Getting married to Jagiya was enough punishment , though it will take some time for Madam to realize this 😆.
On a more serious note Gauri doesn't have the qualities of patience and empathy. She cannot understand whats going on other person' mind. Only way she can have a sucessful marriage is in having a very patient husband. Her husband has to understand that she is a career woman who wants to be very successful in her field. In stature she may even end up being one of the top professionals. She cannot end up having a husband with such a fragile ego. I am sure even if Jagiya was MS, he wouldn't have tolerated her high position. (But during MS he was quite comfortable with her achievements! So I can't say 😊)
But patience is not enough, any successful relationship also involves the idea of love and respect for other person. And this goes for both man and woman. If your husband/ wife are adjusting with you for your career, you can be thankful and good to them. At least you can acknowledge that. It only spreads positive vibes in a relationship 😊. But Gauri is not that type. She takes other person's adjustment for granted. He should do it. Thats her attitude!! It will make anyone feel neglected and being taken for granted. This attitude was clearly seen in during her MS days. She would not acknowledge adjustment of Jagiya. She was doing some extra work at the hospital, so Jagya was managing everything. The previous day she asked Jagiya to get clothes from dry cleaner. Since Jagiya had come late at night,he didn't get it. But he offered to get it as soon as he realized it. Instead of letting him go, she began lecturing him. 😲 It was then Jagiya blurted out that he has been adjusting for a week, looking at other aspects of house (though it suits you boy, I have to applaud his cooperation). They began quarelling and it only stopped when gauri's parents came suddenly in the room.
The other problem with Gauri is that she only wants to see the sunny side of a person. She expects them to be 24 hrs happy. If she sees any one depressed she cannot encourage them or comfort them . It again boils down to one thing patience, which she doesn't have 😆. I think is such situations we should leave other person alone, allow them to do their thing, give them space and at times speak few encouraging words. But not insult them. Yes we do have to be patient with their irritating moods. Its just natural to feel angry in such times.
In my view Gauri is just too professional. It important to dedicate one's time to career, but it is also important to acknowledge your close friends and family. This also goes for men. Haven't we heard of businessmen who spend large amout of their time on earning money only to regret it later? They neglected their family thinking money is just more than enough for their wives and children.
As paulo coelho puts it in Zahir:
"
That day, I had lunch with a friend who had just got divorced and she said to me: 'Now I
can enjoy the freedom I've always dreamed of having.' But that's a lie. No one wants that
kind of freedom: we all want commitment, we all want someone to be beside us to enjoy
the beauties of Geneva, to discuss books, interviews, films, or even to share a sandwich
with because there isn't enough money to buy one each. Better to eat half a sandwich
than a whole one. 👏 Better to be interrupted by the man who wants to get straight back
home because there's a big game on TV tonight or by the woman who stops outside a
shop window and interrupts what we were saying about the cathedral tower, far better
that than to have the whole of Geneva to yourself with all the time and quiet in the world
to visit it."
But :
" Being with someone else and making that person feel as if they are of no importance in our life is far worse than feeling alone and miserable in the streets of Geneva"
Paulo Coelho in Zahir (pp 250-251)
So I think Gauri may end up being alone because failure of her marriage is being too professional and having no respect for other person. She cannot have a successful marriage. She is only career oriented, lacking serious interpersonal and people management skills. Latter pointed out by Ash 😊
As for future track prediction, I donot know what CV's have in their mind. Either Jagiya will leave her on knowing her lies and intrigues, and how she has been rubbing on him that she is selfmade!( He already thinks she has used him, so when the truth will come out, he will be shocked 😲). Or I think Gauri may end up dumping him 😆😆. But she will be left alone because of her behaviour. So the same profession of which she is proud of, may end up giving her a biggest punishment- loneliness.
Edited by avantikasharma1 - 13 years ago
Members Lounge
CID
