Shiv's state of mind - Page 2

Originally posted by: liv2laugh

I think Shiv has put himself on the back burner because he is more concerned about Anandi's state of mind because he knows she is suffering much more than he is. He will not make any more moves that might upset her, especially after he learned about her state of mind from her family today.

Shiv is Anandi's well wisher first and foremost and he likes her a lot and respects her. So he signals his willingness to wait for her to change her mind. So his decision to marry Anandi is made and he is not changing his mind. He will wait for her come around because in some corner of his mind her believes she will once she has had enough time to heal.

The scene I loved today was his touching daadisa's feet. This broke the ice. This clearly showed that he does not hold Daadisa responsible for what happened. Even thought Anandi insulted him, he did not take offense. His understanding nature is perhaps what will ultimately swing Anandi. Anandi is an extremely complicated person and until she falls in love, Shiv will have to handle her with kid gloves. His ability to empathize with her, his understanding and his caring will be what ultimately brings Anandi around.

Originally posted by: AnjanaYYZ

shridevigaddam - spot on. mate! Post-divorce, Shiv needs to give her stern dhaat. She needs to wallow, but not too too much.

As for Shiv - he's definitely down, but far from out. I loved his dialogue that it didn't really hurt even though it did hurt. ('bura laag kar bhi bura nahi lagah because he understands what she must be feeling) He's already protective of her even against her family. He was defending her as much as them and was clear that her consent was mandatory. I think if he had to, he would fight for her right to remain single forever if he believed that is what she truly wants.

Originally posted by: anjana.d

i feel with all that se ha hidden away in her heart for him , there is much more than just a rebuttal he woudl get 😉.

a woman like anandi does not envisage a person as her surya badal for nothing. oh yes she would fall for him mdly, truly and deeply.or is it truly madly deeply humm.

Originally posted by: anjana.d

i agree with the major part of ur post. but no the last part. i hope i have no tlost any hidden meanings in purely semantic interpretations but do i read ur saying jagat's accusations for her were true?

anandi stayed back out fo love for her adopted family, she dsnt consider it as any compensation. she is afraid to venture out of her safe zone ie a family she is well adjusted to. in her sheos anyy woman would be wary to find a new sasural and make all the more newer adjustments. an entir elifetime spent only in adjsutments? 17 years were nto enough or what of doing that that she needs more of it?

we know shiv is rght, dadisa knows shiv is right , bhairon knows shiv is right, but his family?

thats an X factor which is unseen till now. if anandi is wary it is of beign treated like a bahu all over again.

seriously i dont see anandi anywhere at fault.the girls put up with so much she needs a break! maybe her rant but then she is not rational hell how can she be?

Originally posted by: shridevigaddam

Likewise I got confused by your views. Am seriously in not a mood to bestow sympathy on Anandi more than what she deserves.

A girl gets abandoned by her husband. Her parents come to pick her up. She refuses to go and stays with her in-laws.

Does it not bring upon all kind of personal and societal complications to honor relationships in their true manner.

Fine. Let me be called obtuse and not understanding. I fail to see love and bonding.

But period. I accept as things are. The girl gets to stay with in-laws and soon starts being treated as daughter.

So what, after the divorce now, should Jagadish and Anandi become brother and sister ?

I went through a divorce. So I understand the feeling around re-marriages, especially the arranged ones. So from that point what Anandi is doing is not wrong. I appreciate her handling herself on self-advancement through education and public service as career.

But if you ask me. The way she is handling her life without a marriage is not correct. The way she did not completely fall out of love for her family is unreal for me. A heart devoid of love(after it got brutally betrayed) is not capable of appreciating love. That should be Anandi's state. But the very fact that she has not stopped loving her-in-laws it means she sticks on to her non-functional marriage.This is where I am upset with this character. Does she even want to collect her life ? Does she think she has entire life-time to fix herself up ?

And is she even thinking of life beyond divorce. What was she doing this entire 6 month period. Did she even review what new dynamics will result post divorce. Oh! I forget. She never wanted to divorce. It is her Dadisa who wanted this. Moron!!!!!

My sincere apologies if I have hurt other forum members emotions. However I stand by firmly with my above opinion on Anandi.