is stated in the Quran if it had been then there was no need for any girl to go through this.I can't imagine how painful it would be for a women to marry a man when she loves another only to be divorced.No women will agree to this willingly.