Originally posted by: hooked
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I think now you are being grossly unfair.
He was doing quite well in Mumbai and was quite friendly, his problems came from another front. His guilt about Anandi and his feeling cut-off from home and Gauri's constant games. Everytime he found another job - it was Gauri who advised him against it on the pretext of wanting him to study and then she belittled him for living off her. Jagya was living a hell for reasons other than what you suggest.
Hooked, this is complete bullshit. Jagya never had any guilt about anandi at that point. Rather he resented anandi for his perception that she had separated him from his family and explicitly abused her.
Jagya took on a variety of jobs by himself, and quit them all by himself without any interference from gauri whatsoever. Infact, gauri always encouraged him. She never belittled him, except when he made stupid decisions like quitting jobs for no rhyme or reason.
1. He first got a job interview at a poor people's hospital. He went to the interview, but did not attend the interview. When the peon called his name to guide him in, he ran away instead of going in to meet the interviewer. He did not even interview. He did not want to work in a poor people's hospital because there were several patients lying around in the hallway itself. Gauri had encouraged him for this interview.
2. Next he got a job at a government hospital but he was sacked because he got into a panga with goondas when he refused to service the chief goonda. The goondas then ransacked the hospital. The hospital chief doctor fired him for lack of tact. Gauri had encouraged him for this interview. Gauri also supported him when he was fired. She said it was good because he should not work in dangerous circumstances.
3. Next he got a job at some maternity clinic. Once again, here they were doing sex determination -- if it was a girl the code word was "barfi"; if it was a boy, the code word was "peda"... and if it was a girl they were doing abortions. Jagya decided that it was against his ethics to participate in female foeticide. Gauri supported him and also agreed that this was not a good hospital to work at.
4. Then he got a job at some hospital, and some clerks were doing pharmaceutical embezzlement or replacement or something. He took it upon himself to complain to the management, only to find the management sacked him because the clerks were doing it on their orders. Jagya again cited ethics. Gauri supported him here too.
As things progressed, and Gauri saw that Jagya was just sort of walking in and out of revolving doors... sometimes being hired in the morning and fired in the evening, then at that time (and not before) ... she suggested that it might be better for him to finish his M.S. instead of engaging in these one-day long jobs which started in the morning and ended in the evening.
Gauri herself cut out a few newspaper ads for him, but he was then disappointed that he would only be hired for MBBS jobs. (even though he had completed 2.5 years of M.S. but not finished the last six months). Then he just started sitting at home and eating vegetable sandwiches and watching tv all day long. He did no housework either (even simple things like going downstairs and buying fruits from the laari waala) ; left piles of dirty dishes in the sink for gauri to clean up when she came back etc. etc. Naturally gauri got irritated. There are some expectations for a husband who stays at home beyond watching tv. He was not studying.
Gauri never belittled him. He himself felt small, but did nothing about it.
Then Gauri got him a job at her hospital because he wanted to work in a luxury hospital. There too his first complaint was that he got hired as a junior doctor with MBBS qualifications, instead of senior doctor with MS qualifications.
Then he resented working under gauri.
As a matter of protocol, the elderly doctor who was the big boss of the hospital insisted that he call Gauri "Dr. Gauri" (with the doctor in front) instead of a casually calling her Gauri. Here too he started arguing with the senior doctor saying "she is my wife, I want to call her gauri" ... and the doctor said "I don't care. we are in the hospital, here she is Dr. Gauri" (My question is was it really necessary to get into a slanging match with the senior doctor about such a trivial issue?)
Then he challenged a senior professor about medication in front of his patients thereby undermining him.
etc. etc. etc...
and then he got thrown out of the luxury hospital too.
The only job that gauri discouraged him from taking was the Bangalore offer where one of his friends wanted to make him the CEO of the hospital, and that too was because Gauri did not want to move from Mumbai. I feel that is legitimate. In any case, her point there too was valid. He would have to re-start his M.S. all over again instead of finishing his existing M.S. to complete in another six months.
Gauri never belittled him. She just made it clear to him that if he wanted to do a job, he could do a job. If he wanted to stay at home, he could sit and study at home. She would support him.
But the one thing she was clear she would not do was to support him to sit at home and loaf around all day long watching cricket matches. And that is precisely what he was doing, which led to her belittling him. He neither wanted to study, nor wanted to take on any burdens of housework if he was at home. Naturally, anybody would be upset at having to deal with a freeloader who wants to do nothing.
The truth about Jagya is that he can only be the CEO of something, because the laadesar pampering was always ingrained inside him. Therefore, I stick to my stand that Jagya would have been a loser alcoholic if the singhs had not taken him back.
He lacked the social skills and the go-getter attitude required in the professional world. Even now after so much mental stability etc. it has never occurred to him once to go back and finish his M.S.
Edited by sectoreight - 12 years ago
