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srijay

@srijay

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Posted: 13 years ago

#11

Originally posted by: tinoo

except that those are not anandi's emotions. I would also appreciate it if they showed her thinking memories of her own lost childhood -- things she wanted to do -- go to school, pursue hobbies whatever -- and those were all quashed.

I would appreciate it if they showed her crying tears over her betrayal etc...memories of how he did not acknowledge her as his wife but as a distant relative etc. etc.

But all they show is clips of her and jagya having fun and she is thinking highly of him ... and grieving over losing this great loverboy ... she is not thinking (atleast from the clips) that she wasted time on an unworthy being.

Agreed they did not show it today, but in a few previous episodes, Anandi did remember jagya's taunts and torture! Another point on the side is, Jagya is not entirely responsible for Anandi not going to school, lost childhood.. but he was responsible for emotionally hurting and disrespecting her AFTER they grew up.

It is not easy to get out of a relationship.. and it is difficult to think rationally when we are breaking a relationship!

Edited by srijay - 13 years ago

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tinoo

@tinoo

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Posted: 13 years ago

#12

Okay, I will be brutally honest ...

This '18 year relationship' is actually a '14 year relationship'

Anandi never had much of a relationship with the adult jagya after he went to college... and whatever little relationship they had consisted of him abusing her as gawar on his visits home from college -- she was gawar because of her masala smells, she was gawar because of her cooking food with oodles of gheee and the relationship totally disappeared on the day her 10th std results came out.

Remember they had that big showdown about his not wanting her to study further ... and she yelling at him and saying she would study. Then he ran out in the middle of the night.

The next morning dadisa said he had left.

After that incident there was a three year leap -- and the announcer/voiceover explaining what happened in that leap said that in the next three years jagya never came home during his vacations -- the next scene after the leap is when jagya suddenly calls sumitra to say he has become a doctor.

so there was a three year gap where he never came home and he never spoke to anandi on the phone... after that jagya came home for two days after his m.s.; he yelled at parents about the hospital they had built for him and said he wanted to live in mumbai; then he left again... and after that his active illtreatment of anandi began ...by telling her not to come to mumbai, by insulting her as a 'mitti ka ghada'... etc.

Now it has been one more year of just indifference, using her and abuse...

So to see her still crying after 4 years of solid abandonment and another two years of limited abuse before that in his vacations seems a little odd to me today ... by now, it should just have been a formality that is all.

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Khushi Ghai

@Khushi.

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+ 2

Posted: 13 years ago

#13

@AnjanaYYZ-Hey,

I have seen quite a few episodes of those 1000+ episodes to have a clear idea of how the relation of Anandi and Jagya was. I can figure out how much she was hurt in this whole journey..we've seen that.

To have been abandoned even though after repeated attempts makes you weak BUT it does make you strong aswell, strong enough to stand for your own dignity. Her emotional breakdown is understandable,i mentioned that but isnt the emotional breakdown too much?? So much of crying for a man who ditched you? Frankly, even a painful breakup in not painful if your partner cheats you!!The good memories haunt you..they hurt you..they make you remember stuff but with them haunts the bad things also..with them haunts the fact that this break up was because of a infidelty and if one cries for a cheating husband and also asks for help on how to forget him then. I might be too immature in saying this but really i would always stand up and clap for a woman who would stand up and slap her cheating husband and always live with a teaching in her mind of not to ever remember such a man who ditched her..and ditched her THIS way. How does those sweet memories , those helping days by Jagya , those husband and wife good moments even have any existence or importance after such a drastic end?

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AnjanaYYZ

@AnjanaYYZ

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Posted: 13 years ago

#14

Some folks just see the overtly obvious and/or think memory is like blackboard and we just need duster of reason 😳

She obviously has issues about her stolen childhood and bal vivah varna should would not screeched at those kids yesterday. They reminded her of all she invested into this relationship...all she surrendered to it including her childhood.

Her efforts to deal with her memories including good ones is there in her query to Daadisa.

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santhisaj

@santhisaj

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Posted: 13 years ago

#15

I can understant why Anandi is upset and crying etc etc. But any woman with self respect will not look at the way she is looking at Jagya in the court. I know she feels rejected by him, and it is hurting her because she is loved by all others. but show some self respect. He told you so many times he is in love with another woman. What do you want? Be his keep - second wife? He will do that if he was not scared of Gauri and his father. This charecter of Anandi who preaches and teaches self respect to all women around her, try showing it .gauri has more self respect than her. Feeling sad, rejected and she still loving Jagya - that is all right, because you can not wipe love and memories off. But why do the character is shown of no self respect? Loving a person, does not mean you do not have self respect. They destroyed this character completely. What is she? Anyone better than the so called "keep" Gauri?

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tinoo

@tinoo

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Posted: 13 years ago

#16

Originally posted by: santhisaj
I can understant why Anandi is upset and crying etc etc. But any woman with self respect will not look at the way she is looking at Jagya in the court. I know she feels rejected by him, and it is hurting her because she is loved by all others. but show some self respect. He told you so many times he is in love with another woman. What do you want? Be his keep - second wife? He will do that if he was not scared of gauri and his father. This charecter of Anandi who preaches and teaches slef respect to all women around her, try showing it .gauri has more self respect than her. Feeling sad, rejected is all right and she still loves Jagya - but why do the character is shown of no self respect. Loving a person, does not mean you do not have self respect. They destroyed this character completely. What is she? anyone better than the so called keep Gauri?

yes 👏👏👏

by constantly crying in front of him, she is sending him a covert message "I still love you and if you ever decide to leave gauri, do please come back to me"

I wonder why she gives him the satisfaction of seeing her look soulfully into his eyes.

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Khushi Ghai

@Khushi.

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Posted: 13 years ago

#17

Originally posted by: avantikasharma1

Relations in love don't work that rationally...Its very difficult to forget someone. And Anandi right from start has loved him quite sincerely. In true love you cannot harm other person and also in love you cannot blameother person for your feelings. She really loves him 😭

You have called Anandi a strong woman, this is what she is, she is not bitter. I think she is in a process of forgetting Jagya, has come quite close to it! She will in due time, and Khusi to break a relation of 18 years is not a small thing. It was Jagya who distanced himself not anandi. I mean she still loved him, it was not like both fell out of love. So it will hurt.

Hey , You know even if they would have shown that both of them fell out of love mutually and Anandi still loves him i would have readily accepted her emotional breakdown and crying but this stage of their relation has arrived because of a extra marital affair by her husband , it has resulted becuase the man she loved fell in love with another woman , he cheated her...its hard to believe that she still loves him or cares about him. Its really hard for me to believe that even after a 10+ old relation and a 5+ old year cheating by your hubby you STILL cry for him and love him. I really dont find this acceptable and if i would have been Anandi's friend or her housemate i would have definetly adviced her to stop wasting her tears for a man like Jagya and instead think of how good it is that such a relation ended.

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AnjanaYYZ

@AnjanaYYZ

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Posted: 13 years ago

#18

Originally posted by: Khushi.
@AnjanaYYZ-Hey,

I have seen quite a few episodes of those 1000+ episodes to have a clear idea of how the relation of Anandi and Jagya was. I can figure out how much she was hurt in this whole journey..we've seen that.

To have been abandoned even though after repeated attempts makes you weak BUT it does make you strong aswell, strong enough to stand for your own dignity. Her emotional breakdown is understandable,i mentioned that but isnt the emotional breakdown too much?? So much of crying for a man who ditched you? Frankly, even a painful breakup in not painful if your partner cheats you!!The good memories haunt you..they hurt you..they make you remember stuff but with them haunts the bad things also..with them haunts the fact that this break up was because of a infidelty and if one cries for a cheating husband and also asks for help on how to forget him then. I might be too immature in saying this but really i would always stand up and clap for a woman who would stand up and slap her cheating husband and always live with a teaching in her mind of not to ever remember such a man who ditched her..and ditched her THIS way. How does those sweet memories , those helping days by Jagya , those husband and wife good moments even have any existence or importance after such a drastic end?

Khushi - I haven't been cheated nor have I cheated. I too would not stick with guy who cheated me. Goodbye and good riddance. But, my self worth would definitely take a hit. I would wonder if I was not attractive enough, didn't give of myself enough, etc. People like Jug point finger at world. People like A look to see if the flaw lies within.

As for memories and the power they have to hurt us - its reason v. emotion. Having not loved to the depths Anandi did, it would be easy for you or I to say the cheating should negate everything - obliterate all but anger. But, in reality its simply not that easy. And there is no magic potion that erases good memories just because you have bad ones as well.

And even if I go with your suggestion that she should be Angry then that anger stems from the hurt. And it might be healthier to release that hurt through tears vis a vis holding onto the Anger... which in the long run will leave us only bitter.

Crying is actually one of the healtiest things she is doing. Its needed for her to release all her pain and move on.

Edited by AnjanaYYZ - 13 years ago

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sumreen

@sumreen

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Posted: 13 years ago

#19

at one point of time she herself told Jagya that she cant think even in her worst dream that j will return to her .now what has happened why is she crying and giving jagya so much of importance i think she has become used to jagya n gauri's taunt's n may be she likes to shed tears for anything or everything

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Khusi

@khusi_*

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Posted: 13 years ago

#20

yeah anandi was sad...and jag was sad too...their emotion were exactly the same...

no matter what a person is bitter/sweet...or not in touch for many year..when the death news of that person came...the person related to that died man will ultimately shed 2 drops of tears ...specially when that was a long term relationship...

same with anandi-jag's relationship...its the mourning of the death of their relation...

jag is not in love ..nor anandi...

Edited by khusi_* - 13 years ago