Anandi isnt a doormat

I have one thing to debate which i dont agree that is when anandi says that she is nothing without her husband shiv ,why is it taken so negatively ,,why called a regressive lesson ,why a hypocrate,i understand she preaches the village women to stand for their rights ,to not take crap from their husbands but that doesnt mean she stops being an understanding wife ,when has shiv not stood for her ,even when she distanced him for so many months ,he was so patient and understanding,currently all are in voilent mode ,no one is in position to understand ,its no point argueing with them.She just needs to be patient now.Why are people asking her to leave kesar bagh ?what self respect?To leave your home in days of crisis,in anger its easy to leave but thats not any solution to the problem.When she says she is nothing without shiv ,its not her weakness rather her love for shiv .

completely agree with you pati patni ek dusare ke bina adhoori hei shiv supported anandi in many situations patiently and he is the reason for anandis happiness now its anandis turn to bring back shiv and his family to normal state running away from problem is not at all solution

@Tanvi

I don't think she should leave KB or shout at Shiv. But this line, "I am nothing without Shiv." was regressive every bit!

Nothing? Woman is nothing without her husband? Great.

Anandi has silently taken a lot of crap from Shiv's family - first CM's questions on her character, then Sanchi's constant rudeness, plots and public humiliation of Anandi and her family, then Ira's accusations and personal attacks. She did not say a word.

So it is not fair to say that this is the first time she is bearing anything for Shiv.

What is understanding? Remain silent and be okay with not being given a chance to speak? Happily remain punching bag?

Also, what is "understanding" to Anandi, same might be for other women who take beating of husband as a routine or as fate or feel the husband is actually nice but beats only in anger so let him be.

Then who is she to interfere in others' notions of "understanding" between husband and wife?

If she is NOTHING without Shiv then other wives must also feel the same - who she eggs on to take divorce or fight against.

Plus if indeed she felt so concerned that only Shiv's family was her family now and loyalty to them meant everything then WHY didn't she tell them clearly of Jagya's past? Why did she stop them when they were bashing Jagya to tell Sanchi how he was not suited to her? She shouldn't have hid her suspicions of Jagya-Ganga's love for each other too - at least to Shiv. She should have clearly warned them that if he is not showing interest in Sanchi then anything may happen, phir na kehna ki maine kaha nahi.

But she was using neutral words like bemel jodi or differences in lifestyle for SaJa.

Even now, she will NOT say to Shiv that she is also angry or sad at what happened and she's with them (just to cool him down). She will only be silent or cry a bit or mumble she is sad for all.

Why was she being silent or diplomatic in all this if ONLY Shiv's family was her universe?

I hate extreme statements by Anandi. Before marriage she was telling Sumitra that love happens only once.

Now she says she is NOTHING without Shiv.

Shiv hasn't left her really. But woman being nothing without her husband was a highly regressive POV upheld by CVs. She was much more than what she is now, when neither Shiv or Jagya were in her life.

after all, this is a family drama 😆

"life without love is no life at all" 😊

i agree with you @TM, if anandi says she is nothing without her husband...it has to be interpreted accordingly...😉 shiv is her soulmate, her sunshine, her friend & guide, one who brought so much joy to her life...one who wakes up with her & goes to bed with her...who gave a refreshing meaning to her life...& she is deeply in love with him...hence she says she will be lifeless without him...without him she still will remain a strong lady...will work towards good causes...will carry on with her life...will hide her pain from others ...but inside her she will be lifeless ... just like a rainbow without the colors ... oh i don't ever want that to happen to ANSH 😳

even shiv has said this several times...'i don't know what i would have done without you'...

when her family is in pain...she has to be with them...i don't agree with the way she is handling things...but it also doesn't mean she is a doormat..

@tm well said...👏

Edited this post (it was posted accidentally and was incomplete). Full reply on next page.

I have not said Anandi should leave Shiv or fight with him or not support him.

No point in still attributing those to me and saying it's a senseless thought.

The rest is in my next post.

With Anandi's reprehensible dialogues CVs are just trying to justify the Heroes culpability by making him hide behind his wife's pallu. Heroes mardangi has to be intact you know. Thats why wife has to be sacrificing doormat.

First of all, I have watched the episode and clearly heard what she said. It was an extreme statement.

Secondly, who said Anandi should not support Shiv in her troubled times? But with that dumb talk with god's idol she isn't doing much to support him. Nor has her mumbling in diplomatic ways helped Shiv.

It wasn't that difficult to ask Shiv to talk to her earlier when things had not escalated to this level. Is it easier to talk to a relaxed and jovial mood person or a frustrated person?

Third, if we believe that relationship with Shiv and Shekhars is most important for her now then why was she diplomatic or silent? Why did she stop them when they were all trashing Jagya on the day Sanchi announced her love for him? She knows Jagya's nature. She knows what kind of handling he needs. And what happens when he does not get that type of handling. Why kept silent and instead said he had changed now and it was merely a difference in lifestyle issue?
Ira was right in rebuking Anandi when she had tubelight brainwave later "ki mujhe yeh rishta theek nahin lag raha"!

Fourth - why did she remain silent when Shekhars asked her to try to talk to Jagya and make him forgive Sanchi? She should have told them about Jagya's nature then and made it clear that she could not take guarantee and in such situations she herself never knew what Jagya could do since he had not stopped from breaking engagement earlier also despite her requests to him to give her some more time before taking any decision!

HAS SHE EVER GIVEN A CLEAR PICTURE TO SHEKHARS OF WHAT TO EXPECT IN JAGYA CASE? OR WHAT TO BE PREPARED FOR?

Fifth, this brainwashing session of child bride flashback was the most regressive that it could get! 😡 Was it good gyan?! No! It was something to be discouraged!

By showing those flashbacks what are they trying to prove? That girls should be coached about serving in laws from childhood itself?

Sixth, has Anandi shared in their collective frustration?! The family that she calls most important, has she said even once that she feels equally pained?
Merely crying or silently coming with them is no answer. How do they know who she is crying for? Them? Herself? Or Singhs? Or what?

Seventh, why does she lecture other people then? The kind of brainwashing she got from Bhago, similar gyan must have imparted to other women from childhood. They must also consider their husband most important and God and someone without whom they are nothing. Then why does she meddle in their matters?!
Despite laws she never had guts to complain against Jagya when he ditched her for Gauri. Then why does she give gyan of laws to other women?!
Why does she interfere in their homes if they are bearing all beatings of their husbands? (It is a routine for them)

Eighth, I clarified in my first reply only that I don't say Anandi should leave Shiv or KB! Or fight with him! But these type of words are BULLSHIT. That's what I am pointing at.

Also, stop saying Anandi would be like rainbow without colours or remain in pain no matter what if Shiv had not come in her life or Shiv lifted her from darkness. Anandi was not that downtrodden that Shiv rehabilitated her.
Both have equally been a good addition to each other's lives.

And stop using such words because this is a generalisation and an insult to those who are living singly, managing things by themselves and are happy in their space.

Social work or hard work in one's profession is not merely a way to deal with a broken heart.

I respect Anandi for what she was when she stood up on her feet back then. I wouldn't insult that phase by using words like rainbow without colours or something.

Shiv had said what would he have done without her. But it is way different from this extrem and outright regressive statement like one is nothing without one's husband.

Originally posted by: Picasso9

With Anandi's reprehensible dialogues CVs are just trying to justify the Heroes culpability by making him hide behind his wife's pallu. Heroes mardangi has to be intact you know. Thats why wife has to be sacrificing doormat.

Exactly. Woh jo kar raha hai sab jaayaz hai. And usne jo pehle kiya tha ya nahin kiya tha woh bhi jaayaz tha.