Gauri too shud be taught a lesson!! - Page 3

no tanvi we are saying just taht. She is getting her punishment by marrying that loser.

Originally posted by: Suchi-Virmanian

true , I agree..

Gauri's punishment is

a) Jagya himself

b) when jagya will leave her , the feeling of rejection will be punishment for her

She cannot handle rejection

as of professionally , she is fine. she works hard so she is getting what she deserves but for personally I think she is going to be alone and thats going ot be her punishment

I can't agree that she is fine as a professional ! It can't be - such kind of selfish person, with such strong EGO can't be good doctor - How she could have empathy for her patients if she is so selfish ? How at all someone like her, with evil inside her soul could be at all DOCTOR and plus GOOD ONE and professional. Maybe she learn the books, practice as well, but she is not good person, so she can't be at all, and specially in that profession !! So, the worse punishment for her would be failure on professional plan - that she deserve, to loose such husband like J is not punishment for her, he is only her ballast, like she is carrying him on her back, but to lose on professional plan, that would be the real punishment for her !!😡😡

Originally posted by: avantikasharma1

Getting married to Jagiya was enough punishment , though it will take some time for Madam to realize this 😆.

On a more serious note Gauri doesn't have the qualities of patience and empathy. She cannot understand whats going on other person' mind. Only way she can have a sucessful marriage is in having a very patient husband. Her husband has to understand that she is a career woman who wants to be very successful in her field. In stature she may even end up being one of the top professionals. She cannot end up having a husband with such a fragile ego. I am sure even if Jagiya was MS, he wouldn't have tolerated her high position. (But during MS he was quite comfortable with her achievements! So I can't say 😊)

But patience is not enough, any successful relationship also involves the idea of love and respect for other person. And this goes for both man and woman. If your husband/ wife are adjusting with you for your career, you can be thankful and good to them. At least you can acknowledge that. It only spreads positive vibes in a relationship 😊. But Gauri is not that type. She takes other person's adjustment for granted. He should do it. Thats her attitude!! It will make anyone feel neglected and being taken for granted. This attitude was clearly seen in during her MS days. She would not acknowledge adjustment of Jagiya. She was doing some extra work at the hospital, so Jagya was managing everything. The previous day she asked Jagiya to get clothes from dry cleaner. Since Jagiya had come late at night,he didn't get it. But he offered to get it as soon as he realized it. Instead of letting him go, she began lecturing him. 😲 It was then Jagiya blurted out that he has been adjusting for a week, looking at other aspects of house (though it suits you boy, I have to applaud his cooperation). They began quarelling and it only stopped when gauri's parents came suddenly in the room.

The other problem with Gauri is that she only wants to see the sunny side of a person. She expects them to be 24 hrs happy. If she sees any one depressed she cannot encourage them or comfort them . It again boils down to one thing patience, which she doesn't have 😆. I think is such situations we should leave other person alone, allow them to do their thing, give them space and at times speak few encouraging words. But not insult them. Yes we do have to be patient with their irritating moods. Its just natural to feel angry in such times.

In my view Gauri is just too professional. It important to dedicate one's time to career, but it is also important to acknowledge your close friends and family. This also goes for men. Haven't we heard of businessmen who spend large amout of their time on earning money only to regret it later? They neglected their family thinking money is just more than enough for their wives and children.

As paulo coelho puts it in Zahir:

"

That day, I had lunch with a friend who had just got divorced and she said to me: 'Now I
can enjoy the freedom I've always dreamed of having.' But that's a lie. No one wants that
kind of freedom: we all want commitment, we all want someone to be beside us to enjoy
the beauties of Geneva, to discuss books, interviews, films, or even to share a sandwich
with because there isn't enough money to buy one each. Better to eat half a sandwich
than a whole one. 👏 Better to be interrupted by the man who wants to get straight back
home because there's a big game on TV tonight or by the woman who stops outside a
shop window and interrupts what we were saying about the cathedral tower, far better
that than to have the whole of Geneva to yourself with all the time and quiet in the world
to visit it."

But :

" Being with someone else and making that person feel as if they are of no importance in our life is far worse than feeling alone and miserable in the streets of Geneva"

Paulo Coelho in Zahir (pp 250-251)

So I think Gauri may end up being alone because failure of her marriage is being too professional and having no respect for other person. She cannot have a successful marriage. She is only career oriented, lacking serious interpersonal and people management skills. Latter pointed out by Ash 😊

As for future track prediction, I donot know what CV's have in their mind. Either Jagiya will leave her on knowing her lies and intrigues, and how she has been rubbing on him that she is selfmade!( He already thinks she has used him, so when the truth will come out, he will be shocked 😲). Or I think Gauri may end up dumping him 😆😆. But she will be left alone because of her behaviour. So the same profession of which she is proud of, may end up giving her a biggest punishment- loneliness.

Originally posted by: woman11

A suffering becomes repentance only when the person going through it sees it as a punishment for her sins, feels guilty and rectifies herself as a better human being.

However a suffering becomes a way to self-love when the person going through it sees it as an unfair deal, feels wronged against and wallows in self pity.

I guess many members here, when they ask for Gauri's punishment, want to see her suffering as a repentance. Gauri's sufferings have never lead to repentance on her part for the things she has done---instead Gauri has increasingly claimed self-pity, a victim status for herself and a self-congratulatory attitude. It is not her suffering per se that people want to see but rather her repentance. And till now, none of her moments of suffering has taught her an iota of repentance😊.

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Well said Anatara, Exactly what I feel. Neither that mistress repented nor mended her ways. She still is in crocodile hug,smile,tears mode. Until and unless she snaps back, people who want her to be punished won't let go. She didn't even have an iota of shame projecting herself as a victim despite being a successful doctor whereas Anandi on the other hand never encourages anyone to see her as a victim.

That #$%^&monger is her choice. No one pushed it on her. She herself embraced crap and now she wants pity????? How funny 😆

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first of all what hardships jagya is facing today is due his own foolishness,he dint had to misbehave with his senior doctors ,there is some code of conduct when you are working under someone else.I dont ever think gauri can behave like that with her seniors.Whatever she is getting is what she deserves ,she worked hard ,she got her results.How can one say she should not get what she deserves.secondly no study in the world can be accomplished without patience .So i dont think she lacks in it.but she is not like anandi who would take shit from jagya ,I think we had problem with anandi taking shit but today we have problem gauri refusing to take bullshit.For me ,gauri doesnt lack anything ,i think gauri never showed any attitude ,regarding MS ,infact she only would tell him for his good for his career ,for their relationship,but for jagya she was an enemy whom he would get jealous ,now only remedy would be gauri to leave her job ,or take mbbs job because jagya is man who cant tolerate women being more succesful him. As far punishment is concerned ,i think currently they are both getting punishment,they fought with entire world who were against them ,it was their dream to spend their life together but today they cant tolerate the sight of each other ,inst this punishment ,what they got?its just jagya s downfall but a downfall of gauri s dreams too.She also must be feeling upset since her hubby is working under her.Every women s dream is to have hubby equal to her status but did she ever said that she is feeling ashamed ,Just because you dont find her drinking like jagya doesnt mean she is very happy.

Originally posted by: tinoo

I think we are all multi-dimensional human beings -- and what looks good from one dimension does not necessarily encompass all the realms of our lives.

I agree with tanvi -- yes gauri is professionally successful, but her personal life cant be very pleasant -- she has and is suffering --

1. her husband doesnt really support her in terms of his family and at times does not recognize her - Yeah it's a pity that she chose to be with such a slime ball after knowing him for 5 yrs ,that too after knowing how well he cheated her during those 5yrs! What kind of girl she must be , to choose, fight ' and marry such a slime bag!!

2. the insults she received at the haveli cannot be very pleasant for a new bride -lol bride?? I have been still thinking that she is his mistress!!!

3. for a long time jagat has constantly referenced anandi and done some comparisons

this too has to be unpleasant. -Yeah , despite that, she manipulated and plotted to keep her beloved bhola bhala jagat with her in every way!! What a doormat she is!!

4. she has lost bade papa -- while it does not show in the scenes they have shown -- that too has to be unpleasant that someone who stood by her like a rock has also fallen away (not just his financial contribution ... but his disappointment in her) - During that time, i so wished her to recheck herself!! She never tried to understand such a man who had always been for her in her times of need!!! She was busy wallowing in self pity!!

5. her own parents have no relation with the in-laws ... can you imagine how unpleasant that must be from a long-term perspective? - Yeah they must have been prepared for that from the moment they decided to marry off their daughter secretly w/o informing the in-laws, despite being aware of the whole situation!

6. her own husband has no respect for the fact that even after all his carelessness, she has provided him with comfort of sitting at home and giving undivided attention to his exams. He just keeps on abusing her. - Ummm..true!! Again that was her choice 😛

7. Right now he keeps accusing her of using him -- that too has to be something that hurts a person's soul... - I wish Gauri had not turned into a complete mistress by aiming for J's properties keeping aside her legality of marriage issue!! Then maybe, her dearest slimebag would never have had got the chance to accuse her of using him?

8. Her husband never took a stand to divorce his first wife on his own, to give gauri security. He only did it when bapusa shoved the papers in his face, and when it was easy for him. - yeah i really expected gauri to leave him in a no-choice situation, saying "if u love me , prove me by divorcing ur wife and making me ur legal wife" But no!! she never said that!! Maybe at the bottom of her heart, she thinks that he might leave her and go away?? She stooped low by trying some other mean ways to get her job done and failed! Also, even after they got the opportunity to divorce Anandi, she focused more on grabbing the property ...she tried to use that situation too!That made me wonder, if being a legal wife was ever a concern for her? Probably she is comfortable being a mistress?

seriously mujhe vishwas nahi ho raha ki jo tanvi tapsya ko dislike karti hai uski negativity ki wajah se aur iccha ki supporter hai wohi tanvi yahaan gauri ko like karti hai

I was a HUGE tapasya fan. 😆😆😆

mera to opinion tapsya ke baare mein fluctuate hota rehta hai .jub tuk usne veer ke liye drama nahi create kiya tub mera opinion uske liye positive tha phir jub usne drama create kiya to tapsya ke liye mera opinion negative ho gaya phir jub saanchi aur satya ke case jub usne iccha se dosti ki satya ko sabak sikhane ke liye to phir se mera uske prati opinion postive ho gaya pur jub usne pregancy ke maamle mein jhooth bola mera phir se uske prati negative opinion ho gaya aur jub woh shuk karti thi ki mere husband rathod aur iccha ke beech affair chal raha hai woh bhi naani ki baaton mein aakur to mera aur uske prati negative opinion ho gaya .pur jub damini ne divya ki jaan bachhai aur jub tapsya iccha ko sorry bolne jaati hai tub mera opinion uske prati phir se positive ho gaya .phir to woh sid ke blackmailing ki wajah se chali gayi ab dekhten hain agar woh phir se waapas aati hai to uska behaviour kaisa usi ke aadhar pe mera opinion hoga .