Shiv should control Anandi - Page 4

Originally posted by: Skepblun

@libsrocks

Many serials have similar problem - like how Ekta's serials made Tulsi-Parvati the be all and end all of their families or how the whole company wouldn't run properly unless Jassi was there in Jassi Jaisi Koi Nahin.

The lead's glorified too much and her mistakes are overlooked. She's made a bechaari even if she's scolded and ultimately it's the ones who scold her, who have to apologise to her or "reform".

Often others in serials are made vamps and villains for smallest reasons.

The way BV is going, then even Mahi can't live happily if his wife doesn't worship Anandi (in future).

Currently Mahi's lucky that Anandi didn't pursue and further investigate the discovery of girl's scarf in his room. 😆

Sanchi's never left alone really. Anandi even lands up at same coffee shops as her. 😆

Originally posted by: hooked

This has been a reasonably logical discussion on this thread without any fan groups or bashing.

Even all time Anandi supporters are feeling that the CV's are shoving her down Sanchi's throat and most everyone agrees that is not a good thing.

Sanchi is not going to become a gowri and be worshipped - but what is wrong is wrong.

Just bcoz a certain someone does it - doesn't mean it is always right and just bcoz Sanci does something - that cannot be always wrong.

We have gray shades here too

There are logical discussions as well as illogical hatred based discussions .

Originally posted by: leavesandwaves

When Ira herself is saying bachpana, anandi must also be thinking the same. In a way it is bachpana, not growing up on sanchi's part.

Anandi cant be faulted if somebody praises her. She cant stay stop it, stop it.

As for trays, even sumitra, ganga carry trays. Trays are a bahana to create interactions. anandi cant enter with a book in hand and interact with sanchi as it is CVs who decide how anandi enters sanchi's room.

@Leaves

I am sorry but I do not think you endorse what you wrote. You wrote Anandi is in her own place and Ira and Sanchi should be let to be in their own place. But truth is that Ira and Sanchi are never let to just be. They are bashed.

In this specific matter I find Anandi totally unjustified. You can't feed psychotropic drugs to anyone in stealth, you can't disuss someone else's probable mental health issues behind their back. You can't force yourself on others - especially those who dislike you and do not trust you.

By hiding this from Sanchi and trying to give her meds without her knowledge Anandi has only earned more suspicion from Sanchi. Not her trust!

Hell with her care. She needs to mind her own business.

Anandi is NOT Sanchi's mom.

It will be Sanchi's parents who have rights over her. Though Sanchi could question them also if they were giving her medicines without her knowledge and consent. Consulting a psychiatrist is a sensitive matter. Even educated ones have reservations in this.

Ira shouldn't be discussing Sanchi with Anandi.

In my life I'd be crushed if my own mother was discussing my mental health with anyone else except my father. Some things are personal.

And family is a broad word. But relation with everyone is never so close. There are limits of closeness that we share with everybody. Those limits must be respected. If Sanchi is not that close to Anandi then the latter should respect this and give Sanchi time and space instead of hovering like a fly around her or interfering in her matters from a distance even.

Anandi isn't caring for Sanchi. She's imposing herself on Sanchi even if she didn't mean to do so.

It's not bashing. If a person doesn't know limits and is wrong somewhere then it's pointed out.

No one denies the abuse that Anandi faced. But it doesn't mean she's Goddess and can meddle in anyone's life.

Didn't Shiv give time and space to Anandi to adjust and completely accept him? Then why can't she give space to others? Or does she expect others to take less time in acceptance?

Anandi shouldn't stop caring. But she should also not poke her nose all the time.

The rest of the Shekhars give each other a lot of space. Like how CM didn't come running to Ira to offer explanations or run to Shiv after this revelation and even Daddu approached everyone carefully, leaving them to think for themselves also once their talk with him was over.

Anandi is always after someone or the other. No space or time given to anyone. I wonder how she had mercy of leaving the room yesterday when CM came to Shiv. She kept sticking around when Alok had come. She's been kind to Meenu.

You may be caring. But you need to know different ways of caring and caring without crossing limits. Sanchi needs to be cared for in different ways and not the ways Anandi adopts.

Because anandi also believes it is bachpana. anandi is expected to mingle with sanchi not to distance away from sanchi as it is a joint family.
Who says anandi is unique? It is others who say it because anandi has a certain quality.

Skep, whatever anandi is doing , she is doing with the permission of sanchi's mother. She is not doing anything independently. That feeding medicines is also done by Ira. Why sanchi does not confront her mother Ira for that? Because she knows what answer she will get. One beats only a soft target.

In mental hospitals, patients are treated very roughly. Ony a rare nurse treat them with some consideration.

Originally posted by: leavesandwaves

Because anandi also believes it is bachpana. anandi is expected to mingle with sanchi not to distance away from sanchi as it is a joint family.
Who says anandi is unique? It is others who say it because anandi has a certain quality.

@Leaves

Who brought psychiatrist in first place? Who was sure? It was Anandi. Who suggested ways in which Sanchi would be given medicines without her knowing anything? Anandi.

Ira had reservations about psychiatrist and later had doubts on whether medicines should be given or how they should be given to Sanchi etc. Who allayed her doubts? Anandi.

This is why Sanchi's not after Ira but rather after Anandi.

If her mom had herself felt Sanchi had problems then she'd have caled a psychiatrist earlier. All this is happening after Anandi's arrival in house and initiative is being taken by Anandi, medicines are being administered by Anandi. So she's culprit in Sanchi's eyes.

As a viewer - Ira is to blame in my eyes. But if we try to see from Sanchi's POV then Anandi's the catalyst for such issues that are cropping up now.