will Jagya realize Anandis value ever

Originally posted by: tinoo

My sense of it is this :

while we see anandi as "helping" jagya, in reality it was clearly a case of anandi doing certain things for him which he should have been doing for himself, or covering up for him when she shouldnt have accomodated certain behaviour.

Real help is when you help the other person achieve something themselves. It then fosters in them a sense of self-efficacy, which is so important for every human being ... to know that they themselves have the "magic" within them...

In most if not all cases, though it looks like anandi is "helping" jagya, for him, it seems that her help rarely empowered him in an authentic way -- rather he began to resent it -- it is always through anandi that bapusa agrees for anything -- and its like jagya's own voice is snuffed out and not respected... and what this led to was a lot of covert resentment within jagya... he sort of became like a child, and anandi his mommy... and all the "magic" that occurred through him was never because of hm but because of anandi ... it really robbed him of his self-efficacy though he acquired the achievements.

Consequently, he doesnt really see her as the "giver" of something of value which is important if we are to value someone ... he sees her as the "taker" of his self-efficacy.

Originally posted by: moonriver

While we all want Shiv and Anandi to be married, JAgys resolve to reform himself seemed to be to prove a point to Gauri and nobody else. His redemption if it happens is for the wrong reason. Will he ever be made to realize Anandis value. He doesnt seem to remember anything she ever did for him. Not that I ever want him to try and get close to Anandi...when he realizes she should be out of reach for him.