Lets not Absolve Child Marriage - Page 2

Originally posted by: anu rulz

see i would see jagya as a victim TILL he decided to cheat both women..if child marriage was responsible for the mess, thn its acceptable tht he fell for gauri and would want to end his marriage wid anandi in a RESPECTFUL manner..not make anandi feel inferior or crush her self esteem to bits and pieces the way he did..there was one dialogue a million years back when gauri was 🤔 "sensible".. tht such people want to enjoy their lives wid their girlfriends in the city while their child- wives are at home taking care of their parents.. (where did tht gauri disappear, i wonder?).. tht is the basic issue i have wid jagya..he had no fricking right to cheat on anandi..am always for one's personal choice in mates, and so i agree wid jagya abt his right to choose a mate..bt the least one can do is end his previous relation in a decent and respectful manner..and defo not in the way jagya did..

Originally posted by: KyunkiImafan

Avantika, I liked your post and agree that Bal Vivah did take away the right from J & A to choose a hum safar. But I don't believe it gave any right to J to use that relation as an excuse for this adultery. Also, its not just considering if a action is a crime or not but also, HOW its been done.

I was watching a LifeTime movie some time ago where a couple gets married and then the husband goes on physically abusing the wife for the next 4 years and finally one day the woman gets the courage to kill him. But let me tell you HOW! She tied her sleeping husband's legs and hands and took a knife and started stabbed him, a couple of times. By this time he was almost dead, she didn't stop, she stabbed him over and over and over and over! A total of 197 times! She cut every tiny part of the man, every single tiny place she stabbed, cut and pieced him. The case went to court and even though people agreed that she's right at the want to kill him for torturing her and for her self defense, but it was absolutely wrong to do the act the way she did. So she was guilty and sent to jail for I believe 25 years.

Originally posted by: avantikasharma1

Hi I think this story is real. not the way this murder took place , but I think some NRI woman did it. She was tired of abuse by her husband, so she killed him. i can't remember the name...

Originally posted by: KyunkiImafan

So what I am trying to say is, agreed that J and A being tied by Bal Vivah was wrong but there were so many ways J could have made things right. Once he met G, and once he decided that he wanted her, he could have researched and found out how to dissolve his Bal Vivah, how to honestly tell his best friend A that he no longer wishes to be tied by a relation that he only sees as friendship and no more. He could have painted a better picture of his family to G, he could have made sure he didn't make G so insecure. There were far to many ways to do the right thing, but he chose not to. And therefore I blame him for the mess that he has caused in so many people's life. I don't pity him, nor do I respect his right for having a partner he chooses.

Originally posted by: KyunkiImafan

Yup the story is real but of an American woman. I am not sure about the NRI's.

Originally posted by: avantikasharma1

Yes it is of NRI punjabi woman who killed her husband because of abuse...

Originally posted by: andv

I totally agree that J WAS a victim of child marriage. But I cannot see him leaving A as anything else but adultery. J as a person has always been easily swayed by new things, people and events. He has always wanted to look the best among his peers and did not care how he got it. he has in the past too used wrong ways of meeting his ends totally disregarding the morals instilled in him by his parents. DS has to be partly blamed for his bratty behavior. He was always forgiven for all the nonsense he did and he just carried this attitude forward.

In my opinion the reason for J and A's relationship to hit the rocks was the long distance relationship they had when he went to mumbai. Moreover he did not know how to use his new found freedom. I am sure he did seek company since he was always used to people all around him catering to all his needs. I do not feel bad for him for all these things coz it was him who wanted to study out of state. So he should have very well known that he would have to face all these situations. But inspite of that he just went with the flow, experimented on things, made new relationships and conveniently forgot the old ones. In this process he hid his very identity and just presented to his friends and the people around a cliched J wanna-be. G was attracted to some random Jagat who never existed beyond J's imagination. Even if he was getting attracted to G the right thing for him to do is to resist it, fully knowing that he has a wife and a very wonderful and dedicated wife back home.👏 Did he ever bother to try work his relationship with A? ⭐️ What he expected of her was only changing her dressing and getting more educated. He very well knew that she was very smart and if given a chance will excel. But he chose to opt for an easy convenient upgrade. Like always he expected the family to forgive him but to his dismay they did not. So he conveniently put the blame on child marriage and his lack of choice. Which is a lame excuse. If he tried to work out his relationship with A, told the truth to G and the world about himself and even after that he could not make things work, I would give him the benefit of doubt. But what he has done is used A to remove his frustrations and also make himself believe in his mind that she is worthless (coz he knows very well that she is not) by his numerous abuses, so that he can go and enjoy his time with another woman. Highly disgusting and scummy 🤢