why do in laws harass their bahu? - Page 2

Originally posted by: blossam

its like this all these years mother or sisters had control of house and all of a sudden someone else comes and tries to take care of everything which they dont like and tries to dominate her. this usually happens in joint family.

I agree with you. There are lot's of bahu's who are facing sister-in-law like sindoora in real life.😭😭

nah man it's nasty to say but it's all about the Oedipus Complex no doubt about it!

thank u for all ure suggestions

Originally posted by: PEARL99

Family problems are always be there in a marrige.
Sometimes its in-laws poor attitude and sometimes its bad behaviour from daughter in-law.
In each case, if son/husband balances the relationship with care,there would be a healthy envoirnment.

Yes you are true. I think first mistake is this when daughter in Law think that motheri n law and father in law are like her mother and father. When I got married one old friend of my fateher in law told me in front of my in-laws family and my parents family that treat your in-laws family as your in-laws...........there are responsibilities, restections, rituals..........don't compare your mother father with them.........no one take place of your parents and brother sisters..........I think he is sooo true.

that is correct as well,but i just found out that my cousin sis got married few months back coz i was there for the shaadi,but i just found out today that my cousin sister husband's dada is greedy now im not sure if they are treating her like dirt(cousin sister) i hope not 😕 otherwise i will be heart broken coz my cousin is such a sweetheart 😳 she will do nething for neoneand she is only 22 or 23

first thing first in these modern times when one want tot start a family of their own one must have a place for their own to live and not be depended from others. They have their private space ..... that said not every one is in the position to have both in their live.

In a house with many people lving there there will aways be a pickorder. The weakest one for what reason wil pay.

Another thing is confirmed with male rape and abused victems often become rapers and abuisers themselfs

On the other hand when a woman is bullied and remary offten she gets bullied by the other husband like it is written on her forehead ... pleas bully.

I have seen man remarry again and none of this hapening to the other woman.........How does these things work

I think its a sixth sense for pray eg recognising a victim Strange these human behavior ... like animals.

i think they harass their daughter in law who are uneducated or from lower class if a girl is educated she can stand up for herself and fight against her in laws. vidya doesn,t know how to read and write and that,s her biggest promblem.

NOt necessery that in laws harrass those who are from lower classes. I am a law graduate and holding a good post I wouldnt say i am tortured or harrased badly but i do have probles with my in laws eg. the clothes/jewellery that my parents gave me are considered outdated, cheap or old fashion and the clothes that my parents gave my MIL were returned to me as its "not nice" 😭 its sad and very hurtful but my sis in laws (i have 3!!!!) comment about my looks, weight, dressing sense all the time

I try to help my MIL daily with all he chores and do all the marketing ration purchasing etc but i have never heard any of them praise/thank me


It is so easy and tempting to anwser back or retort with sacarstic remarks but it will cause more fights in the family and i hate fighting/arguing as i do it at work daily ( i am a lawyer after all!)

BUT i belive that what goes around comes around and that GOD is great

anyways sorry for my long post as your comments hit a nerve and i just had to write about what i feel

i fell really sorry for u and i hope that things will get better in your in-laws. 😳

Originally posted by: surin

NOt necessery that in laws harrass those who are from lower classes. I am a law graduate and holding a good post I wouldnt say i am tortured or harrased badly but i do have probles with my in laws eg. the clothes/jewellery that my parents gave me are considered outdated, cheap or old fashion and the clothes that my parents gave my MIL were returned to me as its "not nice" 😭 its sad and very hurtful but my sis in laws (i have 3!!!!) comment about my looks, weight, dressing sense all the time

I try to help my MIL daily with all he chores and do all the marketing ration purchasing etc but i have never heard any of them praise/thank me

It is so easy and tempting to anwser back or retort with sacarstic remarks but it will cause more fights in the family and i hate fighting/arguing as i do it at work daily ( i am a lawyer after all!)

BUT i belive that what goes around comes around and that GOD is great

anyways sorry for my long post as your comments hit a nerve and i just had to write about what i feel

OMG... It is very hard for me to Read this and not say anything. Why is it that our educated female friends taking this Bull from the Bullys?

Bullys are out there because that is their defense mechanism..they were once treated the same way, or they learned that behaviour from someone they knew or they are just plain old Bitter people...but someone has to break the cycle and that should be the educated female...as she should pledge to never repeat such atrocities on her "Daughter in laws or sister in laws". They should condemn such behavior.

It is a Choice to be a Bully and there are no excuses. Human Rights doesnot have much of track records in South East Asian cultures..This must stop.