Originally posted by: rohini55
So much discussion about what Mangala did for Nimboli and did not do for her.
But no answers for one question I have been asking: what did Anandi do in the last 12 years for N aside from losing her and waiting for all loose ends to be tied by others?
Is the only basis for her claim to N is that she gave birth to her? Is there anything other than this?
If Nandini was not found for another 30 years, would Anandi still be eligible to claim her because once long ago she gave birth to her?
The way the discussion is being framed here: Mangala must do a thousand things for Nandini and yet must give her up whole heartedly, without feeling any emotion, whenever the birth mother chooses to come -- whether immediately after losing her, five years later, 12 years later, or even 50 years later.
Anandi need do nothing. She can lose her, get involved in multiple other things while her child suffered, and yet can claim her at anytime of her choosing.
Not only this, she will never have to fight any battle alone. She will have an army of people at her beck and call, be mollycoddled and cosseted by them while she does not have to lift a finger to do anything.
Even after the Nandini truth was revealed, she never did anything on her own. Jagya provided her with every single lead and drove her from venue to venue until N was finally traced.
CVs have badly damaged Anandi's character.
She was a doer, a fighter, a supposedly independent and strong woman.
Today's A is a weak woman, unable to do anything by herself, always crying and always in need of other people to solve her problems.
What will she teach N? The little girl is a bright spark, full of energy and with a mind of her own.
I'm sorry the girl is nothing like Anandi. Maybe like Shiv but not Anandi.
I hope Anandi doesn't convert her into another Anandi.
Who did what in past 12 years has not been shown.
A lost her daughter before leap, she was shown searching her and returning late at night alone when only Amol has been waiting for her.
After they came to BH she has been shown talking to J and talking to police to inquire about Nandini.
After leap it has been shown police informed her about a girl of N's age and she ran there to meet the girl and while returning she was talking to DS that everytime she is going for her wherever she is getting any clue ,but returning empty handed.
These are the scenes before and after leap which shows there was a continuation of her search.
As she couldnt save N from child marriage she made it her mission to save the other daughters also from this evil custom and tries to find solace in them. We have seen after leap when a child bride was rescued by her she was hugging her and thinking about N.
She lost her baby. Of course she cant do anything for her to protect her from the tortures she was going thru that time.
But she was searching her continuously which is evident from the continuation of the scenes before and after leap.
In case of M it was shown before leap she saved the girl by Devi act and got her married off to Kundan. If she knows her Devi act has the power to fool people why didnt she tell Akhi that M will raise the child as her daughter. She could have done that, instead she married her off at that age whereas she herself was not a child bride.
Before leap this much was shown . After leap it was shown Chagni was sleeping with that kid , so of course she was changing her diapers. Chagni saved her from the burnt and the girl was shown so compassionate with Chagni.
Okay, I understand her problems. She didnt have any say in that house so she could do only what is possible, stopping the girls from the slaps.
So it is not possible that she has taken care of her like a mother, otherwise the girl would not have done those house hold chores, cooking for everyone, washing clothes, buying vegetable even washing the clothes of her sauten.
She could not even save her from the jungle, if she had done so much secretly she could very well go out at night and could have saved the girl?
Anyways still I admire her the way she saved her, took care of her in whatever way possible.
But why did she not told her the truth that she was not dumped by her mother?
Why she lied about her clothes. That means she had some intention that let the girl hate her mother from the beginning?
But inspite of all the motherly love (as claimed by you) given by her , the girl always felt unwanted/left alone in that house . It was evident from the scene where she was playing with the stones.
Still I agree she did a lot.
But as you are saying , when did A claimed her right as a mother? When she came to know about her since then she was dying to hug her, take her in her arms but the lady made sure that the girl should hate her mother by poisoning her mind.
She was running in Akhi's house calling Nandini, I came beta, I will take you with me, which is very natural reaction as she already knew by then how healthy is that atmosphere. But do you expect her to say, Nimboli , I am your mother, but I will not take you, you will stay here only?
Who said she should not feel any emotion? But the emotions which she is feeling is it right?
Is A fighting with her or competiting with her for "MAA" medal?
Its natural instinct when she met her after so long she will try to hug her, feed her, make her sleep, but the lady is not allowing her to come close.
A is not doing anything, it is hurting her but she is not fighting for that right, she is stepping back and accepted that she can't pay back the ehesaan what M did to her. And that is the reason she is feeling bad, she is sad and crying silently.
But that does not mean she should not feel those emotions neither I am saying M shouldnt be insecure. But there is a limit to it, How can she badmouth her mother in her insecurity ?
Its M who is talking about the claim.
What do you think after coming to know about her child she will sit at home and allow that lady to run with her kid , even if that lady love that kid?
Didnt she know her child is in danger. She slapped her as it was very much necessary to stop that lady to stop her from the run. M love her, did everything for her but how can she run with her just because her real mother came back.
Why cant she accept that she is not capable of raising that child and no one told her that they will throw her away. Had she told A how much she needs that girl will A throw her out? But telling all the wrong things about anyone's mother is a crime.
That is the story A got to know about her daughter thru J just the way J got Mannu back thru A, to show kachhe umar ke pakke rishtey.
Its A's nature people love her and she has so many loving people around her.
They support her as they dont think she is wrong.
If J wanted to drive her that's not her fault, she didnt say J , you pls drive my car. its because they share such bond that he too felt the need to run with her.
If she was just crying and searching her baby she couldnt have establised SN in her Shiv's memory. Then again people start finding fault she is busy building SN how she will search her daughter. Its how you look at the character.
Sorry , the girl is completely like A and S
and btw, its ridiculous to know that she took an ill baby and got a healthy child.
does that mean healthy babies cant have fever?đ
May be Shiv's genes? As atleast , you have some mercy on Shiv
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