@anita
Thanks for those articulate posts of yours.
Wish I could be as articulate as you are.
The scene where Anandi was alone after Shiv and his family left she was giving vent to her frustrations didn't in the least bit bother me.In fact I really liked that scene.
That's what I was trying to say.Because of the way she was reacting in front of Shiv's family that choti maa already started thinking that something is not right.A piece of knowledge which she probably may use against Anandi.Sometimes it is better to conceal your feelings not letting your feelings show.
Displaying our weakness (in this case her reluctance to get married) can put us in a vulnerable position. I feel Anandi has put herself in the line attack by behaving the way she did in front of his family not from the viewers but possibly from some of the members of Shiv's family.