I have had enough! - Page 12

Originally posted by: surabhi01

juhi tumhare pass shiv se rude scene yaad hain to mujhe bhi water massage halwa scene yaad hai kul ke scene ke liye anandi ko criticize karti ho pur jub anandi ne selflesly water massage kiya halwa banaya u forget really strange

Originally posted by: tinoo

You are missing the point I am trying to make --

If she is going to respect her mother's last wish THEN SHE SHOULD DO IT HAPPILY.

If she cant do it happily, then just the action of marriage will not be called 'respecting last wish' if it is done with resentment and hatred.

If anandi cannot do something with belief and desire, it would be better for her to call it off altogether.

I hardly think this way of doing things is called "respecting" ... she is being disrespectful to her mother's last wish.

It is not just the action journey I am talking about, it is the emotional journey.

Totally agree, if she can't find any happiness in fulfilling her mother's desire then she better not do it. Her mother wanted her marry so that A can remain happy, but if the entire essesnce of getting married is lost then what is point of getting married. She will only bear more burden on her life.

Originally posted by: Suchi-Virmanian

I know.. She did speak to shiv afterwards, did react to him politely and its clear she is not angry with him. She is angry with her own situation and the mess she is in. She will react to it in private. She did not brood about it in public ...so even if she is displeased it will be her own inner battle...

She will try her best to giver her 100% to Shiv and his family.

All the goodness and patience of Shekhar family will be tested now!!

I don't know who you are terming as against A or Shiv's fans, but since I have also commented in this topic not in line with supporting A's actions I am writing this post. With due respect to all of you, just because we have pointed out our disappointment with what has been shown in the past two episodes, we automatically get categorized as against A and Jagya, gauri or Shiv fans? The numerous past comments that we have had where we have supported, sympathized, applauded, felt proud of her achievements, begged to the CVs to give her happiness, longed for her happy future are all a clean slate now? I would consider myself against J and G but I have supported them when they did the right thing and have condemned them a thousand times. So would I still be termed as a JG fan? Sorry guys but this is really not fair.

I have already explained my opinion about this whole scenario, so I don't think I need to repeat it here. If one reads in between the lines you will realize that we are infact with her and still looking for her good. Its more of a disappointment that knowing how level headed she is, she is not doing the right thing.

I also agree with you guys that she needs time to comprehend all that is happening to her and that's precisely why we are disappointed with her. We both are saying the same thing, just the difference is we are saying that she should do this before she 'commits' to the marriage while you guys are seeing her doing it after the commitment. She shouldn't have hurried with the marriage but taken a breather. If she did that she would not be in a state like this where she is so helpless. Unfortunately what was really in her hands (to delay the marriage) she did not capitalize on that that's the mistake that's causing her all this pain now. For me the character A is closer to me than Shiv and hence I don't want to see her make such a grave mistake that will cost her another emotional turmoil.

But the fact remains that she has made this mistake and now she will have to act accordingly. It is difficult and emotionally torturing but that is the right thing to do. Why does she need to look happy in front of Shiv's family? So that they don't learn the real reason for her getting married to Shiv which will again delay her wish to fulfill her mother's last wish. Why does she need to be more open to Shiv coz she is going to start a new relationship with him which is not a secret to her and only if she is happy with him will she be fulfilling her mother's wish sincerely. All that we are saying is she needs to make a conscious effort to make this relationship work. I did not find her outburst in private unusual it was just all the pent up frustration that she was venting. And again I will say that I don't think her frustration is since she still loves J but its more due to her fear to start a new chapter and history repeating itself. We are supporting Shiv not coz we are his fan and A's basher but coz Shiv is doing the right thing right now by giving her the space she needs. She needs to reciprocate. Unfortunately since she also has asked for the marriage to take place asap she will have to also prepare herself for it sooner than the normal course. Like I said in my previous post too today she did make a start but this needs to increase.

Just like you guys we too want to see her happy and get all the love and respect that she did not get from useless Jagya.

Lastly we know that the CVs do visit public forums as per an old article and unless we show our dislike towards what they are showing the track is only going to move at snail's pace.

Originally posted by: elasingh

I have noticed every thing is black and white in this forum .Either u r with Anandi or you r against her. Even if you don't agree with some of her actions You cant critise her if you r her fan. Immidiately we r branded as anti Anandi.

lol..good...ise kehte hain ''behti ganga me haath dhona '' 😆

Anita - I understand your perspective. I just don't see how she was rude to Shiv's family in anyway? She wasn't smiley...yes. But, rude? If she was rude then how come nobody perceived that? Not DS? Nor Shiv's family? She was reserved, but that is not unusual when future in-laws visit a girl is it? She was also responsive to Shiv on the phone. So, I just don't see the rudeness. That is where I am failing to grasp the issue here...

Originally posted by: AnjanaYYZ

Anita - I understand your perspective. I just don't see how she was rude to Shiv's family in anyway? She wasn't smiley...yes. But, rude? If she was rude then how come nobody perceived that? Not DS? Nor Shiv's family? She was reserved, but that is not unusual when future in-laws visit a girl is it? She was also responsive to Shiv on the phone. So, I just don't see the rudeness. That is where I am failing to grasp the issue here...

Her private pain is just that private...she is grappling with it while moving forward. So far, there is only one instance when she has been hostile to Shiv and that's when she first learnt he accepted the rishta...she was a tad hostile at the groundbreaking but not after that. She thanked him for skype, she made him pakoras, she didn't ignore him at her mother's funeral, she spoke to him on the phone when he called to check on her, she requested him to marry her with both hands folded, and again she was responsive and respectful on the phone with him.

Again is she dancing with happiness - No. But, rude? I don't get. She is in trauma but, trying to step forward and do what needs doing.

Also, I don't see the point in misleading his family... sach will come out sooner or later. Its better they know what exactly Shiv is doing and why. Also, Anandi's wajah for accepting this rishta. If they object they object... Frankly they should be concerned and proceed with caution. Which is y i ve no issue with CM being protective...so long as she is doing it with the right not wrong intentions. Looking out for Shiv's happiness.

Hi Anjana, I don't think I have said that she was rude. I said that she needs to look happy. Seeing your inlaws for the first time, makes a girl apprehensive/ scared but not sad. Even if a person is reserved by nature the sadness is not seen on their face if they are happy with the alliance.

Its very unfortunate circumstances that A is in and I totally sympathize with her. but like I said before since she has decided to go ahead and go ahead quickly with it, its tough but she will have to TRY mould herself to fit into the situation sooner than she expected. She not smiling is one thing and not looking happy is another. I don't expect her to be giggly or bubbly but she needs to try to appear not sad. Unfortunately, although she has told Shiv that he should marry her she has not thought about what all will be expected from her due to this request. Shiv has respected her promise and agreed to marry her knowing that she will not be the wife he expected. The A that we know will respect this person and try do all that she can to keep up his self respect in front of his family and society. But she is not behaving in a way she should in the situation that she is. And that's not the A who we are familiar with. This A is not thinking at all. Hence I said once she comes out of this trance she will realize how wrong she was towards Shiv and his family.

The second suggestion that you give I support it. But that is something Shiv will have to decide weather his family should know about it or if it should be between just the two of them. I would opt for the family fully knowing the truth and getting into the wedding which will cause hurdles and may be A will not be accepted in the family whole-heartedly. I fear the second approach only since she has already gone through a turmoil and is still facing tough times, so no point in her having to face more hurdles. Its better she has a positive environment or else her fears of getting into a new relationship will just get more cemented. She will also take more time to naturally come close to Shiv which will be still worse.

Aaahhh ...i wont adress anyone or they'll accuse me of bashing 😆

She was not rude to Shiv and his family, just downright cold in her politeness. Contrast her behavior with Shiv's dad earlier when she didn't know who he was. She was still grieving then but she showed warm, kind politeness to him then...

Anita - it is a matter of expectations...She expected him to talk to his family about their wedding. She didn't expect them to show up the next day and see her in a kechofied state...How do you prepare for that. She wasn't smiley but, she was responsive to them...and their questions going so far as to control Daadisa at one point by stopping her from asking why daddu speaks with plants. If anyone gave odd vibes in the whole meet-the-girl event it was CM. Anandi am sure will warm up to them and be herself before we know it... more than anything I think she was baklofied and also she is numb still, which is understandable given her mom's recent death (something Shekhar's are aware of).