Why are they showing her this way?

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Posted: 13 years ago
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Hello everyone,

One thing is just OUT of my understanding , WHY on earth is Anandi so sad about her her divorce? Why is she crying this way? For what? Does she want Jagya to return to her?? I am so SHOCKED at her behaviour. For me , Anandi has always been that strong woman who has a dignity and self -respect. For once i thought that fine, its ok..she is ending such a long relationship with her husband who cheated her..who insulted her..but then when she came to the Police Station she seemed so cared about Jagya??!! WHY?? How can you show a woman ..specially a woman like Anandi crying for a man like Jagya?

I am at a total FAIL to understand this behaviour, if at all anyone is able to analyse this behaviour of hers then PLEASE someone , explain it to me aswell!

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Posted: 13 years ago
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For the life of me I cant figure it out...
I guess they want to show her as a caring young woman who values relationships. 😕
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Originally posted by: tinoo

For the life of me I cant figure it out...

I guess they want to show her as a caring young woman who values relationships. 😕

Or maybe as this typical wife who will love her husband even though he cheated her,insulted her and did ALL the possible wrong things with her and NEVER even felt guilty for it..Jai ho Anandi ki..i can never be THIS good!!
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Posted: 13 years ago
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Khushi - I posted this by way of reply in your other thread as well:
2. Why is Anandi upset? I think you may need to watch the 1000+ episodes you missed or go through a painful break up to understand that. Its not just one thing:

a) She worked at every point to make her relationship with Jugia work. She's failed. That failure hurts. And somewhere on an emotional level that is devastation damage to her womanhood to have been abandoned.

b) she is worried that her ties to the Singh family ends with her relationship to Jug. That's not rational, but its an organic fear that she articulated to Sumitra yesterday. Its also something more then one poster has raised - why is she remaining with the singhs - are they still her family without this legal tie to Jugia? The scene with Sumi yesterday may not have garnered TRPs from fickle viewers but, it answered this question.

c) Hatred in her heart will leave no room for love because the opposite of love is not hate, its indifferent. Anyhow, Jugia is a toad, but he was also her window to the world during her childhood...there she lived through him. Moreover there are good memories between them not just bad. Multiple times that's he's saved her and even as an adult, he wasn't always abusive.

d) Even if we only see only the abuse - then her crying is cathartic - needed for the child that was oppressed and childhood lost, to give zubaan to the wife that often suffered stoically in silence.

I doubt I have the life experience or even understanding to grasp Anandi's pain. But, I do appreciate the CVs for what little I grasp of what they have tried to show through their portrayal of Anandi.
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Posted: 13 years ago
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To give a taste of reality!

As spectators/viewers/outsiders, we can easily understand - why cry over spilled milk or why cry for an undeserving person Jagya.. but, I think women cry more for - why did I put my emotions on an unworthy human being?

Let me add that its easy to nazar-andaaz a person's atrocities on us when we are in love... believe me, I am talking out of personal experience. Even the bad looks good.. very foolish, but true!!

I am sure once such people come out of their pain, they will also think the same - huh, wasted so many yrs on a loser! But, better late than never!


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Posted: 13 years ago
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I guess you wont understand until you have a relationship fail. I mean its natural to cry and grieve for a loss even one as unworthy as Jags. I mean they were together for a long time through good and bad times. Let her grieve. I mean she is after all human with human feelings and failings,
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Posted: 13 years ago
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Me too don't unferstand why is she is just crying crying and crying.

I thought after talking to sumi,usko kuch samjh me aaya hoga and felt better but nahi wahi rona
it seems that she is taking divorse for the sake of singhs only
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Posted: 13 years ago
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Originally posted by: srijay

To give a taste of reality!

As spectators/viewers/outsiders, we can easily understand - why cry over spilled milk or why cry for an undeserving person Jagya.. but, I think women cry more for - why did i put my emotions on a unworthy human being?

I am sure once people coem out of their pain, they will also think the same - wasted so many yrs on a loser!

except that those are not anandi's emotions. I would also appreciate it if they showed her thinking memories of her own lost childhood -- things she wanted to do -- go to school, pursue hobbies whatever -- and those were all quashed.
I would appreciate it if they showed her crying tears over her betrayal etc...memories of how he did not acknowledge her as his wife but as a distant relative etc. etc.
But all they show is clips of her and jagya having fun and she is thinking highly of him ... and grieving over losing this great loverboy ... she is not thinking (atleast from the clips) that she wasted time on an unworthy being.
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Posted: 13 years ago
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Originally posted by: Khushi.

Hello everyone,


One thing is just OUT of my understanding , WHY on earth is Anandi so sad about her her divorce? Why is she crying this way? For what? Does she want Jagya to return to her?? I am so SHOCKED at her behaviour. For me , Anandi has always been that strong woman who has a dignity and self -respect. For once i thought that fine, its ok..she is ending such a long relationship with her husband who cheated her..who insulted her..but then when she came to the Police Station she seemed so cared about Jagya??!! WHY?? How can you show a woman ..specially a woman like Anandi crying for a man like Jagya?

I am at a total FAIL to understand this behaviour, if at all anyone is able to analyse this behaviour of hers then PLEASE someone , explain it to me aswell!

Relations in love don't work that rationally...Its very difficult to forget someone. And Anandi right from start has loved him quite sincerely. In true love you cannot harm other person and also in love you cannot blameother person for your feelings. She really loves him 😭
You have called Anandi a strong woman, this is what she is, she is not bitter. I think she is in a process of forgetting Jagya, has come quite close to it! She will in due time, and Khusi to break a relation of 18 years is not a small thing. It was Jagya who distanced himself not anandi. I mean she still loved him, it was not like both fell out of love. So it will hurt.
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Posted: 13 years ago
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nice post...
even I was wondering the same...
their relationship is long over and Jagya has moved on long time ago... he married the woman he claims to love and she almost had his baby...and they are still together...
then what is it thats making it so difficult for her to go thru this divorce, ending something thats long dead and gone...
yes one understand that she married him when she was just a kid and since then she has loved him and always dreamnt of spending the rest of her life with him... its difficult to forget ur first love and that too who was her husband too... but hasnt she gone thru enough because of him and hasnt she faced enough humiliation due to him and hasnt she had enough time to get over him... then why cry so much again over this dead relationship...
The only explanation I can give is maybe it is just regret over what could have been... A feeling of disappointment or distress about something that one wishes could be different... a last cry from within questioning why this happened...though she already knew that they were going thru a divorce, its maybe, the finality of it all which once again brings back the pain of having loved and lost...

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