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Posted: 13 years ago
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And one more point to add, sorry I forgot to write it.
Anandi and Jagya though initially disliked each other, had become best friends. I'm talking about their childhood! They were childhood buddies! Is it possible to forget one so easily? She was just 8 when they met.😭 It takes time. She will definely remove her "nakta bandar" from her heart and he will just be a memory somewhere in her brain like dadisa said.
Even now watching those childhood episodes make me smile!! I do think ki "wow is this the same guy who gave so much pain to the cheerful "chuhiya"? " the thought hurts me but what I watch doesn't! It does make me smile😊 Maybe I'm wrong too😭
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Posted: 13 years ago
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Tinoo, but didn't Anandi too cut off her ties with Jagat? Jagya was not just a lover for her, but her best friend too..But hasn't she said this so many times that she doesn't want him anymore? Well she is cutting off the rest of whatever is remaining within her of Jagya. She didn't do that before. The divorce made her realise that there is nothing really left in this realtionship..she is holding on to nothing. Well everyone needs a mental slap to wake up. The divorce is one for her to wake up from her "good dreams"..and she will😊
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Posted: 13 years ago
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Originally posted by: katts

Tinoo, but didn't Anandi too cut off her ties with Jagat? Jagya was not just a lover for her, but her best friend too..But hasn't she said this so many times that she doesn't want him anymore?

How? how did she cut off her ties with jagat? tell me?
and what sort of lover and best friend is this who goes and sleeps with another woman and gets her pregnant?
and yes she has said so many times that she doesnt want him anymore ... but what good is saying?
actions speak louder than words.
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Posted: 13 years ago
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Originally posted by: tinoo

How? how did she cut off her ties with jagat? tell me?
and what sort of lover and best friend is this who goes and sleeps with another woman and gets her pregnant?
and yes she has said so many times that she doesnt want him anymore ... but what good is saying?
actions speak louder than words.

You didn't notice the names I wrote, she hates "Jagat" , not the "Jagya" that loved her..
And by what action do you mean that she wants this guy back? Her words and actions meant the same. She maintained a cordial realationship with this Jagat, but that doesn't mean she wanted him back There are so many divorcees who remain friends after the divorce! Does it mean they "love" each other? When she said she doesnt want him anymore, she meant it. She "presently" don't want him.. Its the "past" that she is trying to overcome..
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Posted: 13 years ago
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Originally posted by: tinoo

after having seen anandi crying buckets and buckets (even to date)... I have to say that I have nothing but disgust for her. I wish she would just get over it and move on.

For that matter I want to applaud phooli. 👏
She did not even stay in that relationship for one minute after she realized she was betrayed, either physically or mentally ... she had absolutely no financial independence, her inlaws had already betrayed her, and her parents werent the overly supportive kinds of people to begin with, and she had that child also... bharat's parents had told her that she could stay as a naukrani if she wanted to...
now phooli too could have cried buckets like this ----> 😭
because until she had the child bharat had treated her very nicely and behaved as if he was in love with her, and she had so many romantic memories with him... it was only after she had the child that he did a 100 degree volte face.
But still, she took a risk, kidnapped her baby from under those monsters noses and started running without really knowing what she was going to do where she was going to go...
she also could have decided to cling to memories of her sasuma giving hot milk to her, and bharat putting payal around her feet, but she didnt.
She had enough self-respect to understand the situation NOW ... and quickly get out of the situation to the best of her ability...👏

Nice post. Thanks. I'd like to applaud Phooli too.
I dont think we can compare Phooli's case with that of Anandi's.
Bharat and his family wanted were interested only in one thing that is Phooli's woomb.For that they pretended to be nice to her.After childbirth they just discarded her so mercilessly.It was one of the most painful set of episodes in Balika vadhu.There was no remorse or repentance from their side.The moment she realised how fake they were she gathered herself and moved on.
Anandi's rishta with Jagya's family was genuine one from both sides.She was taken into thieir family as permanent member of the family for good or for bad.It was genuine relationship that soured.
It is much easier to break away from the likes of Bharat and his parents than the Singhs.

Phooli herself has said post the birth of her child her priorities have changed.For her the kid is everything.Who knows sometime in the future she may accept Bharat back because her priority is her child.May be taking care of her child had been therapeutic for her.
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Posted: 13 years ago
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And maybe Tinoo, you are a very strong person. So it is possible you cant understand the weaker ones...people do cry over broken relationships and some cant even move on😭...thats reality. Some are weak, some are strong.
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Posted: 13 years ago
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My point is this -- phooli and bharat did have an intimate physical relationship -- and they did give birth to a child together ... so phooli definitely has some emotional investment in the rleationship --
but when they went to court to get the child back -- and the judge ordered phooli to be given the child --
phooli got up and walked over to bharat's side of the courtroom -- she was directly facing bharat, his wife, and her ex-mother in law --
she too could have held the child, then looked longingly at bharat crying for the relationship they once had -- etc.
but she was dignified, she never once looked at any of the three -- she picked up the child from bharat's wife's lap, held it close to her cheek, TURNED HER BACK ON BHARAT ... and walked away. 👏👏👏👏👏👏
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Posted: 13 years ago
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Originally posted by: apjk

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It is much easier to break away from the likes of Bharat and his parents than the Singhs.

I am not talking about her having to break away from the singhs.
I am asking that when the singhs themselves have broken away from jagya, what compulsion is anandi under to stay wedded to his memories?
I am not talking about anyone's physical location -- staying with bharat's inlaws or staying with the singhs etc...
I am talking about mindset/ attitude/ presence of mind and self-respect.
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Posted: 13 years ago
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I like Phooli, as She has also done one good thing to herself, She has not hide the condition form her well wishers, and thats why she is out of it.
Its A's habbit to hide the situation from the well wishers, and try to give herself a reason , that her well wishers will become unhappy after knowing all this.. Are her well wisher' shappy now, after all this broken family?
When she returned from mumbai after Jagya ditched her infront of his friends,and seeing he was dancing with Gauri, The way two were dancing , that was sufficient to give a hint to an adult wife.
Not only She decided to hide this form the family members, but she royally decided to ignore that incedent. Will any normal woman not feel jealous, or bad about such things, Will a woman not like to do some thing about it. ? She assumed that If she would change herself , he would accept her.
She could have gone to sumitra, and could have spoken her heart out. Hope fully some thing could have been done that time. They would have sent her to stay with him. They could have planed to shift with Jagya, for few months and could have prevented this initial stage of his extra marital affair to convert into a strong relation..
Later She recalled her stupidity, when she came to know that it is the same woman with whom he was dancing that night..
We must speak out , How can we ignore our own feelings, like jealous, All negative feelings have a purpose and thats why they exsists. At time we should be honest with out negative feelings also..
Edited by akvats01 - 13 years ago
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Posted: 13 years ago
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Originally posted by: tinoo

My point is this -- phooli and bharat did have an intimate physical relationship -- and they did give birth to a child together ... so phooli definitely has some emotional investment in the rleationship --

but when they went to court to get the child back -- and the judge ordered phooli to be given the child --
phooli got up and walked over to bharat's side of the courtroom -- she was directly facing bharat, his wife, and her ex-mother in law --
she too could have held the child, then looked longingly at bharat crying for the relationship they once had -- etc.
but she was dignified, she never once looked at any of the three -- she picked up the child from bharat's wife's lap, held it close to her cheek, TURNED HER BACK ON BHARAT ... and walked away. 👏👏👏👏👏👏

When Jagat demanded property in exchange of divorce, didn't Anandi too slap him? Did she show any kind of hesitation?
You are comparing too different cases!
Phooli knows ki that man never loved her. She was used for a purpose!
Was Anandi used for anything? No! Jagya did love her before he turned into Jagat! She mourns the lost love and friendship that existed truely.. That was not a staged drama.
She too has shown her back to Jagat, the person who cheated her..no soft corners for him!
Anandi has a good and bad past originating from the same person.
Phooli has only the bad one. Even if she thinks of their romance etc, she wont be happy, because she knows that was all just drama!

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